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Beauty Fades, Dumb Is Forever: The Making of a Happy Woman
Beauty Fades Dumb Is Forever The Making of a Happy Woman Author:Judy Sheindlin "My father was a kidder, and he could usually make me laugh; in laughing I was able to feel better about myself. He also gave me a piece of advice about beauty that has stayed with me. 'Beauty fades' he used to say, 'but dumb? Dumb is forever.' "Judge Judy's father impressed upon her that a bright intellect, a curio... more »us mind, and a passion for learning are priceless commodities. "For as long as I can remember," she writes, "the worst insult someone could give me was to say 'You're stupid.' In fact to this day, it's second nature for me when I'm on the bench to point a finger to the side of my head and ask, 'Does it say stupid here?' "--the implied answer being a resounding no.In the course of her career as a family court judge and a presiding judge on the popular courtroom show that bears her name, Judge Judy has seen over and over again, the devastating fallout for women who have made stupid choices on marriage, parenting and their future. She has seen women make excuses for me who abuse them and women who tolerate demeaning and demoralizing conditions at work. She has seen women who, instead of choosing mates, allowed themselves to be chosen. She has seen women who elected to defer to men instead of their own judgment.Here, the savvy, opinionated, and irrepressible Judge Judy exposes, with her trademark wit and wisdom, these dirty little secrets so many women share and offers her own take on the destructive repercussions they have on women. Using real cases involving women of every background--from the most affluent and successful to young girls just starting out--as well as stories from her own life, Judge Judy shows women how to fix their attitude and, equally important, how to teach their daughters to follow their dreams by keeping their individuality intact.As a judge, wife, mother, and grandmother, judge Judy understands the lasting currency of self-esteem and independence, and when she voices her tough-minded opinions daily in her courtroom, everyone listens. In Beauty Fades, Dumb is Forever, she instills in women--with the help of provocative and hilarious examples from her own life--the urgency of building a solid foundation within. On building character. On nourishing yourself. On learning from mistakes and fighting battles you can't win. On understanding what sex can and cannot do for you. On the importance of humor and self reliance. Her straight talk tells women to get on with it and never forget that smart is forever, too.« less
Very straight forward & interesting perspective from Judge Judy. She tells it like it is and I wish I'd had her advice at a much younger age. I liked this book and I'd recommend it especially to older teens and young women starting out. It might help a lot of women steer clear of some of the problems my generation has gotten into.
I thought this book was great. I enjoy Judge Judy's outspoken personality and she can tell a pretty funny story, too. I didn't agree with everything that she said, but it was worth the read, and there was a couple of times that I laughed out loud. It's a perfect afternoon read.
Every woman should be required to read this book. Judge Judy is brilliant and offers perfect advice. I just kept nodding and silently saying "Exactly!" to myself as I read this page-turner. This is self-help for the woman who thinks its okay to yield to what a man wants and give up her own wants and needs for him. Sadly, its likely only JJ fans and women who are already smart and independant will read this book. My favorite advice of JJ is the "Divorce Insurance" for marriage, because it is also sound for any relationship.
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Funny, but to the point. I guess her basic idea is that both women and men are happier in their relationships if women have self-respect and do not go against it solely to please men. However, Judy is realistic and points out that women should not expect to be able to change their men much, either. She tells us frankly about how she handled some of the problems that were causing her resentment in her own marriage. A good book for both men and women, although a few of the things she did were too passive-aggressive for me; they probably worked because her husband truly appreciates her and has a good sense of humor. A lesser man might have hauled off and punched her when she woke him up with clashing pot lid "cymbals" because for the umpteenth time she had gotten up in the night and sort of fallen into the toilet because the seat was up. (Her reasoning: If I am going to have a rude awakening in the night, then so are you!")