by: Erin Vincent
Grief Girl by Erin Vincent is a true story about her life. When she was 14 years old she was at home waiting for her parents, when her phone rings. It's a nurse telling her that her parents were in a car accident. She was in shock and she ran to her neighbor's house.
That left Erin, her older sister Tracy, and their little brother Trent in turmoil. At first their parents' friends and family were nice and caring. Then after a while they all became unsupporting, from their uncle who wouldn't give them THEIR money to spend or to their mom's old friend who started flirting with their dad while he was on his sickbed!
I rated this book a 10 because it was really good. It must have been hard for Erin Vincent to write this book because she would have to relive the memories. But the way she wrote this book was phenomenal. You can feel her pain, anguish, and frustration at the world, her family, God, and even herself. You can't help but feel some compassion for her as she struggled in this book. It was a truly marvelous and profound book.
In this heartbreaking yet uplifting memoir, Erin Vincent recounts the tragedy of losing both of her parents in a terrible car accident when she was fourteen. What makes the story so sad, at least for me, was that fact that her father, unlike her mother, was not killed instantly in the crash, but survived for a number of weeks before succumbing to his injuries. For me, this fact made Ms. Vincent's story even more difficult, as it felt like hope had left her family for good.
"They say God is a comfort to all those who mourn. How can you be a comfort to those you've made suffer? What manipulation! It's like having your wounds dressed by the person who hurt you...No, sorry, you're a bit late, God."
For Erin, it takes awhile to realize that wishing something bad would happen to your parents is not the same as killing them. It doesn't take long, though, to realize that her horrible extended family - her father's parents and her mother's wretched brothers - are up to no good. With only her older sister, Tracy, and Tracy's boyfriend, Chris, to watch our for Erin and her younger brother, Trent, things are not going to get easier in a hurry.
As life goes on - Erin returns to school, she watches as both her mother and father are buried, she goes on a trip with her theater group - she realizes that life cannot be categorized as either good or bad, but rather is a series of ups and downs, of highs and lows. As Erin leans on her best girlfriend, as the only true friends of her parents help out her beleaguered "family" when they need help, she learns that life does go on, whether you want it to or not.
The wonderful thing about GRIEF GIRL is that Ms. Vincent never comes across as pitiful, although it would be easy to pity a girl who lost both of her parents. Although technically an orphan, she never adopted that orphan attitude. And even though there were many times throughout her life in which both friends and family took advantage of her, Erin shows in the end the fighting spirit to reclaim what is hers - something that I'm sure would make her mother and father very, very proud.
This is a wonderful memoir I would recommend to anyone, but especially those who have faced their own losses. Ms. Vincent's enduring spirit of strength is to be admired.