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Subject: extra books
Date Posted: 12/2/2012 11:45 AM ET
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I recieved an order from a member and it contained 2 extra books that I didn't order. I PM'd them over a week ago and still havent got a response about them. Its not a big deal but I feel like it was just a book dump one is at least current and I can post but the other is an old biography of Phil Donahue and I know it will just sit on  my list forever. Has this ever happened to anyone else?

Date Posted: 12/2/2012 12:14 PM ET
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Some members like to include freebies with an order.  I've done it before.

If you don't want the extra books, then donate them to the library or a used bookstore or give them to a friend or throw them away.

Date Posted: 12/2/2012 1:41 PM ET
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I don't like it when people do this at all.  It puts the burden on the receiver to get rid of someone elses unwanted  books. It's one thing if it's an unpostable of the receivers WL book when you know that it might at least get read. But I already have too many books and am purging like crazy. I don't want ot have to get rid of someone elses discards as well as my own.  If someone wants to get rid of books that no one is willing to a pay a credit for than run a deal and give people a choice of the freebies they want.  Or take them to the thrift store yourself.

 

 

Date Posted: 12/2/2012 5:50 PM ET
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If you don't want the extra books, then donate them to the library or a used bookstore or give them to a friend or throw them away.

I wish people would do this instead of mailing random books to people who may not want them and don't have the storage space nor means to get them to a library or USB.

It could be a messed up order. If you don't hear from them in a week, dispose of the books as you see fit.

Date Posted: 12/2/2012 6:02 PM ET
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I'm sure that the people who do that do it with the intention of doing something nice for the receiver.  It's a problem easily solved for those who might think it's an imposition or don't want to repost it.... Just register it with BookCrossing and leave it in a random spot.  It'll make somebody's day.

Date Posted: 12/2/2012 6:06 PM ET
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I did send the person a PM but I still haven't heard back yet. And like you Mary I don't like it either. I understand trying to get rid of books but if you don't want them what makes the sender think I would. They aren't even similiar to the books I ordered.

Date Posted: 12/2/2012 6:25 PM ET
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Perhaps the sender gave a "book deal" to someone else & accidentally put the extra books in with your order instead of the person who was meant to get them.  Or maybe someone else ordered the books & they got put in with your order.  Or maybe they were just added as "freebies" with your order.  I guess it could be for any number of reasons.  If you don't hear back from the sender within a few more days & you don't want them, then just donate them.

This has never happened to me though.

Date Posted: 12/2/2012 9:25 PM ET
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I used to get free books from Harlequin.  I got LOTS of them until I finally withdrew from their ambassador program so they'd quit sending them.  I stuck those freebies in with any Harlequin order from my bookshelf for quite a while to get rid of them.  I never got anything but thanks from the receivers.

Really, if it bothers you, throw them in the trash and be done with it.  Why all the angst over a few books?

Date Posted: 12/2/2012 10:21 PM ET
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What Melanie said yes

 

Date Posted: 12/2/2012 10:41 PM ET
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I wish people would do this instead of mailing random books to people who may not want them and don't have the storage space nor means to get them to a library or USB.

This. It's just a total annoyance. When people send unwanted books, they mostly go straight into the recycling bin.
Date Posted: 12/3/2012 2:43 AM ET
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Laughing - this is the only place I know where people whine about getting something extra with a purchase!  Go figure!

Date Posted: 12/3/2012 7:08 AM ET
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Date Posted: 12/3/2012 1:03 PM ET
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Laughing - this is the only place I know where people whine about getting something extra with a purchase!  Go figure!

 
But (in my experience) it's usually garbage - i.e. I'm really am not going to be super appreciative of receiving a book that a) I have no interest in, and b) looks like it's been dropped in a tub. I just think it's nice to ask.
 
I've been asked on occasion if I want another book (sometimes unpostable) in the series/by the same author and that always comes off to me as being very nice, friendly and generous (and I've made similar offers myself). But just including random things that either aren't moving one one's own shelf, or are in terrible condition without asking (as the answer will likely be "no") is just super presumptuous to me.
Date Posted: 12/3/2012 2:13 PM ET
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Caviglia, exactly. It's usually somethign with tons of copies in the system or damaged. 

I think it's much nicer to just offer a deal and let people choose their own freebies than to saddle people with books they don't want. I would have no interest in a Phil Donahue biography. It would just be annoying clutter to me.

Date Posted: 12/3/2012 2:14 PM ET
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I would have no interest in a Phil Donahue biography.

I find randomly sending someone a Phil Donohue biography hilarious. I mean, nobody wants a Phil Donohue biography.

Date Posted: 12/3/2012 3:25 PM ET
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Laughing - this is the only place I know where people whine about getting something extra with a purchase!  Go figure!

I say "no thank you" anytime someone offers me something "free with purchase" that I don't want.

Date Posted: 12/3/2012 3:36 PM ET
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Wow!  I am guilty of having done this....throwing in an extra book.  It never occured to me that it might make someone angry.  I will def. reconsider this.  But I am more than happy when I receive an extra.....if it's not one I enjoy I'm sure someone in a rest home might enjoy it.  They probably would really enjoy that Phil Donahue book. :)

Date Posted: 12/3/2012 3:43 PM ET
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if it's not one I enjoy I'm sure someone in a rest home might enjoy it.  They probably would really enjoy that Phil Donahue book. :)

I'm sorry I keep belaboring this, but this is one of my few PBS pet peeves.  This is what I don't understand: why doesn't the original owner of the Phil Donohue book donate it to a rest home? Why is this now my job? It's giving someone the gift of sourcing appropriate donors for their crap.

 

Date Posted: 12/3/2012 5:19 PM ET
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I wouldn't say I was angry about getting a couple of extra books. Its the first time its happened to me and if it was something I was interested in great but one is of no interest and the other is a book I already have posted on my own bookshelf.  And really I hate to throw away a book it seems almost disrespectful and maybe I will donate these along with other slow movers from my list to the local cancer center. But I think people should think before just dropping extra books on someone that is all I was trying to say.

Date Posted: 12/3/2012 5:39 PM ET
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+1 Sarah

I've never had this happen, but would be glad to get extras (if not smoky)-- I just can't see paying more for postage to send books the receiver may not want.  I donate plenty of books to the VA clinics, public library, school library, Goodwill so I wouldn't have any problem passing on books I receive as a surprise if I choose not to post them here.

Date Posted: 12/3/2012 6:02 PM ET
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To think that I can never send

A book to one who is my friend.

 

A book whose binding cracked in two,

Against its blemished deckled glue;

 

A book that was a joy to read,

And made me laugh until I peed;

 

A book I read at tub and soaked,

A bowl of cheetos while I smoked.

 

Upon its pages drops of rain;

That sadly now have left a stain.

 

Books I’ve ruined but want to share

Sent to a friend who did not care.

 

With apologies to Joyce Kilmer

Sorry, I had a sudden urge to write this: I haven't sent or received any extra books, but I would accept a surprise and if they were not wanted, then I guess I'd toss/recycle/post them. I don't think anyone does it to be mean or to cause a burden.  I can't know how others feel about gifts I give them, but I hope they understand my good intentions.

Date Posted: 12/3/2012 8:12 PM ET
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Linda -- FABULOUS!  {{applause, applause}}

Date Posted: 12/3/2012 8:35 PM ET
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It doesn't make me angry either it's just annoying when I'm already trying to purge stuff. 

It's similar to my  mother trying to be nice and give me things she thinks I need.  Like asking me if we like pickes and do I want an extra jar they have. Sure mom, then she shows up with this gigantic jar of pickles that doesn't even fit in my fridge. 

Date Posted: 12/3/2012 8:35 PM ET
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It doesn't make me angry either it's just annoying when I'm already trying to purge stuff.  Luckily it hasn't happened that often.

 



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Subject: Avoid angst
Date Posted: 12/4/2012 10:36 AM ET
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Thanks, Linda. 'Way better than the original.

Perhaps those of you who feel so afflicted when someone sends you a free book without asking should try to consider it as a misplaced favor, like when your mom gives you a really dreadful sweater. And you don't even have to say 'Thank you' - if the book is nothng you want, drop it off at  the Friends of the Library donation cart or the thrift store next time you go by there to leave stuff you're culling from your bookshelf. I can't believe this happems so often that it'd be an burden to do that. I have received zero unasked free books in almost four years of PBS membership with almost 900 requested books incoming.

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