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Subject: Other homeschoolers--with more time..plans with others
Date Posted: 8/31/2007 8:42 PM ET
Member Since: 4/26/2006
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sorry, can't think of a good title...

today we were supposed to go to the museum with another homeschool family (The T-rex Sue exhibit--awesome!)

anyway, it has been planned all week..

I work mornings but am off by noon. I told this other person, I would call them as soon as I got home from work and we would all head to the museum at the same time. She agreed.

So, I get home about 12:20. I call her and ask if they were about ready to head out. She said no. She went and bought a car and had to go get it licensed, go to the courthouse and then go back home and get her kids. She asked if I would wait an hour or hour and a half. uh what? The museum closes at 5 anyway and would take about 30 min to get there and we already had this planned.

I told her I had something else to do later, which I did and we needed to go then, not an hour and a half from then...

She says "you mean you're going to go without us"  huh? Am I wrong here?

About three weeks ago, this same lady was going to take my daughter to kids day at the park on a Saturday I was working. Her daughter broke her ankle the day before, I had not heard from them so  I assumed it was off given the circumstances. I told my daughter it was off, she was ok with that. Other Mom calls me AT WORK the next day and wonders why no one at my house is answering the phone. (hubby and kids did something else). So she starts getting upset. I told her I didn't think they would go since they had been at the hospital the night before. She was still taking her other kid I guess. So then she says "so Megan's not going, that will mean "c" (her son) will be the only one going" I was irritated by this time because she is whining to me while I am at work!

ok, I realize that a lot of homeschooling families have stay home moms. I don't have that option. But, I only work until noon. I have the whole rest of the day and my days off to do stuff. BUT  I cannot just up and run at a moment's notice like poeple who do not work (I know stay home moms do alot, don't flame me, I'm just saying I have to fit everything in the hours I am not at work)

I guess this is just a vent. But am I wrong for being a little perturbed?

Date Posted: 8/31/2007 8:56 PM ET
Member Since: 1/15/2007
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You were right to be bothered about your friend's inconsiderate use of the museum afternoon.  I don't think the situation has anything to do with your friend's not being employed.

The other situation sounds like miscommunication.

 

Date Posted: 8/31/2007 9:34 PM ET
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I don't blame you at all for being upset.  That's terribly inconsiderate of the other mom and I'm not so sure I'd want to plan too many more activities with someone that flakey.  :(

Date Posted: 8/31/2007 9:35 PM ET
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I would have been upset too!  It's not only inconsiderate, but it's often times a real let down for the children when people do things like this. 

Date Posted: 9/1/2007 3:58 AM ET
Member Since: 4/9/2006
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Shannon said: "It's not only inconsiderate, but it's often times a real let down for the children when people do things like this. "  I couldn't agree with you more!

I don't have a whole lot of spare time either (and I don't work outside my home.)  I find it extremely frustrating when friends do this, too.  The real problem is that some people have no respect for others' time.

Date Posted: 9/1/2007 12:27 PM ET
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Agree about the respect for other's time.  I have a good friend who we try to plan things, but we both understand that we have lifestyle's that warrant just a day or two's notice only.  I would be upset cancelling on the same day without any notice.  I also don't commit to something unless I am sure about it and if I have to cxl do so at a respectful time, at least 24 hours in advance.

Date Posted: 9/1/2007 3:43 PM ET
Member Since: 7/6/2006
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I have learned not to let stuff like this "GET" me but sometimes it is hard.

Our group is great for the most part - but everyone is chronically late.  IF something is supposed to be at 2, no one will be there until 2:30- some at 3!  So I have just learned to play on it. 
The other problem is people saying they want to do stuff, but then you plan it and at the last minute there is no participation.  Our group is not that big...but I just love the folks that really try and show up. 

I've just learned that any homeschool group is what you make it.  If you show up, and there's only one family there - then by all means show up the next time - because THEN if another family comes, there will be 2.  And the more people there ARE, the more people like the group - but if no one shows UP, then people think - Oh there's no one in this group, this is a waste of time.

Anyway....sigh ...this last year was the worst for getting people together.  I don't know why.  I am hoping the upcoming year will be better.

Date Posted: 9/1/2007 5:29 PM ET
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It sounds like the first was miscommunication. Then, this time happened, and your emotions were fueled by what happened last time. I try to remember that life is always unpredictable. I would hve probably said, sorry, but we couldn't wait any longer and maybe next time would be better for her. And I would harbor no guilt about going alone, either. :)