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Subject: Appropriate to ask quick-turnaround recipient how she liked the book?
Date Posted: 5/11/2011 10:08 PM ET
Member Since: 9/3/2010
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My goal with joining PBS was to swap out books I own for books that I expect to be keepers. So far, I've been mostly successful in this. In early April, I received a book whose passport showed that it had already been swapped once (making me owner #3). I couldn't put it down, but the ending bothered me and I decided I wouldn't care to read it again. I loaned it to a friend, whose experience was similar to mine. In late April, I posted it back into PaperBackSwap (the first time I'd reposted a book I'd received). Mine was the only copy in the system.

The book was requested within a few days and I mailed it off, barely more than a week ago. Owner #4 thanked me, saying the book was in nice condition. 

While browsing my reminder list today, I noticed that this title was on it - and furthermore, the book was available. Out of curiosity, I went into my transaction archive to check out the bookshelf of Owner #4. Sure enough, there is the book I mailed her, now with an additional stamp in its passport!

I realize that she may be a quick reader who likes to read-and-repost, so this may not mean she felt as I did about the book. However, I am curious. Would it be appropriate to send her a message asking what she thought of the book?



Date Posted: 5/11/2011 10:36 PM ET
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It's just a friendly question/discussion about the book so I don't see why not. I say go for it. Maybe you'll make a new friend. :)

Date Posted: 5/11/2011 10:50 PM ET
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I don't see any problem with doing that.

Date Posted: 5/11/2011 10:58 PM ET
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Sure, why not?  I've made some nice buddies here over book discussions.

Date Posted: 5/12/2011 8:11 AM ET
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Sure, I've had a number of discussions about books with other swappers and have even gotten some great leads on authors I never would have thought of. One thing I don't do is send a book and preface it with a PM about my opinion of it.


Laura M. (LMM) - ,
Date Posted: 5/12/2011 9:52 AM ET
Member Since: 12/12/2005
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It is possible that she may not have read it.  I will occasionally get books into my hands that were on my WL and once I have a chance to see them and think about putting it on the TBR mountain I change my mind....an good example is "The Land of Painted Caves". I read all the others as they came out and got on the WL early. When it showed up I realized that I really wasn't in the mood to read 700+ pages of it right now. Eventually maybe, but no time soon.

Date Posted: 5/12/2011 2:19 PM ET
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I wouldn't have a problem with it.  Might make a new friend.  However, try not to be offended if the person doesn't answer you or anything like that.

Date Posted: 5/13/2011 6:10 PM ET
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hmmmm.  i think i would feel weird about having someone 'stalking' my books posted.  just saying.

Date Posted: 5/13/2011 6:36 PM ET
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I also feel that way. I say let it go. I would find it unsettling to be contacted like that. But that could be just me. OP, if you did PM what was the response?

Date Posted: 5/13/2011 9:14 PM ET
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I'm on the fence on this one.  On the one hand: I like making new friends here and I joined because I like to talk about books.  On the other hand: If I got a message like that so soon after receiving a book-I'd get kidn of a "stalker" vibe out of it.

I think if you really liked the book then maybe post in teh appropriate genre forum about it for discussion.

Date Posted: 5/13/2011 11:10 PM ET
Member Since: 8/30/2008
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I'm on the fence about this as well. However, if I get a 'thank you' message when the book is received I sometimes answer the member with a "glad it arrived safely, hope you enjoy the book as much as I did" if I really liked the book, but I don't know if I'd be comfortable with being followed or monitored from the books I've posted.

If I post a book I very recently received it could be for a number of reasons, I don't know if I'd like to be asked about it. I rarely go to my transaction archive, so I don't know how many of the books I've sent out have continued moving through the system.

I like the genre forums for discussing books - I've made buddies from them, never from transactions I've been involved in. The transactions are anonymous so to speak while the forums are more personal and comfortable to me.