I'm torn on this. Never really run into this before.

On the 28th I ordered a book. It's still sitting on "waiting" but this person has logged in every day including already this morning. This person has a decent amount of forum posts but is not anyone I recognize. But she's obviously posting somewhere on a regular basis.

If she's waiting to accept to push the send date out, no problem. But given she's logging in every day she should've sent me a PM. IMHO, anyhow.

Also given she's logging in, should I send her a PM asking what her plans are? I started to, then opted not to (and I probably won't) but part of me thinks since she's logging in then she should PM the person to let her know her intentions. I'm gonna be kinda pissed if she just lets it time out while logging in every day.

If she's waiting to accept to push the send date out, no problem. But given she's logging in every day she should've sent me a PM. IMHO, anyhow.

I will say that I have left books unaccepted to move mailing dates or to wait until I could get the book out and inspect it, all the while logging in and have never PMed the person to tell them why. It wouldn't even cross my mind to do that as long as I am accepting and mailing within the time limits.

<<If she's waiting to accept to push the send date out, no problem. But given she's logging in every day she should've sent me a PM. IMHO, anyhow.>>

Respectfully, she's not obligated to do so -- that's why the 5 day period is there, so that folks can have time to make it to payday or mailing day or "I finally found the book in my attic day" or whatever.  Only if she wants to go beyond the rules and mail after the scheduled mailing date does she need to contact you.

Cheers,

Catt

They may be visiting family where they have access and log in, but do not have access to their books.

That could have been me earlier in the week.

She can't PM you until after she accepts the books, then she will have access to your login, so she doesn't have it right now. But I agree with the others - she's done nothing wrong, simply using the system how she needs it (perhaps needs to push the date out). You can imagine that perhaps she's gotten a nasty response from someone in the past, and decided not to let someone know when she was mailing the book, considering it's still within deadline. Personally, I would rather NOT get an email that says she's going to mail me my book - I assume that when I ordered it.

She can't PM you until she accepts the request. The PM option only shows when a book is on WL hold not when it's waiting to be accepted by the sender.  I'm here everyday and I sometimes let requests sit for a few days. Either I just went to the post office and am trying to get to the next week-I like to go once a week.  I might be waiting for another WL book to be accepted. Usually when I post a WL book, while it's on hold, I check out their WL and see if I have another book I can read and post to them. So I'll start the book and let the request for the 1st one sit for a day or two.  Then I'll accept and PM them and ask if they want the 2nd book as well.  They almost always do and I save some postage money.

As others have said, she wouldn't be able to PM you until she accepts the request. And really, why would (or should) she? PBS gives us 5 days to accept or decline a request. There may be any number of reasons she's holding off--needing to group requests together to haul to the PO, low funds and waiting for payday, not at home so can't verify that she can still lay hands on the book and that it's postable, etc. As long as she's within the time frame PBS allows, what's the big deal?

I always check my books over before accepting a request, so if I'm out of town or logging in at work and can't put my hands on the book to visually inspect it, then I won't accept it until I can. Usually that's just a couple of days, though--anything longer than that and I'd be on vacation hold.

Cheryl

Oh well. She accepted it. So all's good. Thanks for everyone's input!

Cheers!!!

I posted a book directly to someone I see on here often.   Just happened to be looking at her wish list and saw a book I was getting ready to post.  Much to my surprise, I saw her post every day, but she let the book time out.   I couldn't quite figure out why she'd do that, but at least it was a wish list book and rolled over to someone else.  What I don't quite understand is why she didn't just cancel the order.

That is strange, Cozi!  

Ruth

I had something like that happen to me this week.

I had a wishlist book posted to me so the day after I accepted  it I looked on the person's bookshelf to see what else they had since they hadn't accepted on their end yet. I found something in the same series as the wishlisted book so I ordered it.

They let the wishlist book time out and then turned around and accepted the book I chose from their shelf. lol Go figure.

Cozi maybe they didnt' have a credit and kept hoping to have a book marked received up until the last minute. Also I think some people don't realize that when you let a WL offer time out or a book request time out it removes them from your shelf.  I've seen many posts on here from newbies and non-forum regulars asking why their books aren't on their shelf anymore or where their WL books went. Then they confess that they let requests time out because they didn't have postage money, didn't have credits or were out of town-not realizing that this removes them from their shelf or WL. 

When I visit my mother I don't put my account on hold becasue I can use her computer.   I had 5 book orders come in when I went to see her 2 wks ago.  I let them sit for about 4 days until I came home and could varify that the books were still postable (I always double check before I accept).