This book is horrible. It advocates not paying attention to your child's needs. A much better book is anything from the Dr. Sears library or The Happiest Baby on the Block. For people who love and cherish their babies, the later books will teach those parents how to respond to the demands of their children without leaving them to cry it out.
I found this book to contain information that was not only counter-intuitive to parenting your baby but also to have advice and information about breastfeeding that was wrong. I am a breastfeeding educator and I would caution anyone who is breastfeeding to be very cautious with the advice given in this book. I do not agree with the approaches in this book whether formula feeding or breastfeeding but even the American Academy of Pediatrics has spoken out against the breastfeeding information.
I also will speak out against ANY book that advocates "training" an infant with a cry it out approach. There are published medical studies which prove how damaging that approach can be not only to your baby emotionally but also physically. "The Science of Parenting" is a newer book which breaks all that down very well.
Please research a little more on this author and his advice before you put your young, vulnerable infant on a program like this.
This book is a great example of what NOT to do! Using a cry-it-out method is bad, bad, bad psychologically to a baby, and could severely damage them for the rest of their lives. Babies do not need to be trained, parents need to listen to what their child is communicating to them, and their needs need to be met in order to become an independent person. This book has no science, and no love. You will be harming your child greatly if you listen to the advice in Ezzo's book.
I have really liked having this book. For my first child, it's what kept me breastfeeding (and sane!). I had a difficult time with nursing, and this book encouraged me to have a schedule. Not a difficult schedule for the baby, but one that helped both of us. After only a day or two, by baby was eating and sleeping better, and I was much more relaxed. With my second baby, it was an encouragement again. I see the principles in the book working! You don't have to agree with everything in the book to benefit from it.
I am a pediatric nurse with 10 years of experience both in hospital and primary care peds, a breastfeeding mom of a 6 month old,and a Christian. I say this because qualifications on advice matter. Gary Ezzo, the author of this book, has none besides one degree in theology, and the "co-author," Robert Bucknam, apparently only wrote the forward, and that while he was still in training. The information in this book is opinion, pure and simple, and the advice is benignly wrong in some places and dangerously wrong in others.
All quotes and references come from the 2006 edition of the book.
The book is built around 2 main logical fallacies. The "straw man" fallacy of 2 fictional babies that drive the text (pg. 18), and the either-or fallacy of Ezzo vs. everyone else. The language is extreme (Ezzo's way gives "bliss," while ignoring his advice brings "chaos"), and the supposed consequences of not following his advice are designed to promote fear (ADHD- pg.54, loss of milk supply- pg. 58, ruined marriage- pg. 22, obesity- pg. 140, academic failure- pg. 141... the list goes on.). Most of the claims have no citations, those that do often cite things like 20/20 specials, and the few actual research studies referenced are often out of date, made up by the author himself and unpublished, or misinterpreted to fit the claims of the book.
The underlying concept of the book is that parents must teach their children from day one that they are not the center of the universe, doing so by "shaping their hunger cycles" (pg. 30) and teaching them "delayed gratification" in the form of leaving them to cry, especially at nap time (pg. 140, for example). Healthy indicators of infant development are misinterpreted as pathological, the most obvious example of which is teaching that the behavior associated with a normal "separation anxiety" phase is a sign of unhealthy attachment.
While Ezzo does say to feed the baby if he is hungry sooner than the book's 2 1/2 hour minimum, he also repeats frequent warnings such as "do not deviate so often as to establish a new routine" (pg. 116). His breastfeeding advice on foremilk vs. hindmilk and "snacking" is completely incorrect physiologically. He clearly knows that educated, certified lactation consultants will disagree with him, because he issues a warning to boycott and warn others away from a consultant who tells you differently from his book (pg. 100-101). His pronouncement that NICUs are on a 3-hour feeding schedule, thust preventing Failure to Thrive (pg. 97)is so wrong that it's scary.
Most of his advice is bad, in large part, because it is developmentally inappropriate. Infants aren't capable of learning delayed gratification, but they are capable of learning that their cries go unanswered. Many infants who give up crying on this system, "flexible" though it says it is, have gone on to refuse feeds altogether, having given up hope that their cries will be answered. Hundreds of cases of Failure to Thrive have been reported around the country, where parents were following Ezzo's advice. Unsurprisingly, the American Academy of Pediatrics has issued warnings regarding scheduled feedings in general and dehydration associated with "Babywise" specifically since they organized a review board in 1998 to address the concerns of pediatricians.
I could go on. This book scares me as a nurse, and it scares me as a parent. Do your research. Look at what experts have to say. Think critically in terms of who is telling you something and what kind of education they have. Just because a book is popular doesn't make it a good resource.
I was given this book at the birth of my 3 child and my husband and I was horrified by it. I took it back to the store and traded it for another book.
I HIGHLY recommend Parenting and Childcare by William Sears instead of Baby Wise.
I noticed there are a lot of people that have positive responses on this book but have not rated it thus it gets a 0. My wife and I used this on children 2-4 and it worked great. We even facilitated a group meeting with parents with similar positive results. If you give it a chance, I believe you will be happy you did. My guess is that a lot of the folks with negative reviews never applied the principles and dismissed because it didn't sit well with a more child-centered approach which is so prevalent in our society. Has anyone seen the entitlement mentality in kids nowadays? This book articulates an alternate approach to childrearing that our children desperately need.
I love this book. I have 3 kids and used the principles in this book and it work love it. All my kids slept threw the night by 8 weeks. I was able to nurse them all to 12 months. My babies were always happy, and now they all think of others before them selves. All because we taught them that they are not the center of attention. I realy think that a lot of people think its wrong to teach a baby or children that they are not the center of attention. Because of that a lot of kids now days are selfish and don't think of others at all. It's always me, me, me. I had even asked my kids if they even remember me teaching them to sleep threw the night and if they are traumatized they all say the same thing. "No" If i could put and 100 + star rating I would. If you had just seen my babies when they were babies you would see happy cooing babes, and everyone always comet on me and asked me how it I did it. I always tell them about this book it was a life saver. Now all my babies are 13,9,and 4 and I can't get my self to give this book up yet.
This book is AWFUL! DO NOT USE it with your baby. Please do some research about ezzo. This book is not reccommended ANY assocation with children anymore because it causes failure to thrive! If your baby cries HE/SHE needs you! You can not breastfeed every 4 hours an expect to keep your milk supply. Please please PLEASE read a Dr. Sears or Elizabeth Pantley book if you would like advice for small babies. Do your research on Ezzo!
If you've been scared off by other reviews or hear-say about this book, then read on. It does not advocate ignoring your baby or not loving your baby NOR DO THEY TELL YOU TO NOT FEED YOUR BABY WHEN IT'S HUNGRY!!! The premise is simple: we help to set our baby's metabolism by a flexible feeding/sleeping routine (Eat, Play, Sleep, repeat) so that the baby's sleep habits will settle into a healthy sleep schedule. It is a wonderful book and encourages flexibility of your family style.
There are a few things in this book that may not apply to everyone, but overall, it made a big difference for me. After having 9 babies who all cried through the night, had poor sleeping habits until about 3 or 4 years of age; and I was feeling ragged and tired all the time, I used this book for my 10th baby. He sleeps through the night, and I can put him in his crib and he goes to sleep in about 30 seconds. It is truly amazing, and something I thought I could never train a child of mine to do. Every night when I put him in his crib and he goes to sleep on his own, I am so grateful I heard about Baby Wise and that it worked with him! I do wish I would've had a book much sooner. I also like the page that gives ideas for what to do with new babies during the day to give variety and keep them from getting bored.
I cannot say enough good things about this book. I read it in the two weeks after I had my first son, and by eight weeks, he was sleeping up to eight hours at night. He is 20 months old and sleeps at least 13 hours per night with a 2-3 hour nap during the day. I give this book to all of my friends who are expecting.
This book was strongly recommended to me by some, and came with a strong caution from others. By the time I read the first chapter my son was sleeping through the night on his own, so we no longer needed it!
This book saved my sanity! I encourage all new parents to read it -- even if you don't use all the suggestions, I'll bet you'll find something in it you can use. While there is no damage to the book I posted, there are a few areas that I hi-lited.
This a wonderful book that was a godsend to me with my first child. There is a lot of common sense, practical direction given on how to get your baby on a sleep, eat, wake cycle. My son was sleeping 8 hours at 8 weeks old at night and 12 hrs at 12 weeks. My daughter did the same.
This book is definitely worth reading. I did not follow it to the letter but I did use it as a reference source quite frequently. I have many friends who swore by it. It can be very useful in getting your baby to learn to sleep on his/her own.
I really appreciated the advice given in this book. It came highly recommended to us by a physician acquaintance and we found it helpful. As with any parenting guide, you must measure everything against your own sense of what you want to do as a parent, but the information about breastfeeding and the order in which you encourage your baby to sleep, eat and play, as well as how to help your baby sleep for longer stretches, was all a life-saver to us! We used many of its precepts for both our children and were pleased with the results.
The infant management concepts presented in this book have found favor with over two million parents and twice as many contented babies. On Becoming Babywise brings hope to the tired and bewildered parents looking for an alternative to sleepless nights and fussy babies. The Babywise Parent Directed Feeding concept has enough structure to bring security and order to your baby's world, yet enough flexibility to give mom freedom to respond to any need at any time. It teaches parents how to lovingly guide their baby's day rather than be guided or enslaved to the infant's unknown needs.
This is a great book to read on scheduling an infant. While I certainly don't agree with everything that the author says, there is some great advice to glean.
**please note that the copy I have I received from a PBS member. It does have some underlining in it but it is in very good condition**