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Subject: Buddy feature. Do not trade? Is it visible to others?
Date Posted: 10/31/2009 6:22 AM ET
Member Since: 4/15/2006
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Although I've used PBS for awhile, I've never used the buddy feature.  Now, as a result of a very bad transaction (a rarity in my experience), I'd like to  privately label a fellow PBS member as a person with whom I don't want to trade. 

When I first joined, I know you could buddy someone and then add a note reagarding that individual.  Is that still true?  If I buddy this person, will s/he be notified they've been buddied? 

If using the buddy button isn't the way to do this, would someone be kind enough to let me know how I might do this?

Thanks very much.

Date Posted: 10/31/2009 6:51 AM ET
Member Since: 12/9/2007
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Yes, she';ll get an invitation. She might never see it or ignore it or accept.  If she never accepts itstays on a page of invitations you've made where you can see them.  So it'sjust as good as a private list.  Even if she accepts, she can't see anything you puton a note about her.  Just be sure to limit what she can see about you and your other Buddies.  I don't allow for anyone to see who my other Buddies are.  You can find these under Settings - I think.


Date Posted: 10/31/2009 9:08 AM ET
Member Since: 5/14/2009
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If she has buddy invites on auto accept you can add her as a buddy.  If  you go to your settings / privacy you can mark it so your buddies can't see your other buddies.   If you do or don't make buddies private they still can't see how ou labeled your buddies.

As Ruth said, she may choose not to accept the invite or ignore it and nothing will happen on your end.  You could add yourself to the buddy list and tag the members name so you don't forget who it is for future swaps and this way you can send your self PMs and put the subject do not swap with with notes and such on the swaps.  Just other suggestions. 

Good Luck

Date Posted: 10/31/2009 7:25 PM ET
Member Since: 12/9/2007
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Robin is right.  I've added myself as a Buddy, and I use it for all sorts of things by sending myself PM's.  It's been a good thing.  But I have send unanswered invitations to several people from a long time agoand the invite still stands on my "Invitations sent" page.  So I still know who they are.


Date Posted: 10/31/2009 8:05 PM ET
Member Since: 12/28/2006
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I love myself as a buddy, much information is pm'd and archived to my buddy...me!

Date Posted: 11/1/2009 8:47 AM ET
Member Since: 2/15/2006
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Ok, now you've got me to wondering. I have had several people ask to be my buddy. Why? I haven't a clue. I don't think I've traded with some of them, maybe they saw my posts here? Now I'm wondering if I somehow offended someone and I'm their "buddy" so they won't ever deal with me again. And again I ask why? What are you going to tell this person if s/he asks you why you've asked to be buddies? Just curious.


Subject: Buddy
Date Posted: 11/2/2009 3:50 PM ET
Member Since: 7/15/2009
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I do not think the point of a buddy is to have someone on your buddy list that you do not want to exchange with.  The idea as I understand it is to have people that you want to get in touch with quickly or remember you had a good exchange with them etc.  It makes more sense to press ignore this person.  I do not think you want to ask them to be a buddy??????????????????????????

Date Posted: 11/3/2009 4:59 PM ET
Member Since: 11/14/2005
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No, a "do not trade list" is not the point of the buddy list, Margaret, but it does the job. To mark someone with the "ignore button" only affects the forums, it doesn't show their names anywhere, so that when you get an order you can decide that you don't want to send it if it is from that person, or the other way, if you order a book, you want to make sure it isn't coming from that person.

Susan, as for people asking to be your buddy when you don't know them, you might have said something in a topic that they particularly liked, or that caused them to go look at your shelf, and they liked what they saw. They might have buddied you then so that they would come back to your shelf when they were looking for something good to read.

Date Posted: 11/3/2009 6:51 PM ET
Member Since: 8/10/2005
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Susan, I was just thinking the same thing. I get a buddy list request and I accept it and think "how nice!" Now...I'm not so sure! I think I'm going to go in and delete all those people I don't know and have no idea why they asked me. ;(  LOL


Date Posted: 11/3/2009 8:43 PM ET
Member Since: 5/10/2005
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I figure if someone wants me on a Do Not Trade list--I probably don't want to trade with them anyway!

I don't really know why most of my buddy list is there--I just have an accept all policy.  If someone wants to keep track of my shelf, it's more likely in my interest to let them than not to!