I read this book in an afternoon. Book is about a couple, one who is Caucasian, the other Chinese heritage. They marry in the late 50's when this was still uncommon. Story consists of their experiences and their children's experiences. It is so much bigger than that, though, as it also delves into parenting and that fine line between wanting more for our children and allowing them to live their own lives.
A heart wrenching story of a blended family that is told so beautifully. The story of Lydia's death and how it came to be through the eyes of her family members. Why parents pressure their children, why siblings lean on each other, why differences make us who we are.
This was one of the most depressing books I've read in a long time, but very good and well written. It is the story of a dysfunctional family (and whose family isn't?) beginning with the death of one of the kids. It unfolds from there, slowly revealing how everyone fits into the family and the tragedy. It also looks at a mixed race family and how they felt like outsiders, trying to fit into a world that looks at them as "different". It's worth a read, but be sure to have a happy book in the wings....
This is a most compelling read about lives that will definitely make you think about how you are raising your children and trying to change them and live your life through them. The whole novel is all about secrets and things that didn't turn out right for some and how this married couple put all of their hopes and dreams into their daughter, never really letting her be who she was.
In so doing, there were two other children that never felt the ability to reach their goals, or to even want to reach them. Everyone's lives centered around Lydia and, technically, everything that her mother was not able to attain in her own life.
The father also put those burdens on his daughter, as he was Oriental, thinking that people always looked down upon him because of his race. Therefore, with his daughter being half-Oriental, he was always trying to teach her to be a sociable, friendly person, to no avail.
This is a really compelling, sad look at a family that was so dysfunctional, yet not the kind of dysfunction that that term presently incurs.
I don't know what to say about this book because I didn't actually read it. I read about 20 pages, the writing was boring at best, compared to what I usually read, and I just couldn't get interested in the story at all. I used to feel obligated to finish a book, but no more. Life is too short and here are way better things to read. So, off it goes to someone else. Disappointed, I'd waited a long time for this one.
By the time I got to page 70 I knew this book was not for me. It was too dysfunctional and sad for my taste. I skimmed through the rest of the book and read a few spoilers and then I was doubly sure the book was not for me. The writing was decent but I did not care for the subject matter.