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Subject: Got book with personal info of child- should I PM sender to warn them?
Date Posted: 3/17/2010 8:52 PM ET
Member Since: 12/30/2009
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I just received a book today that has some personal information written on the inside of the back cover.  The information includes the previous owner's name, birthdate (the book is young adult and the owner was under 18), home phone number, and cell number.  I'm considering PMing the sender and gently suggesting they check any future books and make sure any information like that is blacked out. I don't know if the sender is just sending out a book they got in the swap or if they are the parent of the child.  I just can't help thinking that if I were a creep I've just been handed a way to get in touch with a teenager on a silver platter. 

Am I overthinking this? Would you contact the sender and how would you phrase your concerns? 

And maybe this will be a reminder to everyone else to check for this sort of thing!

Date Posted: 3/17/2010 9:06 PM ET
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I'd PM the sender.  On second thought, maybe I'd have someone from this site do it for me.  Someone who works for this site. 

Date Posted: 3/17/2010 9:27 PM ET
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Wow, that's scary.  I once found a W-2 in a book in a used store.  I double check for loose objects but I never thought of writing.

Date Posted: 3/17/2010 10:09 PM ET
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I would PM them, just to let them know to check their books if they don't want that kind of info floating around there. And, perhaps to teach their children not to write so much personal info where it can be found by other people.

I don't know if I would bother someone from PBS to PM them for me. It seems more like a quick "member-to-member" issue to me.

I've found pay stubs and the like in books before. Usually at the UBS.

Date Posted: 3/17/2010 11:30 PM ET
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I'm not terribly touchy about readily available information.  But that's TMI floating around on a child, so I'll also advise a nice pm to the sender..."dunno if you're aware, but information xxx was written in the book I received from you."

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Date Posted: 3/18/2010 12:57 AM ET
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I'm sorta with you Denise.  I don't normally worry too much about that type of thing and I tend to think all the media attention on child predators is overblown and creating a culture of fear.  But when I opened the book and saw that it just felt wrong.  Not only do I have the information, I know what kind of books the kid reads and the names of family members.  I also know hair and eye color which was really strangely listed. 

So, yeah, I think I'll send a PM.  Thanks everyone!

Date Posted: 3/18/2010 2:10 AM ET
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I sent a book once with a slip from the naval medical system in it.  On it was my name and SS and my husband's name and SS.   The person PMed me and I told her to shred it.   I appreciated the PM.

Date Posted: 3/18/2010 6:17 AM ET
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Send the PM and let them know. I have done the same and the sender thanked me for it... her kid had marked his name, SSN#, and address in a book.

I would like to know if it was me.

Date Posted: 3/18/2010 8:20 AM ET
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Are you certain it's the information of the previous owner? Considering that some books here at PBS have been swapped numerous times, it might be from someone else entirely...or do the address on that info and the address of the sender match up? If the addresses are the same, I would shoot them a PM and advise them to remove or mark over that information before sending another, and assure them that you intend to do the same before you pass the book on.


Date Posted: 3/18/2010 8:27 AM ET
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I'd PM for sure.  Then I'd mark it out.  I have received some books from a friend for my DD and friends DD had written her name, address, phone# and If found please return message on many of the books.  So parent may not be aware or it may have come to them that way.  Hard to say.  But I think a curtesy PM would be appropriate.