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Subject: Is it against the rules?
Date Posted: 6/18/2011 6:38 AM ET
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Maybe if it had been a snake it would've bit me, but I can't find anywhere in the rules that addresses whether or not I can contact someone out of the blue to make a deal for multiple titles on their shelf. 

I was browsin' somebody's bookshelf and saw several I would be interested in, but I don't see where she's ever posted in the book bazaar.  First, is it allowed and second, would it be considered rude?

I'm still new and any advice would be appreciated.

Date Posted: 6/18/2011 6:47 AM ET
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It's allowed, but keep in mind that if they are new or aren't active on the forums, they may not be aware of the concept of a deal and might think you are trying to scam them...word your request carefully, and don't be upset if there is no response or a negative one.

Cheryl

Date Posted: 6/18/2011 6:57 AM ET
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I appreciate your swift response and sound advice.  Thanks.

Date Posted: 6/18/2011 9:27 AM ET
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Its kind of hiddin' in the weeds over there in the Book Bazaar tips at the end of the "How to use this forum..." thread.

(5) If a member asks you for a deal and you haven't offered one, this is not considered rude; it is also not considered rude to refuse. This kind of thing should be handled politely, without hard feelings on either side. 

Date Posted: 6/18/2011 10:20 AM ET
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I often pm to ask for deals,  I am totally surprised by the number of member who pm back saying "What is a Deal". Some have been members for a few years and some are new, I always try to explain and then refer them to the book bazaar.

 

 

Date Posted: 6/18/2011 10:39 AM ET
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Also make the deal offer good for both of you. I wouldn't PM someone and ask them for 3 or 4 for 1.  That probably wouldn't be enough to even cover the postage.

Date Posted: 6/18/2011 12:11 PM ET
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I always make it clear when I ask for a deal that I will not get my feelings hurt if they say no so that they know I'm not trying to scam them or pressure them into anything.

Date Posted: 6/18/2011 12:49 PM ET
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(5) If a member asks you for a deal and you haven't offered one, this is not considered rude; it is also not considered rude to refuse.  Seems to be my week to say this, but "I hadn't seen that before" Melanie!  Sums it up nicely tho.  

I've never been a boxer or offered a deal, but I personally wouldn't be offended if someone suggested a deal . . . if it was worded politely & a reasonable offer (as Mary said).  And (like Sarah mentioned) leave room for them to gracefully decline if they wish. 



Last Edited on: 6/18/11 12:49 PM ET - Total times edited: 1
Date Posted: 6/18/2011 12:56 PM ET
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I randomly look at my friends Wishlists when I have a bunch of books ready to post in case I can save postage by sending several to one person, I do the same when I get a request from my bookshelf too.  I always PM first to make sure they have the credits available or are interested right now.   As long as you're polite and explain your reasoning everything should be fine.  I've never had anyone upset with me for asking.

Date Posted: 6/18/2011 4:27 PM ET
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I think I'll send a link to the this thread too.  You guys are the bomb.  Thanks again.