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Subject: Anyone up for "support reading" ?
Date Posted: 12/22/2006 2:46 PM ET
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I have a dear friend whose son is in the process of a marriage that may be ending. I have spoken to her son in the past but I really only "know" him through his Mom. I am always amazed at his perseverance and his tackling what life hands him without a whimper. He is an extremely intelligent individual, a caring father, and just a darn nice man. I like how his mind works too. He has a "non-personal" Blog I have been reading for over a year. This new Blog is very different than his other Blog though.

I don't "do" Blog reading much. So many of them are so poorly done it is not worth the time wasted in reading them.  He has  recently started a "personal" new Blog called "Watch Me Heal ". This Blog is only about his journey, what he is working through while his marriage may be ending.

So, why put this in our forum?

I know from all the members who post in our little Forum {this includes members I have PO'd in my I agree, sometimes aggressive,  drive to not throw this forum back into the old L&R  Forum  "non-romance topics mainly" days} that romance readers read and learn very easily what is real and what is not in matters of the heart.

I have not read posts from a more enlightened group of romance readers on any romance Message Board or Forum anywhere else that I visit. Our members have differing opinions {thankfully} about books, their content, authors, but they are conveyed graciously, always.

Though its not fictional, this Blog is about romance. If anyone would like to read about his journey { he writes so well!}, comment if you want to, hopefully offer some input that may be from the heart and helpful, here is the link:

http://watchmeheal.blogspot.com/



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Date Posted: 12/22/2006 4:43 PM ET
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Date Posted: 12/22/2006 5:00 PM ET
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Diane~I can't thank you enough for sharing this with us. I went on and read his blog and I can't tell you how it touched my heart. I have left him a comment and I hope to leave more. He sounds like a wonderful man and I hope he finds some happiness.
Date Posted: 12/22/2006 7:05 PM ET
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Thank you for that, i guess i  had always just assumed men didn't take break ups as hard as women do.Breaks my heart seeing him pleading for HER to take HIM back as if he was the one at total fault,when it sounds like SHE left him.The part about her Thyroid imbalance caught my eye, because i suffer from thyroid issues and it really does change your personality and depression is usually a common symptom of Thyroid disease( it truely sounds like this might be the case with her).

 I don't know if this guy is interested but wow, he could really write an awesome book if he wanted too!! That reminds me of a Nicholas Sparks tear-jerker!

Date Posted: 12/30/2006 12:27 PM ET
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Date Posted: 12/30/2006 7:44 PM ET
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I too have been following his journey. I've been commenting on his Blogs as well. He does sound better than he did in the beginning. I made the mistake of telling him that it was in God's hands and suggested Prayer. I was then told "Thanks, but I'm an athiest" OOPS!! Oh well, he didn't say anything to put down my beliefs, but I guess I now know what direction my comments should go for him, huh? As long as things work out for him, I guess that's all that matters, right?
Date Posted: 12/31/2006 12:04 AM ET
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"I was then told "Thanks, but I'm an athiest" OOPS!! Oh well, he didn't say anything to put down my beliefs, but I guess I now know what direction my comments should go for him, huh?"

He's respectful of others, Julie. As I said in my initial post I am friends with his Mom and I have heard a story here and there from when he was growing up. They have been enlightening. This guy at 5 was me at 8. Ok, maybe at 10. I think I was very spoiled {self-centered} being the youngest in the family. 

I am following his blog also and I have posted one comment. I wanted "Wounded Heart" to know I would be reading about his journey.

Date Posted: 1/9/2007 9:08 AM ET
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Date Posted: 1/9/2007 9:34 AM ET
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I wonder if she gets her thyroid issues under control will she come to her senses and return to him? Do you think he will take her back or do you think he has become strong enough to realize he could find better and not go thru this roller coaster of emotions again? Does this woman realize what a rare man she has???
Date Posted: 1/9/2007 1:42 PM ET
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Hmmm... its love and and an ending of a relationship that supported it, Tanya. I'm not sure what the answer will be for what you are mulling over. Since it is an introspection we can't read what she is feeling. I do know he is an EXTREMLY honest, strong individual but heartache can cut anyone off at the knees.

Since self doubt, pointing fingers, useless scenarios thought up for getting back together that will never happen doesn't seem to be what WH [Wounded Heart} wants to wallow in thankfully, I do in my heart believe he wants to learn where he can change for the better after this is all said and done. It seems it is where he intends end up, emotionally, mentally, physically improved after all this pain. I'm finding it very interesting to read a males perspective on a relationship that has gone south while also being concerned for him. 

Date Posted: 1/9/2007 2:03 PM ET
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I didnt realize after reading a little more he mentions a first wife. I wonder what ended that marriage and did he struggle over that one as much? I guess i just assumed this was his first divorce he was struggling thru.
Date Posted: 1/17/2007 3:31 PM ET
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Date Posted: 1/18/2007 9:53 AM ET
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Several new posts over there since 1/17 if you haven't checked it lately....
Date Posted: 1/18/2007 10:15 AM ET
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Date Posted: 1/18/2007 3:39 PM ET
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He really doesn have a flair for words. If he wrote a book I could imagine it being along the lines of the style that Mitch Albom writes. have you ever read any of his books?
Date Posted: 1/18/2007 4:34 PM ET
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I have not Julie but I did get to read an excerpt from "Tuesdays With Morrie" when it came out. Is it the style writing we are mentioning with these names? WH, Sparks and Albom? Maybe. I do know for me its about  "reading aware" its a male point of view. WH blog has been an eye opener for me. Good writing is a must though! :}
Date Posted: 1/18/2007 10:04 PM ET
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Yes, Diane, reading about some ones every day life is usually pretty boring. With his writing style though, it makes it all very interesting. His journey has given me a lot to think about in my own marriage. 
Date Posted: 1/25/2007 5:01 PM ET
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Are you ladies still keeping with WH's Blog? Is anyone else angry with his first wife? How could a mother do that to her child? I know some women just don't have it in them to put their children frist, but she's being ridiculous. His daughter is obviously better off with him.

About the cruise..Do you think he'll take me? I'll go with him!! LOL!!

Date Posted: 1/25/2007 7:05 PM ET
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I'm still reading it and wanted to leave a comment a few times, but ended up not doing it because i didn't feel like registering,etc. I think he should go on that cruise without someone because then he might get the chance to "meet" someone on the cruise itself, Lots of single people take cruises.
Date Posted: 1/26/2007 11:23 PM ET
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Oh NOOOOOOOOO!!!! Have you read his latest entry?? He said he isn't going to write anymore, he's not going to continue his blog.

I don't even know him and i'm worried about his mental state at the moment.He sounds very depressed.

Date Posted: 1/26/2007 11:49 PM ET
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Tanya-I know exactly what you mean. I almost cried when I read that. I literally felt his pain.  I'm worried as well.

I feel so bad for him. In the beginning he said how writing this Blog helped him deal with things. Now how will he deal?

Diane, since you know his mother, please let us know that he's OK.



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Date Posted: 1/27/2007 9:10 AM ET
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Hi, I too have been reading his blog and am very worried. Has anyone heard if he is doing ok?
Date Posted: 1/27/2007 7:49 PM ET
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I have spoken to his Mom..its overwhelming so many time when dealing with a teenager, any teenager. His son is a brilliant but also a willful one. Sooo  while dealing with his own personal things { as  life is }  other extremely upsetting issues, parental issues,  come right on top of it. 

 WH is a very strong individual  and I think he's addressing what needs to be as a responsible parent before he will think of himself. He may be back..really only he knows. I am going to check daily to see if /when he does.

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Date Posted: 1/28/2007 3:43 PM ET
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He's Back!!! He posted another Blog on the old one, but here is his new one.  He seems to be a lot better than he was on Friday. So we can continue to "Watch Him Heal".

http://watchmeheal2.blogspot.com/

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