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Subject: Now that I'm a Gold Key member.........
Date Posted: 9/20/2011 12:55 AM ET
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I am getting tons of "friend" requests from people I have never heard of, nor swapped with, and aren't active in the forums where I am.  So why are they asking to be my friend????

ONLY to get my books first when I post all the WL books I read!      Ughhhhhhhhhh

Date Posted: 9/20/2011 1:50 AM ET
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You could look at it as you may be able to get some of your wishlist books a bit quicker.  I, too, have gotten some requests and have sent some of my own.  I do not mind but some requestors do not read anything I normally carry so I am not sure what benefit they get.

Date Posted: 9/20/2011 1:58 AM ET
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So why does it matter?  You can either friend them or not.  If you do friend them, you can either send them a book (which you know they want) or not.  ALL the options are on you. You can just ignore the request if it bothers you that much.

Anyone is welcome to friend me who wants to!  I am happy to send my books to anyone who's looked at my profile/wish list and figures I will be posting books they will order.  That only makes my Gold Key more valuable in my opinon.

Date Posted: 9/20/2011 4:02 AM ET
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I'm the opposite. I tag all my friends with a note of where I know them from. I do not accept friend requests without knowing who they are or how I know them.
Date Posted: 9/20/2011 7:33 AM ET
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Yeah, Emily, I do the tags too, but won't accept friend requests unless I expect some contact with them (other than them benefitting from MY paid membership upgrade).

Date Posted: 9/20/2011 7:35 AM ET
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I am always happy to find new friends who read YA so when I have a stack of books to unload, I can send out multiples. More friends means more chances to save on postage. A week or two ago, I sent out a bunch of multiples -- I think I saved the cost of the gold keymembership already.

A bunch of those books went out to some people I'd never swapped with before and I was happy about that -- for me, meeting other readers is part of the fun of PBS.

Date Posted: 9/20/2011 7:42 AM ET
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Thanks for the warning...I just got the Gold Key membership this morning--not something I really need, but I had almost that exact amount that's been sitting in my PayPal account for ages so decided to spend it off. I get friend requests that I have no idea who the person is sometimes anyway, in fact was just going to weed through my list and delete those that I don't really know or have any interaction with.

Cheryl

Date Posted: 9/20/2011 7:56 AM ET
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I made some friend requests when I purchased my gold key membership.  Didn't really think about being the recipient of other members' WL books... I thought it would be cool to be able to mail WL books to THEM.  Looked at their wishlists and if we had common reading styles, I sent a request.  I guess I never thought that it might irritate some people. 

Date Posted: 9/20/2011 8:19 AM ET
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Mine has been steadily going up. I don't really care.  I don't know half the people on my friends list. Don't care.  I have it set to autorequest.  If someone buddies me just because I have the Gold Key it's probably because they similar reading tastes as me. Otherwise it would do them no good.  And if one of them has multiples of the WL books I post and saves me postage then it's only helping me. 

It's not worth fretting over.  Friend away.

Date Posted: 9/20/2011 8:23 AM ET
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Actually-the bigger my friend list and the greater the opportunity for me to find people to ship multiples to: increases the # of books I will post.  So really it helps the whole club.  Because I will be inclined to post more WL books if I can save postage rather than putting them on a site where the requestor pays. 

Date Posted: 9/20/2011 10:46 AM ET
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Looked at their wishlists and if we had common reading styles, I sent a request.  I guess I never thought that it might irritate some people. 

I'm one of those people who doesn't do auto-accept.  It doesn't irritate me per se, but I do like to know where the people I get requests are coming from.  If I see someone I don't recognize and we don't seem to have similar reading styles I'll send them a PM and ask.  If I see a person with a wish list with lots of YA books, I usually know where they are coming from.  :)

Date Posted: 9/20/2011 12:16 PM ET
Member Since: 1/17/2009
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I agree with Mary.

I accept all friend requests. The people who friend me who have common reading tastes will obviously benefit more than just random requests .... but personally, I send friend requests to people when I find their shelves interesting in some way, (doesn't have to be because they have the exact same taste), and I don't really care why people might friend me.

I don't really see a disasvantage to me, for accepting everybody as a friend.

So far, of the WL books I have posted since Gold Key, I was able to send multiples to 2 people. So, it doesn't just benefit people who friend me, it also saves me postage.

I have also been offered some WL books thru Gold Key. Thanks!!!!!

 

Sianeka - ,
Date Posted: 9/20/2011 1:23 PM ET
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I'm jealous!!! <jk> 

I keep hearing about others having this happen, but I have not seen an increase in my Friends due to my Gold Key membership.  I guess my lists are just too weird!!!  LOL

Date Posted: 9/20/2011 1:36 PM ET
Member Since: 8/23/2007
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Mine haven't gone up that much.  Maybe by 10 since I got the membership.  So not much at all.  I wouldn't have even noticed if there weren't threads started about it.

Date Posted: 9/20/2011 3:06 PM ET
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I also have mine sent to auto accept.  I agree with Mary and Sara.  I really can't think of a reason not to be "friends" with someone--and I will sometimes send friend requests out to someone if it looks like their reading tastes are similar to mine. And if I'm sending out a wishlist book to one of my "friends", I think it's more likely to avoid the problem of no response and rolling over to the next person in line.  Obviously not a guarantee, but I think people that want to "friend" me just because of my gold key are more likely to be active members.

Date Posted: 9/20/2011 3:41 PM ET
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I'm with some of the others.  I accept any and all friend requests that come my way.  Who am I to deny someone the pleasure of being my friend.  ;)

As for wishlisted books, when I post them, if they don't go FIFO, they will go to someone I know really enjoys the genre.

Date Posted: 9/20/2011 4:51 PM ET
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I've only had one friend request since getting Gold Key, only two since joining the site last year. See, now y'all have got me feeling all unpopular. cheeky

All jokes aside, I agree with what everyone else has said about there not really being a downside to accepting friend requests. Especially if there's an opportunity to save on postage! Plus, sometimes seeing a book on a particular individual's wishlist (rather than just seeing a number of wishers) makes me more apt to decide I can part with my copy. I'm a silly sap in that way.

 

 

Date Posted: 9/20/2011 5:15 PM ET
Member Since: 12/28/2005
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(other than them benefitting from MY paid membership upgrade). 

I guess I'm a little unclear how the whole gold key WL thing works then.  I thought the other person would have to be a gold key member too.  So haven't they paid for the upgrade also?

Date Posted: 9/20/2011 5:34 PM ET
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I found a downside to friending people.... when you check out their wishlist to see if you have similar reading tastes, you often end up with 10 more books on your own wishlist.  Good thing gold key gives you more spots!  smiley

Date Posted: 9/20/2011 5:59 PM ET
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I thought the other person would have to be a gold key member too.

I'm pretty sure the other person just has to be on your friends list, whether or not they have gold key.  But I suppose I could be misunderstanding that. 

Date Posted: 9/20/2011 6:46 PM ET
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You nailed it, Alisa.  If someone with a gold key posts a wish list book, before clicking the final button to post it, he'll see a list of any of his friends who have that book on their wish list.  He can choose to send it to one of them, or choose to post it FIFO.

Cathy A. (Cathy) - ,
Date Posted: 9/20/2011 8:59 PM ET
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LOL, I'm another one who auto-accepts PBS friends. So far it's working great at letting me send multiple WL books without having to mess with the Book Bazaar thread. If someone else also benefits from my gold key membership, that's o.k. with me.

Warning to those reading this: I don't PM in advance to see if you have credits. If you don't want to get your WL books now, please don't friend me!

Date Posted: 9/20/2011 9:44 PM ET
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I don't expect orders for multiple books, though I appreciate it when someone does order more and saves me postage so that has nothing to do with my list of friends.

I use my friends list as though we truly are friends-- I mostly accept friends' requests from people I actually expect to PM with, or exchange coupons or Raoks with.  Some are people who post frequently in the forums whose opinions I respect. (I LOVE the ignore button so I can decrease exposure to the negative forces that sometimes frequent the forums.)  I sometimes will randomly PM one of my "friends" and ask how they liked a certain book on their shelf (assuming they read it) or I might ask them to write a review of a certain book or ask a question about the region/city they live in.

Date Posted: 9/20/2011 11:42 PM ET
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I'm happy to friend anyone who'd like to be friends with me.  :)   I don't see a downside.

 

Date Posted: 9/21/2011 7:53 AM ET
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I used to accept about anyone--figured it was someone I'd sent a book to or someone who saw a post on the forums even if I didn't recognize the name. But the last two friends I accepted that I didn't know ended up being those spammers who sent blast PMs about their porn vidcams. Now they're not friends, neighbors or even members. And since then I've gotten pickier...

I can't see the point of having bunches of people on your list if you don't even know who they are, it just becomes one more cumbersome thing to manage. If I post a WL book to anything other than FIFO, I'm only going to do that for people I know from the very few forums I frequent or those I know IRL anyway.

Cheryl

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