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Subject: Book for Losing a CHild
Date Posted: 9/23/2010 10:53 AM ET
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My best friend in the whole world went to the doctor at a little over 7 months pregnant and they said the baby was dead and they did a c-section last night.  They need LOTS of prayer and I wondered if there was any good books dealing with this.  The mom's birthday is next week, Then the due date, then Thanksgiving, then Christmas and this is just so hard for them.

Date Posted: 9/23/2010 11:56 AM ET
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I don't know of any books but I will keep them in my prayers

Date Posted: 9/25/2010 11:10 AM ET
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I am remiss to say that I don't know any books, either.  However, I suffered a miscarriage at the end of July, so I understand how difficult it is.  The What to Expect book has a section at the end about miscarriages, and I think any books specefic to the subject would say the same thing:  There is no right or wrong way to greive.  For you, I recommend keeping an eye out for if the greiving turns to depression, as it can be serious.  Also, more women than she may realize have had a miscarriage, and it can be very helpful to talk to them, because they understand exactly what she went through.

 

I will also keep the family in my prayers.  God helped me stay strong, and I know He will look after your friend, too.

Date Posted: 9/25/2010 11:24 AM ET
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Thank you for the prayers.  I think it is especially hard since she was over 7 months pregnant and 2 weeks ago had told the doctors she thought something was wrong and they did not listen.  No one we know have "miscarried" that late in the pregnancy, and the fact that she had a c-section, at least for me, might make that worse.  She's going through so much physical pain (barely able to walk) and doesn't even have a baby to hold.  The baby was our god-daughter, and while they have one other little girl that doesn't make everything all better.  I wish the doctors did more ultrasounds so they could have seen the fluid building up in the baby's lungs and heart.  Maybe they could have treated it.  

Date Posted: 9/25/2010 2:48 PM ET
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Books dealing with the loss of a child (particularly a baby):

I'll Hold You in Heaven by Jack Hayford (available through PBS)

I Will Carry You: the Sacred Dance of Grief and Joy by Angie Smith (has a WL)

Empty Arms: Hope and Support for Those Who Have Suffered a Miscarriage, Stillbirth or Tubal Pregnancy by Pam Vredevelt (0 in system)

 

Date Posted: 9/25/2010 4:13 PM ET
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Thank you I just ordered what I could and wishlisted the others.  Most of the scriptures I've found that people say help I think are posted from someone who's never lost a baby or small child.  Thanks again for the book recommendations.  If anyone has any more I'll order those as well.