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Subject: The agony of parting with keeper books....
Date Posted: 1/28/2008 6:49 PM ET
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I have possibly over 200 keeper books and I know that I will never read them all again...but can't find it in my heart to list them.

Does anyone else have this problem, and is there a support group for it (LOL)

Any suggestions?

Date Posted: 1/28/2008 6:53 PM ET
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I have a lot of keepers that are piling up all over, but I also just can't bring myself to list a lot of them.  There are some that I know I will read again soon, and others I am not sure when.  I have discovered that I am more willing to consider posting a former keeper if my local library has a copy, so at least if I decide I want to read it again, I know I can check it out.  I feel guilty at times esp when I really enjoyed a book, b/c I want others to read and also enjoy it, but I'm loathe to let it go!

Date Posted: 1/28/2008 6:53 PM ET
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I have quite a few keepers too Denise.  Every once in a while I re-read them and really, if they don't just knock my socks off AGAIN, I post them.  Its hard to do but sometimes you find that what you THOUGHT was a keeper really isn't - it was just really good at that time.

Sherri

Date Posted: 1/28/2008 6:57 PM ET
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I know...I have been doing alot of re reading lately and some have gone up that I didn't think would.  But everytime I look at that shelf.....it seems to get bigger not smaller.

Of course 97% are Romance...and if you find a really good one you just don't want to let it g.



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Date Posted: 1/28/2008 7:21 PM ET
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I hve the same problem..I have some that I think I'll part with eventually but others i DO re-read or just want to keep because I liked them so much. I was keeping everyting (and still am unfortunately) but I'm running out of space and think I should let some stuff go unless I really like it. but there are some that I won't part with..took me too long to find replacements and one I still haven't found but can't remember the title or the author...

Date Posted: 1/28/2008 7:26 PM ET
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I used to think I had to keep EVERYTHING but I'm learning to pare it down.  I have a very long-term goal of just having keeper books on my bookshelves and getting rid of the boxes of them I have stashed all over the place.  I'm slowly working my way there but I know it'll take a while.  It's hard to part with some of them but if I haven't read it again it usually can go.

Date Posted: 1/28/2008 7:33 PM ET
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I keep mine in banker boxes stored in the garage.  Every couple of months I'll go through a binge and grab a box a re-read a bunch.  In that process, I'll recycle a few each time that I just can't remember why I have it in the box.  Lucky for me, we have a 4.5 car garage with a second floor so I have plenty of room for my keepers. 

Date Posted: 1/28/2008 7:49 PM ET
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gosh I'm glad to know i'm not the only one with boxes all over the place LOL! my car is full too..

Date Posted: 1/28/2008 9:40 PM ET
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I went out and bought a set of those rubbermaid plastic stackable drawers to store all of my keepers in.  At first, I had a set of the med-sized 3 drawer ones, then two, and then three....  Now I have the jumbo size, I think 3 sets of 3 drawers each, snapped together to make one tall unit, and it's about stuffed full.  And that's just the keepers and TBR stuff.  The couple hundred that are on my PBS shelf ,or about to be, have drawers all their own.  I can remember the day when I used to look at that single set of drawers and think I had too many books.  It couldn't have been maybe 50 total.  Seems sorta hilarious now that I even noticed them.

Date Posted: 1/28/2008 9:48 PM ET
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I have 3 6-shelf bookshelves specially sized for paperback books.  Plus 2 smaller bookshelves that're supposed to be for CDs and DVDs but only one little shelf of one of them has DVDs on it.  Then, there's 4 underbed storage boxes (the long ones) full and 3 crates full of books.

One of the underbed storage boxes has my posted books for PBS in it now and one of the crates is books of my mother's that I have posted on half.com so I'm getting there.  When I joined PBS everything was full of keeper books plus I had stacks all over the place of stuff to be read.

Date Posted: 1/28/2008 9:56 PM ET
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I went through a phase where I kept just about everything I read, but that got to be too much! I whittled down my keepers so that now I only collect certain authors/series--these books tend to be ones I buy rather than get used. I like my keepers to be in really good shape! :)

Date Posted: 1/28/2008 10:40 PM ET
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My problem also used to be that I felt I had to keep every book by an author I like.  I finally got over that, even if I like the author, I may not like the book.  I try to now judge the book by the book and not the person that wrote it.  I only have one author now that I have to keep every book of but I do find myself re-reading them all the time so I figure that's okay.

I think we need a support group!

Date Posted: 1/28/2008 11:00 PM ET
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I use to keep more than I do now. I just look at my 300+ TBR pile and think: I'll never get around to rereading this with so many unread books. So I post it and send it on to a new home.  If I get desperate to reread one, then I can get it from the library or reorder it from PBS.  Of cours it helps having a move coming up.  I don't want to part with the unread books so I get rid of the already reads.

Date Posted: 1/28/2008 11:23 PM ET
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I used to keep almost everything and finally decided to only keep books I might reread.  It was cheaper to keep them than reacquire them.  No romances at the library here or used bookstores.  Now I go through them every year to see what no longer looks like something I want to reread and I let those go.  But after 35 years of reading romances my keepers are still somewhere around 3,000. My husband just shakes his head and builds bookcases.

edited to say that I used to think I had to have everything by a favorite author, too.  But now I am just keeping the ones that got me excited about that author in the first place.



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Date Posted: 1/28/2008 11:35 PM ET
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There was one person posting over at Romantic Times who has been reading romances much longer than I have.  She said she kept every single one of them.  NEVER parted with a book.  She moved recently and the man who owned the moving company told her that if she ever moved again to please not call them.

Date Posted: 1/29/2008 12:08 AM ET
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LOL!  I'd hate to have to ask someone to move just the stuff I have.  Can't even begin to imagine in the thousands... yet...  Sarah, I think a support group in our case would be B-A-D.  Like putting a bunch of shopaholics in a car together and expecting them to stay away from the mall...  What cracks me up is when women will put up Book Bazaar specials and say the hubby sez he's tired of looking at books gathering dust.  My reason for living and I have a running joke - I say if he's tired of watching them gather dust, he should probably dust more often.  The gateway to hell for me was the out of print & collectibles - which is what got me started shopping and bookhunting so heavy.  Most of those didn't come from here; anything I'm really, really dying for, I'm like #50 in line to get:P  Library sales and thrift stores worked ok for a while, and then PBS has been like throwing gas on the fire.  And I really had no idea when I started reading romances so heavy again that there were so darned many series.  I found this out the hard way with my bargain store books.  I'd get some and when I read them, found out I needed several more, and sometimes those weren't really easy to find.  The out of print stuff is obviously the worst.  PBS has been good for filling in the gaps in my series books, but unfortunately, I've also discovered a whole lot more of them.  I don't keep everything by authors I love anymore either - with a few exceptions.  Marsha Canham, Connie Brockway, Loretta Chase, Mary Balogh, and Judith Ivory.  These were more than just my favs, they were also the ones I had the hardest time finding, so I just hang on to them.  Some I may never read again, several I will.  I find myself in the mood for certain things by those authors I've read, sometimes more than once, and I'll go dig them out & read them again.

Date Posted: 1/29/2008 12:41 AM ET
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I just read that thing about the woman who never got rid of a book to my husband, so I could say "see, I'm not so bad!"

And truly, I'm not. But my keeper shelves do keep growing.  I had to ask my husband to build some shelves to go on top of my already huge bookcases!

Date Posted: 1/29/2008 6:31 AM ET
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Well...you guys make me feel better. My keepers only range somewhere in the hundreds, not the thousands ( although I would like to come over and go through your bookshelves) I have read thousands, but never kept them all.

 

Date Posted: 1/29/2008 8:40 AM ET
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I used to feel that way about my books.  I realized though that I almost never read my books again.  I also realized that having so many books around, and the need to keep them put away and organized, caused me a great deal of stress.

I used to hang on to my books so I could loan them to friends. Now I sort of see letting them go on PBS is also passing on the joy of the story to unknown friends online.

Date Posted: 1/29/2008 9:00 AM ET
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Too many books to read, too little time. I stopped keeping books because I wasn't rereading them. I just have too many books I haven't read and don't have time to reread. I think I have maybe 75 keepers now. It used to be a LOT more, but I realized there was no point in keeping them. Now I just pass them along especially if they are wishlisted books. I do have a bit of a classical collection, but that is more for making my bookshelf look intellectual :-) However, I have read most of the books on there, he he (being sarcastic) .



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Date Posted: 1/29/2008 12:10 PM ET
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This just convinces me more & more that I need to start listing some of my old collectibles on ebay or Amazon.  Maybe try to recoup some of the small fortune I've spent in aquiring a gazillion books.  So I can buy more, of course..:)  I sold my old Jean Plaidy collection back before Christmas when they were offering reduced selling fees etc. on ebay.  I only made a few bucks though, and it seemed like such a pain to take pictures, and writing an auction listing - ugh!  It took me two days to get it looking about halfway professional.  I always tell myself I can always ebay this, after I've bought some books I don't need.  Getting down to actually doing it though is a pain in the arse, IMO.

Date Posted: 1/29/2008 1:59 PM ET
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Selling on half.com is much, much easier than ebay.  I can't take the stress of ebay, myself.  I've made a fair bit of money selling there but every time I think, I never want to do this again.

Date Posted: 1/29/2008 2:05 PM ET
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I have no idea how to even start selling on half.com.  For some reason, I thought you had to be an established ebay seller or something, but I probably read that wrong when I looked at it.  I've toyed with the idea of selling some of the collectibles I have for some time, and I admit fixed price over auction is more attractive to me.  But I always thought that was primarily Amazon, and who wants to give them an arm & a leg to sell a book?   half.com always seems more reasonably priced from the buyer end.  I know I've gotten much better deals there than I have buying through Amazon.

Date Posted: 1/29/2008 3:32 PM ET
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I've gotten quite a few books at Half.com for under a dollar - its a great place to find books not on PBS if you're desperate.

Sherri

Date Posted: 1/29/2008 6:13 PM ET
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I don't know if anything's changed, but I sold on half.com long before I got up the nerve to try ebay. It's really simple, as long as the book is in their database.  All you need to do is pick your book's general condition (from new to acceptable), describe your book 's condition and price it. (They may suggest a price, but it's up to you.) And of course, package it and mail it when it's ordered.  No need to check back constantly, no need to upload pictures, no need to invoice buyers, no need to worry about whether your buyer is a flake.

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