7 Steps to Bonding with Your Stepchild Author:Suzen J. Ziegahn Practical, realistic, and upbeat advice--from sharing a bathroom to initiating conversations--for people who "inherit" children along with a new spouse. The success or failure of a stepparent to bond with stepchildren can make or break a new marriage. But this book has a refreshing message--it is possible to achieve longlasting, rewarding rela... more »tionships with your new children.
Most stepparents feel caught in a bind because in order to connect with their stepchild, they have to reach out--but not too much, too little, or too deliberately. And relationships with stepchildren are inherently different from those with biological children who love their parent unconditionally. But these 7 basic steps will give you the essentials, from deciding what kind of stepparent you want to be to realizing that love comes later.« less
If you're about to take the plunge into a ready made family be prepared. This book will give you some heads-up of what to expect and perhaps how to avoid making mistakes that be difficult to undo between you and the child(ren).
If you're already into a family marriage and want to make good connections with your new family members then this book may just be the ticket to help you build a solid foundation of trust and understanding between you and the child(ren).
I confess to not being able to get through this book. The author writes in such a dry, stale tone I found reading the entire book too painful an undertaking. I was so hopeful with the title: "7 Steps..." I was looking forward to some practical information I could apply and actually put into action to better my relationship with my stepchild. Instead, there is dry, staged dialogue (sp?) that doesn't mimic how a biological child would react to thier bio parent, much less a realistic example of how a stepparent can expect to communicate with a stepchild. Very disappointing. If you are a stepparent, or you know a stepparent please spare them the drudgery of this book. I definitely recommend they check out Sally Bjornsen's sassy read for stepmoms, though (maybe that was my mistake...reading a great book on stepparenting first, and then reading this one second...maybe my expectations were raised).