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Subject: House Rules
Date Posted: 3/2/2011 8:22 PM ET
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I have been reading House Rules a memoir by Rachel Sontag and I have to say this book is really getting to me .I have read alot of books about bad childhoods but something about this book is unnerving maybe it;s the way its written but I feel like I;m right there with her.Wondering if anyone else read it and what you;r  opinion was?

Date Posted: 3/3/2011 9:09 AM ET
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 I have read it. I did not like it. I read the abuse type memoirs all the time. This one is not as bad as some of the ones I have read. If you can handle this one I could give you some more titles or even reccomend some to you when I post them. Only if you can handle the bad stuff though.

Date Posted: 3/3/2011 11:56 AM ET
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Love, what didn't you like about it?

Date Posted: 3/3/2011 1:02 PM ET
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I think it is because the father seems twisted that its so weird and the mother doesn;t protect her. I have read Glass Castle, Lucky, Liars Club,The Territory of Men, At Her Death, andRescuing Patty Hearst. non of them were happy this is just really sick stuff.

Date Posted: 3/3/2011 10:00 PM ET
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To me it did not seem that all of what she said she suffered seemed like "abuse" . Don't get me wrong she was abused but I have read so much worse. I am sad for her she had to suffer any abuse. I did get at mad at the mom as much as the dad though. I read at least one abuse memoir a week. I get a lot of them from the UK and you have not even broken the surface of this type book unless you read one of those. To tell the truth I would have to go read my review to tell you details of why I did not like it..I read it over a year ago and with reading two -three books a week I would not want to get you steered the wrog way with the wrong info...If I think of it I will go read my reveiw.

I have also read most of the above mentioned books...

LOVED The Glass Castle, The Liars Club : waiting for a copy of the Patty Hurts one.

 

Date Posted: 3/4/2011 1:16 AM ET
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I think maybe sometimes vebal abuse can scar you as bad as physical . When you are abused vebally it messes with you in diffrent ways and it is usually unrational like making noise with you;r fork on the plate things like that make you constantly worring what u are doing is going to cause someone else to get mad and see how stupid and imperfect you are,You learn to hide ur emotions because it is a weakness,If the person who verbally abuses you is ur father it makes you expect men to talk that way to you and when they don;t you feel  like you need to punish you;rself or constantly point out ur faults to them.You also know no matter how bad you want to make the person who abuses you love you they wont because you are so pathetic they will never love you, I just don;t know if people understand how long term verbal abuse by a father/Mother can mess you up/We all of course understand how awful physical abuse is and I think more people understand it'and the toll it takes on a child.

Date Posted: 3/4/2011 9:52 AM ET
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I know first hand what any abuse can do to you ....From personal expirience and from the children I have taken in over the years. I have one my youngest adopted son who is still suffering and living with the rsults and he has been with me for over 8 years. It's really sad.  I have to agree verbal is just as bad as physical. Does not make scars you can see but does leave it's own little mark.

Date Posted: 3/7/2011 8:09 PM ET
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I have one on my shelf only one in system....

Worthless by Mailyn Hardy ~~This one is so sad. I get a lot of these from the Uk I post most of them here on Pbs when I am done with them.

Date Posted: 3/13/2011 1:07 AM ET
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My father was vebally abusive I think that book brought back memories i had tried so hard to forget.

Date Posted: 3/15/2011 4:07 PM ET
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I have a friend who asks me why I read such books? I tell her all the time "It's good to know I am not the only one" knowing someone else has suffered what I have makes me not feel like that lonely secluded kid.

Date Posted: 3/15/2011 8:19 PM ET
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So true beatifully put