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Subject: Another Buddy Question
Date Posted: 1/20/2009 8:07 PM ET
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Someone asked to be my buddy today. Ok, no problem, sure you can be my buddy. But then I wonder WHY do you want to be my buddy? And do you intend to ask me anything? Anything at all? Color me confused.

susan/vt

Date Posted: 1/20/2009 8:08 PM ET
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Maybe they like the books you have posted and want to order from you in the future.  Or, they see that you read a lot of the same books they do.  Maybe they've seen you post on the forums and liked what you had to say.

If you're really curious, ask them.

Date Posted: 1/20/2009 10:31 PM ET
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Hi Susan,

   I wondered the same thing when I got a request today.  I think I only have a few books posted right now, so it can't be my booklist.  I haven't been on the forums much, so it can't be that either. 

   Are there people out there who just ask everyone to be their buddy? 

   It also got my curiosity up and I went to my buddy list and I see at least 20 names.  I didn't add any that I know of, so where did all these names come from? 

   Another Susan

Date Posted: 1/20/2009 10:40 PM ET
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You must have your buddy list set to automatically accept buddy requests.  You wouldn't even get notified if someone new wanted to be your buddy then.

Do you play in the Games forum?  You end up with a lot of people on your buddy list that way.

Date Posted: 1/20/2009 11:16 PM ET
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Thanks, I will go check on that.  Does that mean that all these people are on my buddy list?  If so, I wonder why the one who just e-mailed me didn't go on automatically? 

Guess I will be looking into this...tomorrow. :)  Susie

Subject: Why I request buddies.
Date Posted: 1/21/2009 1:42 AM ET
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Susan,

I normally request that a person be a buddy when I get a book from them or when I send a book to them. When I have a book to post that has quite a few WL holds, I check the wish list of all my buddies to see if they want the book before I add it to the FIFO list. That way if one of them wants it, I can go into their wish list and post the book so they get it.

Some of my buddies do the same thing. It is kind of nice that you may sometimes get a book from a buddy before they put it in the general population. I have gifted credits to buddies and offered them deals on my books that I may not offer to everyone.

I have found that the majority of people on this site are extremely nice and generous. I want to be one of those and have buddies that feel special.

Anyway, that's just what I do. Others may request buddies for a whole different reason. It was a great question. Thank you.

Debi

Date Posted: 1/21/2009 11:12 AM ET
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Some people also PM the buddy at the same time that they ask to add them to the buddy list, which can be a nice way of saying hi, and here's why I want to be buddies.  Now when I add people I try to do the same thing so people don't think I'm a random book stalker!  I've had people add me because I offered a deal in the book bazaar and they wanted to be able to find my shelf again.  And I have added people who I have seen on some of the same topics in the discussion forums because I figure if we like the same books I can get more ideas from their wish lists.

Date Posted: 1/21/2009 11:35 AM ET
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Ditto all the above reasons. They may have also noticed that you have a high similarity percentage.

Date Posted: 1/21/2009 3:24 PM ET
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That is a good idea to tell the person why  you wanted to add them. 

I have not been on PBS for quite a while, and have a small shelf now, so I had no idea why someone is wanting me on a buddy list.  I have also been getting a lot of these type things from yahoo's grouply and most of them are just fishing for new members.  So, it does make you wonder why this person is e-mailing me. 

I hate to e-mail them and say, who are  you and why are you e-mailing me....lol   Susie

 

Date Posted: 1/21/2009 4:49 PM ET
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I've had people ask to be my buddy because they like the books I post and also I sell credits, and they're sometimes repeat 'customers' and want to keep the info on me.  Pat

Date Posted: 1/21/2009 7:36 PM ET
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Well, I've checked my transaction list and I have never sent or received books from her. She has 0 posts but that doesn't mean she doesn't like what I have to say. I checked her bookshelf and while we are 39% similiar, there were only a few books on her shelf that appealed to me. I guess the only way I will know is to ask.

susan/vt

Date Posted: 1/21/2009 7:49 PM ET
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Go for it Susan...then let me know what happens.  LOL  I am always afraid to make someone mad, so I usually just ignore the e-mail. 

The more I think about it, the more I believe it would only be considerate to just say to the person.  I like your bookshelf, or I saw your posts and wanted to add you as a buddy.  

Susie