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Sharon C. (Mamu) - ,
Subject: Breast Cancer update
Date Posted: 7/12/2008 10:33 PM ET
Member Since: 3/12/2007
Posts: 1,152
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Hi, everyone.  I realized I hadn't posted in a very long time about my DP's health and condition.  The last I posted about it, she had just had successful surgery to remove the cancerous tumor.  After talking to the ocologist and more testing, we were distressed to learn that it was recommended that she have four chemo treatments at 3 week intervals. She just finished the last of them on July 3rd. 

She is going to have to do radiation but not until we return from our family vacation at the end of this month.  The chemo seems to be cumulative in its effects so by the time of this last one, it was definitely getting very old.  She lost her hair after the first one (which we knew was coming.)  But before it fell out, we went to our stylist and had it buzzed.  Looked really cute!  She didn't want a wig or anything but we found her a bunch of great hats online and in a couple of stores.

She's been really tired the last week or so and even stayed home from work last Monday and Tuesday.  Up until then she hadn't missed any work--she has the whole work ethic thing to a ridiculous degree. :)  She has stomach "uneasiness" frequently and occasional nausea.  She does have meds to take for that, but they make her more tired and sleepy so she only mostly takes those at bedtime.

There've been many times I've wished for a partner's support group!  It's a hard place to be from this side, too.  I'm sure that some of you have been through this and know what I mean.

We are fortunate with our support system. The little kids have been pretty cute about seeing her in a hat; they also like to rub the 1/2 inch or so of her bristly hair.  The grown kids has been great and very helpful and supportive.  We have a wonderful family system  and great neighbors that are like family.  She has good insurance.  One of the tests was more than $9000 and each chemo treatment was over $2400.  What on earth do people do that don't have resources or insurance??  I think so far  we've paid less than $200 out of pocket.

Sorry to be so negligent.  I've been using PBS a lot; it has kept me sane--sorta!  ;)  But I haven't shared or posted much.  I've been mostly working on data and image correction and hanging out there.  Anyway, I just decided this evening that I was really missing you guys on this forum..

Sharon

L. G. (L)
Date Posted: 7/14/2008 1:04 AM ET
Member Since: 9/5/2005
Posts: 12,412
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Sharon, glad treatment is going reasonably well, and that your friends and family are so supportive.  Cancer affects everyone - it's just such a tough fight and all the while you can't believe you're in the thick of it.  Hope DP continues to improve and that the side effects of radiation are minor.  Please do keep us posted - I'll keep you all in my thoughts!  ((hugs!))

Sharon C. (Mamu) - ,
Date Posted: 7/14/2008 10:37 PM ET
Member Since: 3/12/2007
Posts: 1,152
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Thanks, L.  I apprecate the kind thoughts!