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Subject: buddy requests
Date Posted: 2/1/2008 3:20 PM ET
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Would there be any reason for me *not* to accept a request to be my buddy?

Date Posted: 2/1/2008 3:29 PM ET
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I would guess that some people prefer to remain as anonymous as possible here, sometimes just on general principles.  There are also folks who are trying to keep a low-profile because of difficult personal situations.

One nice feature, though, is that you can designate someone a "light" buddy with fewer privileges than a regular buddy. 

Date Posted: 2/1/2008 3:34 PM ET
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I guess if it's someone you don't know or have had a bad deal with before. But then I might want that person as a buddy so I can tag them as a bad sender and and cancel any requests from them. 

I had one person offer me and I'm drawing a blank as to who they are. I'm hoping it's because they have a WL book of mine in their TBR pile or they like my shelf. I looked at their shelf and saw some books I'm interested in so I didn't mind.  I sent out a couple invites and these people might be like Who's this? But I have books on their WL in my tbr pile. If they decline then I just won't post them to them.

I wish it gave you an option of saying this is why I'm inviting you-because I like your shelf or I might be able to offer you some WL books. 

Date Posted: 2/1/2008 7:47 PM ET
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I put my buddy list invites on auto.   I can see NO reason to keep anyone from putting me on their buddy list.   Plus this way I don't get all those emails and I don't have to accept invites all the time.

Date Posted: 2/1/2008 8:07 PM ET
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Cozette, where do I go to do that, I've decided that I won't decline buddy requests but am finding the constant having to accept annoying.  If I can just set it to auto it would go along way to making this less annoying.

Date Posted: 2/1/2008 8:16 PM ET
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Well I'm not Cozette Tammy but I'll answer you any way:) If you go to your main page click settings then click on privacy controls you can set it to auto accept.

 



Last Edited on: 2/1/08 8:16 PM ET - Total times edited: 1
Date Posted: 2/1/2008 10:20 PM ET
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aaah thanks Aimee!

Date Posted: 2/1/2008 10:53 PM ET
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Thanks Aimee - you sound just LIKE me.   hee hee hee

Date Posted: 2/2/2008 1:35 AM ET
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I have a few friends I know on my buddy list, but also had added several others either from trading and talking with them after or finding they had shelfs with books similar to those I like so I can remember to check back and see if they have something I'm looking for, so they may not recognize me.

Date Posted: 2/2/2008 2:27 AM ET
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Pam - I probably wouldn't reconize you - that doesn't mean I care if you put me on your buddy list.   I mean before we never even KNEW who had us on their buddy list, so why does it matter WHY they put us there now?

Date Posted: 2/2/2008 8:02 AM ET
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But I have books on their WL in my tbr pile. If they decline then I just won't post them to them.

 

Why would you go looking for a specific person (unless already a friend) who has your books on their wish list? If you just post them to the system, they will be requested.  When you post them directly to a random person's WL, you are circumventing the FIFO system.

Obviously, I'm not saying you "can't" I just wonder why you would?  As a receiver, I don't much care if my WL books come from one person or 5. As a sender, if postage for sending 5 books individually is a much greater strain on my purse than sending 5 in one box, I'd simply post them one a week or whatever I could afford. Personally, though, if money was that tight, I just wouldn't post any new titles at all. I'd put my account on hold and go to the library.

Date Posted: 2/4/2008 3:32 PM ET
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Thats a good point.  Before we werent given the choice if we were added to someones buddy list or not......so it doesnt really matter if we're on there or not.....Thanks for pointing that out!

 

Date Posted: 2/4/2008 4:18 PM ET
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A couple of reasons it's good to have the new accept or don't accept feature are (1) with the ability to send blast PMs, it will help stop people from using blast PMs to send spam.  They won't be able to just add everyone and anyone to their buddy list to send out spam messages to and (2) since you can now choose to reveal more personal information to your buddies if you'd like (like full address and telephone number) it's a good idea to be able to say, "no, I don't want that person I don't know to have that information." 



Last Edited on: 2/4/08 4:19 PM ET - Total times edited: 1
Date Posted: 2/4/2008 4:21 PM ET
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Blast PM's ?????

Sorry, that's new to me. Please enlighten :)

Date Posted: 2/4/2008 4:35 PM ET
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I set my privacy settings to one of two levels: "Everyone" and "No one".

Then I set it to accept any buddy request.

I don't see the need for the middle level. 

If I start getting BLASTed by people then I might go back and revisit.  But I'm hoping that won't occur.

 

(It is too bad you can't have an "Automatically accept any request as a lite buddy".  It seems they automatically go to being full buddies--which makes it harder to use the privacy settings for your buddies but still remain open.)



Last Edited on: 2/4/08 4:36 PM ET - Total times edited: 1
Date Posted: 2/5/2008 1:03 PM ET
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Rose, Blast PMs are PMs that you can send out to several people at once.  You don't have to send them to one buddy at a time.   This feature has been heavily requested here, and now we have it. :)

Kayote, I think that's a great idea - to have buddies automatically added as lite rather than full buddies.