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Subject: Asking sender about the contents of a book. Is this ok to do?
Date Posted: 8/6/2010 9:49 PM ET
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I recently posted a craft book that was WLed. I bought it at a yardsale and knew nothing about it so it surprised me a little when the requester sent me a message wanting to know about the contents of the book. I wanted to tell her that she WLed it was up to her to know what it was about. I just said it was a yardsale book I hadn't read. She pressed further and I told her it didn't mention the things she asked about specifically in the TOC but that I didn't know if it was in the book or not. When I sent her that pm she canceled the request. Since I have been away from the forums for a bit and not keeping up I was wondering if this is accepted behavior or just a random thing? I thought it was actually kinda rude myself.

Date Posted: 8/6/2010 9:54 PM ET
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I've posted several craft books and no one has ever PMd me to ask about the contents. I'm with you, if they have the book on their WL, they should have a clue as to the contents. 



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Date Posted: 8/6/2010 10:07 PM ET
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I'd have no problem in someone asking. How better to confirm the exact content than to ask someone who has the book in their hands?

Date Posted: 8/6/2010 10:08 PM ET
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But if you don't know about the book how do you know you wanted it?

Date Posted: 8/6/2010 11:30 PM ET
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Seems kind of strange to me.  I would think it would be up to the person requesting it to know what it's about.  It's not the sender's responsibility to inform the requestor about what's in the book.  I would probably answer the first question, but more then that seems like a bit much to me. 

Date Posted: 8/6/2010 11:34 PM ET
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I would also be put off by this. I'd probably just do what you did and tell them based on the TOC because I would not want to flip page by page to find out for them.

It wouldn't be so annoying if they sent the PM before ordering (and they could do this by searching BOB members shelves and asking someone who had it on their shelf), but to make you think you're going to get a credit when you aren't? Rude.

Date Posted: 8/6/2010 11:46 PM ET
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Strange, for sure.  Rude? naww I don't think so.   This is a pretty friendly site and I'd feel free to ask if I wanted to.  Just chalk it up to another weird thing that happens on here.  lol

Date Posted: 8/7/2010 12:24 AM ET
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The first question wasn't so much rude, just odd. It was the pushing and the canceling of the request that really clenched it for me.

Date Posted: 8/7/2010 12:32 AM ET
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I don't think it was exactly rude, but it does seem strange.  I don't feel that, as the sender, I should have to explain the book to the receiver.  Especially if it was on a WL. 

Date Posted: 8/7/2010 4:54 PM ET
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They should have looked at Amazon a lot of the books you can see the inside content. That was a strange one for sure.

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Date Posted: 8/7/2010 7:01 PM ET
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I don't think just asking would bother me...if I'd read it, I'd be happy to talk about it.  If not I'd say so, and suggest Amazon reviews.  If the member kept pushing...yeah, I might be irritated. 

Date Posted: 8/7/2010 9:19 PM ET
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I'm with Matt.  And "Hi Chris!!" *waves* -- I still send people to your profile / notebook for tutorials on how to post an avatar or blinky here.

Whoops -- just went to your profile to be sure it was still showing, and it looks as if the "view all entries" button is gone.  Hope we get it back!  Best tutorials ever.

Date Posted: 8/7/2010 10:48 PM ET
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Hey Patty I'll have to check my profile to see whats up. If you can't find them there they are in the tips for new members thread on this page http://www.paperbackswap.com/forum/topic.php?t=8394&l=25&ls=100

eta found it on my profile. Apparently the notebook has been changed to the bulletin board. Dunno when that happened though.



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Date Posted: 8/8/2010 2:10 AM ET
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Yay!  There they are!  And glad to know they're in the tips thread too.  Thanks, Chris.

And the notebook changed to the bulletin board in July while I was on vacation.  I told them to hold everything until I got back, but nooooo-oooooo.  Still getting caught up.

Date Posted: 8/8/2010 3:37 AM ET
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Your welcome Patty.

I was dormant during July (June, May and March too) so I missed a bunch of stuff.

Date Posted: 8/8/2010 9:16 AM ET
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I wouldn't say it was rude. I've gotten a couple of TG questions in the past from people who had content questions. That's really the requestor's responsibility. Lots of books I post I haven't read. I would just say, "haven't read the book, I bought it to post, it meets the guidelines," and let them deal with it.

Date Posted: 8/8/2010 11:25 AM ET
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Well, pushing it was a bit but I asking seems ok. I have a cookie cookbook I want. I know some things about it but I'm not sure which of the many gazillion cookie cookbooks out there is the exact right one that I want. And because it's not new or still in print, I can't just wander over to the local bookstore and look inside it and get the correct isbn. So I have several almost the right but not quite the right cookie cookbooks that I have requested. I do wish there was a good way to ask for it. I just want to know for sure which one. So maybe she thought it looked right and was trying to avoid getting another not quite right book but she could have handled it better. Especially if it is WL, after all if it turns out to be the wrong book she can just repost it.

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