When I started reading this book- I didn't realize that I gave people the authority to make my life bad or hurt my feelings,etc. You know- the stuff that makes you hate being around certain people because they aim their arrows for you! Well- when my eyes were opened to what I was not doing and what I should be doing! Wow! It really did a 180 degree turn in my life! I can recommend it highly and say that you only get out of this book what you are really going to examine and change in your life.