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Subject: How does reading romance novels effect your romantic relationships?
Date Posted: 12/20/2009 12:31 PM ET
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This may seem weird but reading romance novels - something I have been doing for only a couple of years now - has definitely had an impact on my marriage - mostly for the better:-) I have to keep in mind that romance heroes are fantasy men and that real life men don't 'perform' in the same way (especially middle aged husbands lol). However, for the most part, reading romance novels has really enhanced the romance in my marriage. How about you ladies - am I weird lol??

Date Posted: 12/20/2009 1:07 PM ET
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We have a really good time with romance books.  I like to read aloud in the dark the really sexy passages.  Sometimes, the ones that I think are so sexy and hot, just make my lover laugh and laugh.  It has been fun for us. 

Date Posted: 12/20/2009 4:25 PM ET
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yea When I am reading a Lora Leigh book aloud to my husband we just crack up , something that seems hot to you when reading to yourself is hilarious read aloud. Other than that it hasn't had an impact really.

Date Posted: 12/20/2009 4:45 PM ET
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they have helped me come out of my post pregnancy drought. Love me some erotica. yes Lora Leigh books spice me up a lot more than our regualr schedule, lol. i dont read out loud, just 2 myself, then jump him. ;)

Date Posted: 12/20/2009 6:10 PM ET
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Jamie said: i dont read out loud, just 2 myself, then jump him

LOL!  Same here.

Date Posted: 12/20/2009 8:07 PM ET
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no its not weird really lol they seem to spice up alot of things and by that i mean sex ;)

so i end up jumping him too lol

Date Posted: 12/20/2009 8:28 PM ET
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We laugh about them a lot. My husband is very funny when he starts riffing.  And I think they keep me in... good mood, shall we say.

Date Posted: 12/20/2009 9:05 PM ET
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Seeing as I have no boy friend or husband I can't say it helps my real life out much,lol,but my fantasy life is a completly different story.LOL.

Date Posted: 12/20/2009 10:03 PM ET
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I don't think my DH would complain about me reading them - put it that way:P

Date Posted: 12/20/2009 10:31 PM ET
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I dont' have anyone to jump :(

Date Posted: 12/20/2009 10:34 PM ET
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I'm probably the opposite of the other responses. Sometimes i can get a bit depressed because my DH isn't the least bit romantic at all. You read these books and you see how the hero cherishes the woman and she KNOWS she's loved and then you look over at the pot bellied guy laying in the recliner who's scratching himself or farting loudly and is so engrossed in his television program that he doesn't hear a word you say. I swear sometimes i can be talking for 15 minutes and stop in mid sentence and he doesn't even notice that i stopped talking or that i was even talking to begin with.Obviously i know that romance books are fictional, but it would be nice once in awhile to be noticed or appreciated by your spouse.

He's on the road a lot (truck driver) and sometimes reading too many romance novels will make me miss him more. Not so much for the sex but just for companionship. Yes, reading the spicer books have boosted my sex drive some. Most times though he's too tired and i get shot down once again. I do love my romance books though so i keep reading them. Sometimes if  i get too down after reading them i will switch to a true crime novel or something to mix it up a bit.



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Date Posted: 12/20/2009 10:42 PM ET
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Susanna : I dont' have anyone to jump :(

Me either. :( But when I do boy will he be in trouble.LOL.

Tanya: Obviously i know that romance books are fictional, but it would be nice once in awhile to be noticed or appreciated by your spouse.

Yeah,if I start dating again those poor guys will have a very high standard to uphold to.No oger for me.



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Date Posted: 12/21/2009 10:05 AM ET
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Sometimes i can get a bit depressed because my DH isn't the least bit romantic at all. You read these books and you see how the hero cherishes the woman and she KNOWS she's loved

I definitely know how you feel.  My dh isn't romantic 99% of the time either.  Maybe TMI, but I would say just about the only time he touches me or pays me any special attention is when he's "in the mood".  I know it's not all sunshine & roses, especially after a while (we've been together 10 years), but a little hand-holding, a call during the day for no reason, being held just to be close & not for another reason... that would be nice, you know?


On the flip side, I will join the other girls who say reading romance definitely spices up my sex life.  lol   I have never had a very high sex drive and reading a sexy book definitely puts me in the mood. 



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Date Posted: 12/21/2009 10:59 AM ET
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I definitely find that when I'm reading them it increases my usually low sex drive. 

 

Also we like to chortle together about all the funny euphamisms for penis.  Last night I found: "fleshy monster" and "angry rod."  That definitely takes the sexy out.  My husband suggested "glorious obelisk" in case anyone is working on a story now. . .

Date Posted: 12/21/2009 11:15 AM ET
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Seeing as I have no boy friend or husband I can't say it helps my real life out much,lol,but my fantasy life is a completly different story.LOL.

Ditto here on the fantasy life! And now I worry that I'll have too high expectations once I do start dating again, lol.

Date Posted: 12/21/2009 1:03 PM ET
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I can see where reading romances would add to the frustration if one doesn't have an especially amorous spouse, or you're single.  I have one of those DHs who never turns me down & actually likes to cuddle - he sometimes even has to snag me in the middle of the 10 million things I have to do every day just to curl up on the couch with him - so I have no cause to complain, and really have to fit my romance reading in around him, the kids and their demands on my time, and everything else:P  My books do remind me to slow down & count my blessings though.  I have friends who feel neglected by their husbands & consider me very lucky that I don't.

Date Posted: 12/21/2009 5:02 PM ET
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Oooh, Kim, you are fortunate to have such a loving hubby! I haven't had anyone to "jump" for a loooooong time, but I take lots of mental notes from my romantic readings!

Date Posted: 12/21/2009 9:46 PM ET
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Seeing as I have no romantic relationship, it doesn't affect my relationship at all. LOL.