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Subject: Christmas cards
Date Posted: 12/13/2007 1:46 PM ET
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My son and his partner celebrate Christmas.  I went looking for a card today but can only find To Son and Family   Would that be appropriate?  Or would I be better off buying To the Both of You?

I'm trying to find something that will indicate we think of his partner as part of the family, also. 

Many thanks for your help.



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Date Posted: 12/13/2007 3:18 PM ET
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I think either would be fine, Ani!

 

Date Posted: 12/13/2007 3:47 PM ET
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I picked up a To the Both of You.  Had to be careful of wording and some were definitely designed for hetero couples.  On it's way now!

 

Date Posted: 12/13/2007 3:49 PM ET
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I think that to the 'to the both' of you would be great!  Unless they have kids together, then I think the family one would be appropriate.

Ani - wanna talk to my mom about xmas card ettiquette(sp?)? lol

 edited to add - Ani - you rock!!



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Date Posted: 12/13/2007 8:15 PM ET
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I know you've already purchased it, and I'm sure it's lovely, but you could always purchase a generic one and write a personal message inside, or even make one.  Just a thought............

Another thought, and I apologize if this is a dumb question but have any of you creative folks thought of starting a line of cards for the LGBTQ community, or has that been done?

Date Posted: 12/13/2007 9:26 PM ET
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Actually Julie if you do a search you can find a few here and there but I didnt find any for Christmas.

Date Posted: 12/13/2007 10:04 PM ET
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Foe a while, Hallmark had some. But, I haven't noticed them in ages. (There may have been some backlash or something. I vaguely recall something about it.)

Date Posted: 12/14/2007 11:39 AM ET
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The reason I didn't want to go the generic route, Julie, is because they were generic.  I didn't feel that would express what I was trying to convey.  You can get cards for everyone else in your life: your newspaper carrier, the postal deliverer, etc, but nothing for those families that aren't "traditional". 

That's just wrong.

Date Posted: 12/14/2007 11:58 AM ET
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Hmmmm maybe one of us should start a company. I actually have a friend who writes poetry and has submitted some to greeting card companies. Ya know thats not a half bad idea and there is a need for it. It would fill a void in the greeting card industry.

Date Posted: 12/14/2007 1:22 PM ET
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I agree Ani, and my grandfather would agree with you too, were here still around to do so.  He didn't like what cards had to say either, and so would purchase generic ones and write a very personal note in them.  I actually have stacks of cards from him thru the years.  I so love looking at them.  They remind me more of that time in my life than any other cards.  It's like a snapshot so to speak.  He would write something pertinant to me for that time.  He would even alter the fronts of the cards, if he felt inclined.

That's why I suggested it, as I think you can make any card more personal.  But you're right, you can get a greeting for your godchild, but not your life partner.  It's skewed for sure.

Date Posted: 12/14/2007 5:53 PM ET
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One thing to keep in mind - to me the thing that says the most about the senders of the cards we receive is whether they are addressed to both of us (on the envelope). To me that says an awful lot about how various people see us. And of course if they have spelled both our names right! Of course there are a few a my family (distant) who still send us religious cards, but oh well, they are nice to us in person, which some times is all you can ask from some people.