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Subject: Buddy List question - Is there a polite way to.....
Date Posted: 3/7/2008 11:20 AM ET
Member Since: 3/23/2007
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Is there a polite way to tell someone to stop sending you invites without being rude?

I get the same invitation/request many times a day from the same person and always decline because it is someone I don't care to be buddies with.

Date Posted: 3/7/2008 11:29 AM ET
Member Since: 11/14/2005
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Since I think requesting multiple times a day, for several days, is totally rude, I don't see why you have to consider being totally polite. You've been polite by rejecting the request silently. Now, it's time to at least a little, get in their face.

Simple PM them and tell them "I'm sorry, but I prefer not to accept your buddy invitation. Thank you anyway."

No excuses to haggle over. Just simple facts. No sarcasm, nor rudeness. But directly TO THEM.

If they get upset of that, it will have to be their problem, do not make it yours by engaging in any conversation over the matter. Do not reply, after you have told them no.

Just my opinion, but it's the way I would do it. If they get rude, report them.

Date Posted: 3/7/2008 2:20 PM ET
Member Since: 10/24/2007
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Or, just leave the request sitting there idle.  From what I understand, they cannot "re-ask" if there is already an outstanding invite.

Date Posted: 3/7/2008 2:28 PM ET
Member Since: 7/31/2007
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I was going to suggest the very same thing Amy did...if you leave it idle they can't in my understanding request again.

Date Posted: 3/7/2008 2:31 PM ET
Member Since: 9/18/2005
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Both very good suggestions.  You would think this person would 'get the hint' since you keep declining, but then again, perhaps you are 'egging them on' with the declines.  So, perhaps it's best to just ignore the request.  :)

Date Posted: 3/7/2008 2:41 PM ET
Member Since: 1/8/2007
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Could the issue be how quickly you've been turning down the invites? I was thinking that perhaps the person was sending an invite, then a few hours later not seeing the invite on the list and thinking the request didn't go through. Some people are forgetful... the margaritas don't help with that....

Date Posted: 3/7/2008 3:28 PM ET
Member Since: 11/14/2005
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I've not had anyone turn me down, do you get notification when they do? I have some sitting there because the people are not active anymore, but didn't think about the fact that they couldn't re-ask if you don't reject them. Nice idea, unless they start PM'ng asking if you got the request! hahahaha

J
Date Posted: 3/7/2008 3:43 PM ET
Member Since: 3/23/2007
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Thanks for all the advice. I think I'll pm her next time she sends another request. Shouldn't have to wait very long. LOL!

Date Posted: 3/7/2008 3:53 PM ET
Member Since: 9/9/2007
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From what I understand, there is no notification if a request is denied.  It just disappears.  I agree with the posters above.  I would just let it sit, eventually the person will give up.

Date Posted: 3/7/2008 5:28 PM ET
Member Since: 5/29/2007
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I have had 2 people sitting idly on my list.  One kept sending requests, so I've just let it sit.  The other is someone I've never heard of or from before, and has no information in their profile (or didn't when I checked), so there they both sit.  *shrug*

Date Posted: 3/7/2008 8:15 PM ET
Member Since: 2/16/2006
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Maybe I'm weird, but I really don't care who puts me on their list. Mine is on auto accept.

Date Posted: 3/8/2008 8:17 PM ET
Member Since: 2/24/2007
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I think mine is on auto request to. It's much easier when you host swaps.