Husbands and Wives Author:Melvyn Kinder, Connell Cowan Exploding Marital Myths : Deepening Love and Desire — From bestselling authors Cowan and Kinder comes an indispensable guide for everyone who want to deepen a relationship. The authors explain why the marital myths we have grown up with cause so many problems in marriage today and offer readers hope and help by providing workable solutions. — Publ... more »ishers Weekly
"Change in a marriage is possible, but it will never happen so long as you make it something your mate should be doing," write clinical psychologists Kinder and Cowan (Smart Women/Foolish Choices) in their latest treatise on romantic relationships. The authors lay blame for dissatisfaction in marriage on partners of either sex who have an "Other-Directed attitude" -those who believe that "marital satisfaction is something you get your spouse to do for you." The goal is, instead, to become "Self-Directed," taking charge of one's own needs and their fulfillment while letting go of "negative attachments" to one's mate. The result: ". . . the other person has to respond in a different way." Even-handed and straightforward, Kinder and Cowan speak sympathetically and responsibly of the rhyme and reason of diminished expectations for husbands and wives alike.« less