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Subject: BoB 'harassment'
Date Posted: 2/1/2008 10:59 AM ET
Member Since: 7/26/2006
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I keep getting request after request from another boxer. I tell her each time that there's nothing that I'm interested in on her shelf, and that I don't currently have room to swap for books that I won't read.

The person doesn't seem to have gotten the message, because I've been getting a new request every day or so. Is there any way to block another boxer from requesting my books? I feel bad every time I deny a request, but I'm starting to get irritated sending her the same PM every couple of days.

Date Posted: 2/1/2008 11:06 AM ET
Member Since: 7/7/2007
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Stacy--

I don't know of a way to block PMs/requests, but if you haven't already done so, I'd tell her politely but firmly to please stop contacting you about it; that you'll contact her when you're interested in making a deal with her.  Then just delete her future messages, if she sends any, unread.  If she continues to harass you, consider letting R&R know, since if she's doing it to you, she's likely doing it to others.

Cheers,

Catt

Date Posted: 2/1/2008 11:37 AM ET
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Interesting question, I had that happen last summer and wondered what to do about it.  (At the time I had a shelf of maybe 30 books and she wanted 14-15 of them...she had a couple hundred books on hers and nothing was of any interest to me and she just couldn't understand it)

Date Posted: 2/1/2008 2:00 PM ET
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Michelle, that sound identical to an offer I had a few weeks ago. She wouldn't take no for an answer. She kept stating she had more books to post, okay so let me know when you post them. Then she kept PMing stating she had this or that author that she'd be willing to swap. I hate to be rude, but finally had to just ignore her PMs.

Date Posted: 2/1/2008 2:03 PM ET
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You can always leave the request open and pending, to keep from new offers being posted fro that person.

Date Posted: 2/1/2008 7:09 PM ET
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Thanks for the input, everyone. :) For now, I'll just leave the request open. If she cancels it or tries again, I'll email R&R and see what they can do about it.
Date Posted: 2/1/2008 7:21 PM ET
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I made the mistake one time of requesting a BOB transaction from someone who had told me previously that I had nothing of interest to her.  I had forgotten her nickname and she had a book that I really wanted and when I searched by author and title, her name came up.   Well, I got a very rude response back from her  telling me not to request anything from her again.  Needless to say -  I very quickly made a note of her nickname and put it on a post-note in my PBS file folder that I keep so I would not do it again.

I hate to advocate rudeness but maybe that is the only way this person will remember your name and stop making requests from you.

 

Date Posted: 2/1/2008 8:20 PM ET
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I made the mistake one time of requesting a BOB transaction from someone who had told me previously that I had nothing of interest to her.  I had forgotten her nickname and she had a book that I really wanted and when I searched by author and title, her name came up. 

Wow....I really think that I have done that too!

Date Posted: 2/2/2008 10:41 AM ET
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I think if the person is asking every couple days, she surely remembers your name by now. But, in LaVonne's case of having asked only the second time and getting a rude answer. I think that is uncalled for. I don't remember names, but do look for specific books. I don't write down everybody that rejects my offers, so why isn't just a 2nd refusal an answer? Why get rude? I've had it happen a couple times that a month or two later, I offered to the same person, for a specific book. If you look at lot, the names do blend, and I am forgetfull, but it wasn't nice of them to be rude :)

I'm not saying you shouldn't get really stern with someone that's doing it week after week, that's diffferent. Do try not to be rude, R&R frown on it, but try to be as serious as possible that they have to just stop it because they don't have anything you want! I guess if they don't get it after you make it as plain and clear as possible, then you have no choice but to contact R&R since there would be no other way to stop them, altho leaving the open box there for a reminder to them is a good idea. Tho they will probably forget why it hasn't been accepted yet, and send you PMs or add/remove/add books to cause a PM to be sent to you that the box has been updated so as to remind you that it is there. I'd probably just send in the feedback :)

Date Posted: 2/2/2008 1:08 PM ET
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I don't have a problem with someone who 'accidently' sends a second request or sends another request after posting more books, at all. I've sent double requests before, myself, but 9 requests is a bit excessive. :)

I've just been copying and pasting the same 'You sent me the same request a few days ago, and you still have nothing on your shelf that I'm interested in' message. The last message included a 'Please stop sending me requests.' We'll see whether I get another request in a day or so. If I do, off she'll go to R&R...