This book is excellent. I once listened to a TED Talk where the guy talked about the marshmallow experiment in which it was shown that a person's ability to delay gratification at the age of 4 strongly corresponded to one's success in all areas by the end of teenage years. This book is rife with such scientific studies done by prestigious professionals from a variety of universities including the likes of Harvard, Stanford, etc.
Daniel Goleman starts off the book with a rundown of the physiological makeup of the human brain, focusing on what emotions are made of, how they work, and how they can take control of us. Then he launches into what emotional intelligence is, giving a satisfying discussion of each aspect, and sometimes each role (e.g. marriage and work.), including ways in which it is found that people can develop that aspect of EI. Goleman discusses the relevance and need of emotional intelligence in our society, pointing out how much of societies ills would be helped by an increase in emotional education. And somewhere in there, a section that particularly informed and scared me, he discussed the influence parents have on children solely through their emotional engagement.
Throughout the book Goleman successfully debunks the idea that IQ and other measurements of cognitive capacity are the end all be all of human "worth" (to put it crassly) or are even significantly relevant to predicting one's success. Goleman puts forth Emotional Intelligence, delineating it's forms and discussing it's uses, as a more accurate measurement of a persons success.
This is an excellent book. It has the perfect combination of scholarly support and lay accessibility, accomplished through good writing and ample illustrations. I've seen some people's reviews complain that the book is dense; it really isn't, but if this book is difficult for you then you need to read better books (no offense) so that you can be prepared for books like this.
The book isn't perfect, but I consider it a must read for parents and children, for those in a relationship, for bosses, workers and coworkers, for those who's emotions run dry and those who's emotions flood, and for those who care about society and want to learn another's plan for its improvement.
This discerning, revealing, thought-filled book is a must for anyone and everyone who realizes just how our emotional life can sabotage our best efforts to mature. It teaches one just how valuable one's actions and reactions matters in our ability to be and to act in an intelligent way. Intelligence is much more than being able to inculcate book knowledge. How we treat each other and how we allow others to treat us is a great part, in my opinion, on whether a person is intelligent or not. Some of the smartest people I have known are so lacking in the ability to be connected to or to live in their heart. If you just want to live in you head, this book is not for you. If you would like to improve your life this is the book for you. If you would like to understand why people act as they do which confuses the devil out of you, this book is for you. It has my highest recommendation. I still refer to it and browse through it. It's knowledges are that good.
I had to read most of this book for class and it was an overall interesting read. However, I think I had higher expectations because there was a lot of hype surrounding how great this book was. There are a lot of examples of this theories and not as much self help content. So if you are looking for how to become more emotionally intelligent this book only offers some help.
Not light reading, but an extremely good read on emotional intelligence. Why some are better with people but can be dumb as a rock or just not very successful. And how some people can be highly successful and yet have zero social skills.
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I read this book about 7 or 8 years ago, and wanted to reread it and have a copy for my library. A helpful guide for parents who want to rear emotionally intelligent children. I plan to pass it on to my daughter to read and apply with my grandchildren.