Search - His Needs, Her Needs: Building an Affair-Proof Marriage

This is a very helpful book in recognizing the top five needs of a man and the top five needs of a woman. My husband and I read this as part of our pre-marital counseling. It is pretty easy to read and retain. You can even skip over some of the hypothetical situations and still get a lot out of this book.

The author holds a somewhat old-fashioned view of gender roles (women working outside of the home, men making the money to support a family, etc.)but he has some very good ideas about men's and women's needs and how to meet them with your spouse. You do come to understand a lot more how affairs happen and that they are avoidable.

I think every married, or about to be married, person should read this book. One of the most important messages you'll get is that ANYONE can have an affair, no matter how committed, in-love, or how strong a Christian. Realizing what deficiencies in a relationship can do to exacerbate temptation will help you see how to prevent it. He writes from an experienced counseling background and gives case-studies that detail what emotional needs we have as men and women. A must-read if you want to strengthen your relationship.