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Subject: GLBT friendly experience
Date Posted: 4/11/2008 12:10 PM ET
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I get so wrapped up in the negative, so I wanted to share a positive!

 

Greta and I just closed on our first house on Wednesday.  As we were going through the paperwork our mortgage guy stopped at one point and said to everyone "Now, Jessie and Greta are married. WE recognize this but unfortunately it's not recognized in the state of PA so we have to have you down as single, joint owners. But we know you're married and are happy for you!"

 

Share the good experiences that you've had!



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Date Posted: 4/11/2008 12:36 PM ET
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That is so cool, Jessie!

 

And a HUGE congratulations on being homeowners!! 

Date Posted: 4/11/2008 12:47 PM ET
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yea for cool mortgage lenders!  COngrats on the house.. now when are you having us all over for a party???? hehe

Date Posted: 4/11/2008 12:52 PM ET
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Date Posted: 4/11/2008 2:00 PM ET
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Lauren - THAT is great!!!! 

Date Posted: 4/11/2008 6:40 PM ET
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L. G. (L)
Date Posted: 4/11/2008 6:41 PM ET
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Good on him - it's nice to know that some people *do* get it!

Congrats by the way - although I already said it before. ;)

Date Posted: 4/11/2008 8:46 PM ET
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Congratulations Jessie!  I hope you love your new home!

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Date Posted: 4/11/2008 8:59 PM ET
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That's just awesome.  And congrats on the home!

Date Posted: 4/12/2008 6:22 PM ET
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Congrats to the new homeowners.        Best of luck in your new home

Date Posted: 4/13/2008 8:43 AM ET
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Congrate to both of you!! May your house be fill with Peace and Love.

 

Date Posted: 4/13/2008 9:25 AM ET
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Well this is great news all the way around!

Jessie, congrats on your new home!  It is such an exciting time.  Home Depot here we come!!  So, when is the house warming party?

 Lauren, great news on the health insurance.  We are praying that I'll be able to get on my DP's insurance in January.  Right now I'm on Cobra, so I know how happy you are.



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Date Posted: 4/14/2008 9:24 AM ET
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Hi all!

We spent all weekend moving.  UGH!!!  I'm sick of it already:)

 

Date Posted: 4/14/2008 1:07 PM ET
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Jessie and Greta, Congrats on your new home!!!!!!!!!!!!

Date Posted: 4/14/2008 7:51 PM ET
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Happy New Home!!!!!!!!!!!  I'm so happy for you two.  You'll have to send us all pics, and then we can have a "virtual" house-warming party for you!

Date Posted: 4/14/2008 10:01 PM ET
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Congrats!

Date Posted: 4/15/2008 12:07 PM ET
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Congrats on the new home! How exciting!! That was really great of them.

We had lots of good experiences when we were planning our wedding. It honestly *really* surprised us - we don't jokingly call this place East Jesus, VA for nothing. ;) It is so easy to have a negative experience here, so to have all the positives when planning the wedding just really rocked. (And now of course I'm not going to be able to remember specifics -lol.) Mostly it was just the laid back, this is nothing unusual, attitudes that were so nice. :)

 

Date Posted: 4/15/2008 1:36 PM ET
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Courtney - we had a great experience with our wedding too!

Date Posted: 4/24/2008 8:18 PM ET
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Subject: Good experiences.
Date Posted: 5/7/2008 4:21 PM ET
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Checking in from Wisconsin - The university here (that I work for) is a state agency and offers some domestic partner benefits, and they have the same policy - you just have to say you are. Unfortunately health insurance is not one of the DP benefits, not because the university does not want it (THEY REALLY DO) but because the legislature is being a pain. The university here looses all sorts of great teachers and researchers to other schools because we don't. We are the only Big Ten school that doesn't. So there is a lot of pressure on the the legislature to get real and offer DP health insurance. My partner does not need it, she works for the State also, but if either of us lost our job it would become an issue. Neither of us could get private insurance without serious underwriting.  So I have great hopes the University high ups will prevail soon.

When we bought our house our back person said "here is the best way to buy it so you both own it" - without our asking about it. That was great.

I do get rather frustrated at times. My  SO and i have been together 13 years, and most of my straight co-workers  haven't been married that long, yet they have a lot more security than I do. 

We have a house, two and half cars, three cats and 5 boxes of cat ashes. We share our families. Some of my family likes her better than me. How much more married can you get?

Date Posted: 5/7/2008 11:30 PM ET
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two and a half cars??

Date Posted: 5/8/2008 10:15 AM ET
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Two good cars, plus one that runs but is in sorry shape. We've actually given it to some friends in Green Bay who only drive one mile to work but they still haven't picked it up (its been six months). We may end up giving it to our neighbor for demolition derby.

Speaking of neighbors and great experiences, we live in a mixed-age neighborhood and all of our neighbors are great. The houses on either side of us have changed hands since we have moved in and both the old neighbors and the new ones were really nice to us. The new ones on both sides have children in the 6-10 year old range and they come over to play with my partner whenever she gardens. And we share tools and knowledge with all of our neighbors. When I got stuck in the snow this winter (a chronic thing because of the way our driveway meets the road) all the neighbors came out to help me. We get invited to the neighbor hood parties, get x-mas cards from every one and cookies from one of the older couples. Our next door neighbor brings us birthday presents and cupcakes.

I just can't imagine living in a neighborhood that did not fully accept us a couple anymore!

Date Posted: 6/12/2008 7:45 AM ET
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We have a lot of adorable kids in our new neighborhood.  They are so friendly!  One came up to Greta a few weeks ago and said "Can I ask you a personal question?" (he was probably nine).  And she said ok.  And he said "Are you a lesbian?"  She sort of hesistated for a moment, because that's what we do - you don't know how people will react.  She told him she was.  He said, "That's okay, my aunt is a lesbian too!".  That was it.  It was much cuter in person:)

L. G. (L)
Date Posted: 6/13/2008 2:58 AM ET
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Jessie, that's soo cute! :)

I was very please to see, in our local parenting mag, a profile on a lesbian couple - one woman was caucasian and had adopted an AfAm boy, and later met her partner who was also Af Am.  So not only did they give a great story on transracial adoption, they spotlighted transracial lesbian couples as well.  To see that in "almost" main-stream media was wonderful!  Stuff like that really give me hope for the future.

Date Posted: 6/13/2008 3:27 AM ET
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That's cute Jessie.

<threadjack,sorry> We got some good GLBTnews here recenlty... as many of you know I live in the Bible belt of the nroth, and our local state senator was the one that proposed the most recent "marriage prtection" bill in PA (Ha!  My marriage is not threathened, thank you, I'd like to see Jessie and Greta's be protected!). BUT at the last Lancaster City council meeting (the city being one pocket of democratic rule in about a 200 mile radius) they made the  procolation that June was GLBT month for the city. :)  And the city is hosting it's first PRIDE event next Saturday (I can't go, but our curch is sponsoring a booth) It's nice to see their are some rational lawmakers in my area, even if they don't represent me.

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