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Subject: Should I just err on the side of caution?
Date Posted: 3/22/2010 9:36 PM ET
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While I myself am not a smoker - my mom is a smoker and a lot of my books at one point or another came from her.  All the books that I have gotten from her have been sitting on my bookshelf for years and have not been in her home for quite some time.  Today - I had a WL book get requested from me and the RC is that they do not want books that come from smoking homes.  SHould I err on the side of caution and just decline the request?  Or maybe PM them first? To me personally the book does not smell at all, and don't know if books hold them smell of smoke for a long time, but I am worried that this person might be super sensitive to smoke. I can honestly say that the book has been with me for over a year. How would you handle it?

Date Posted: 3/22/2010 9:56 PM ET
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My current philosophy  when in doubt don't send it out.   Much less hassle than the alternative RWAP.

Date Posted: 3/22/2010 9:57 PM ET
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A lot of people will say don't PM, just decline or accept.  If you can PM them without clicking that the book meets the RC then go ahead & PM them.  If you have to accept the RC in order to PM them, you run the risk of losing your place in FIFO if you have to cancel the order later.  There is really no way to know how sensitive the person is to smoke from what you've typed about the member's RC. 

Date Posted: 3/23/2010 1:29 AM ET
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They ask that the book come from a non-smoking home. Your home is a non-smoking home, correct? You meet their RC. If they asked for book that had never been in a non-smoking home I'd deny, but to me you clearly meet that RC unless you mom smokes in your home currently.



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Date Posted: 3/23/2010 1:33 AM ET
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You can't PM until you either accept or decline UNLESS the member has included their PBS name in the RC.

Your book meets their RC - I'd send it.

Date Posted: 3/23/2010 1:35 AM ET
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I agree with Melanie and Cozi. The book is coming from a non-smoking home so I would send it.

Date Posted: 3/23/2010 8:09 AM ET
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My husband used to smoke so I decline all requests that mention smoking.  It's not worth the hassle to me to send out a book and the receiver be Ms. Super Sensitive Nose and mark me RWAP.

Date Posted: 3/23/2010 12:21 PM ET
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I don't believe you can PM them without accepting the book order.  Then you will be in a position of having to cancel the order if the person doesn't want the book.  That will put you at the end of the FIFO list for the book.  I do wish there was some way to be able to communicate before you accept a book request.  I have a "no smoking" RC, but would be willing to take a book from a smoking home if it is a wish list book I have been waiting for.  I would then just "de-smoke" the book.  Because there is no communication available before accepting a book order, I turn off my RC before accepting a wish-list book.  That's a real hassle.

 

Date Posted: 3/23/2010 12:27 PM ET
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OP says it's a WL book, so there is no FIFO line for her.  If she declines this request, it'll simply go to the next requestor. 

Date Posted: 3/23/2010 1:15 PM ET
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I do wish there was some way to be able to communicate before you accept a book request.  I have a "no smoking" RC, but would be willing to take a book from a smoking home if it is a wish list book I have been waiting for.

When I see a "no smoking" RC, I assume it's because of allergies.  IF I PMed you and you said to send it anyway it would really tick me off.  You are allergic but you'll put up with allergies IF you want the book bad enough?   I think of RC's as absolute - you either will accept a book that's been around smoke OR you don't.  

Date Posted: 3/24/2010 12:41 AM ET
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Date Posted: 3/24/2010 1:08 AM ET
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I overlooked that it's a WL book...your book is currently in a non smoking home, so you can meet the RC but if you're nervous about smoke smell, just decline if there are other members on the WL. 

Date Posted: 3/25/2010 9:07 PM ET
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Better to be safe than sorry. specially if you get wapped with a RWAP :-)

Date Posted: 3/25/2010 10:04 PM ET
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I used to accept the "not currently in a smoking home" RCs since my home is not a smoking home. However I no longer do since I got a RWAP because the person that received it said it smelled like smoke. It was a book I bought used and I couldn't smell anything on the book before I sent it. I guess my sense of smell isn't as sensitive as theirs. I don't know but I'm not accepting anymore of them since all my books are used and have no idea what they have been exposed to.

Wendy P. - ,
Date Posted: 3/26/2010 9:49 AM ET
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What Tammy said.  :)

Date Posted: 3/26/2010 10:43 AM ET
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As someone who has a "non smoking home" RC due to allergies I have developed, I would much rather people err on the side of caution.  There is nothing worse than looking forward to getting a book, only to not be able to read it.  I would rather wait for a copy to be sent than be sent one I can't read.