The author makes some very good points. One is that children should get the consequences of their actions, not necessarily the punishment. Protecting children against consequences of their actions is harmful and sets them up for failure in the adult world.
provides communication methods to help cope with a child's negative feelings, like frustration, disappointment, anger, etc...also methods for expressing anger without being hurtful, and for engaging a child's willing cooperation...
The teacher version (...so kids can LEARN) was HUGELY helpful when I started teaching K/1st grade. Although I certainly would advocate using other parenting methods as well, this is the #1 parenting book I recommend. When you are frustrated about common interactions that don't go well, the cartoons showing the old/new way of dealing with certain behaviors are GREAT and easy to refer to. These authors have a GREAT book like this for teens now too, and I give their other book Siblings Without Rivalry as 2nd baby gifts.
"...will give you the know-how you need to be more effective with your children- and more supportive of yourself. Enthusiastically praised by parents and professionals around the world, the down-to-earth, respectful approach of Faber and Mazlish makes relationships with children of all ages less stressful and more rewarding."
This book is wonderful. It really opens your eyes on how to communicate to younger people. It gives you excercises to practice the different techniques. I couldn't be more thrilled with the results this book is already providing. I have already ordered "How To Talk So Kids Can Learn" I cant wait to read it :-)
Flew through this because it was due back at the library and now I just need to buy it and read it all over again. You would not know it was written so long ago and while it seems as though the content should be common sense it isn't. Too many years of talking to our kids like we were talked to and what they write about acknowledging feelings (both good and bad), helping kids problem solve and work out conflicts with siblings, those are such important things. I am already saddened at how I have talked to my infant sometimes and she isn't even a year old yet. So glad I read this now so I can spend years perfecting my new skills.