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Subject: My Christmas wish Prayers, love, Blessings
Date Posted: 12/16/2015 6:30 PM ET
Member Since: 8/11/2005
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Hugs, Love and Blessings.

My dad has lung cancer surgery is Dec 22, only can do micro surgery bc he is to weak for chemo or regular surgery, last yr was stomach cancer and he also has signs of Barrett esophagus cancer.

My 48 homeless, alcoholic nephew is back around and is really causing a lot of problems. 

He knocks on my door, yells, cuss me and my son out all the time, and I have to call the ambulance when he b passed out and have ppl come to my house telling me he is drunk passed out in the street, I have been trying to help him for four yrs and he takes off and just shows up. No one in my family helps me its just me and I don’t know what else to do, I have called detox, shelters and they all say the same thing that he has to go to them for help.

I been having a lot of chest pain, i'm on  a 30 day heart monitor, Dr. wants me to go in the ER next time it gets bad but i told her i cant because i cant be kept because my dad has a lot of dr appt that i have to meet him at the hosp, bc no one else can be there for him. He lives at the nursing home but they tell me that if i cant meet him at the hosp they have to change his appt bc they dont have anyone to go with him.

I have a lot of stomach problems and a high liver count the dr still don’t know why. 

I have buried one of my sister (my nephew mom she was a alcoholic) my nephew (my nephew, the brother from the above one) my mom and now I have my dad not well and worried about my homeless nephew that I worry about, im so scare that he would b killed or die in the street.

I have been trying to find information about funeral homes cost, to make sure that I will have the money for both of them. I still have some money left from my mom’s life insurance that im saving for them.  I have tried to get him to go with me to get his ssi card, mass id, health insurance even maybe disability but he is never sober or he says yes but don’t show up.

That my 28 yr old son comes back in my life, I don’t know what happened he stopped coming around wont answer my txts, calls, him and his sister had a very bad fall out.  He wont answer my 17 yrs old son’s txt either.  Last time I saw him was like june or july when he came to pick up his w2 form 2015 Before it was august and christmas 2014

I just wish for lots of prayers and Hugs.

Blessing to all

Date Posted: 12/29/2015 12:54 PM ET
Member Since: 7/30/2013
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Will be praying for you! So sorry to hear.  Usually if someone continues to get arrested they have a drug and alcohol court, where you have to go through a recovery program in order to stay out of jail. They do that in Virginia and Tennessee, not sure of your state, but its a way to force people into recovery, make some friends who have had the same kind of life they have had and can support him to get help through Narcotics Anonymous or Alcoholics Anonymous meetings.  My biggest advice would be : You can get a retraining order to keep him away, eventually if he violates those, he will have to stay in jail and OFF alcohol, sometimes jail is a great life changer. It could be the best thing for him.

God bless.

Date Posted: 1/1/2016 8:05 AM ET
Member Since: 11/28/2007
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Oh Boston, you have had a rough few years indeed. I send prayers to you for strength and peace. Wish I had some advice to offer regarding your nephew, but other than calling the police whenever he shows up, there is nothing else you can do. He mustn't be allowed to come around and cuss you whenever he feels like it; there is nothing you can do at this point to "help" him, he must come to realize he has to help himself. Keep calling the police when he comes around, and know you tried and tried but simply can't suffer for him anymore. Please know you are in so many hearts and prayers right now. Bless you and yours.
Date Posted: 1/1/2016 12:14 PM ET
Member Since: 8/11/2005
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Thank you both, my dad is doing good surgery went well. he is still in a little pain. well last night my nephew was sleeping on my stairs and broke off the hand rail trying to get up, i was watching him from the corner of my window, i was just crying. he left and i couldnt sleep, just thinking of him sleeping out there in the cold.  I just feel so sad becouse i just dont understand why he dont want any help.  my family just tells me not to think about him but that is not easy to do.  i want to talk to him one last time but i am scare to do so bc i not find him sober.  i just pray for him. but i want him to know i will always be here for him.

i couldnt sleep last night, this heart monitor kept beeping and i know its becouse i was so upset.  im so tired of having this machine on me, i cant wait for the 14th to be able to return this machine back.

Thank you for msgs and pms. Blessings.