Hm - this book starts out & continues with extreme religious text, quotes from the bible, religious overtones & blaming of the parents for the choice of our marriage partner (claiming we marry the worst of our two parents personality and then try to "fix" our partner thereby fixing our relationship to our parents).
It goes on to say everyone is a "jerk" either a lvl 1, lvl 2 or lvl "N" (psychopath) - but even the author's stories of himself, being a "lvl 1" were way beyond what most people I know do.
He states everyone is born with Narcissism - Sigmund Freud believed that some narcissism is an essential part of all of us from birth and was the first to use the term in the reference to psychology
At core this book is based on Freud: we're all somewhat in love w/our parents & want to "fix" what went wrong via our relationships/marriage - that God is real and and that we "grow up" to reduce our selfishness but we are all have Narcissism... AND that we are all Masocistic : Just to what degree (?!).
I couldn't read it - to be honest to me it is a bunch of hogwash - so I'll post for a bit / if no one claims this book I'll donate it. :(
Great insight to what can make people tick. Whether it be you or others around you.
From the back:
Dr. Meier combines years of counseling with a light-hearted look at his own life in this handbook on human relationship to help you be aware when you are being manipulated, understand how your past can influence your reactions to people now, identify your own "jerk" tendencies, and develop and nurture mature relationship based on respect.
oh my god what a read.. it made me realize i need to speak to a therapist for all the jerks ive had in my life....
Good advice if you believe you allow yourself to be used or walked over by others.
This book is about being aware of being abused by jerks, our own jerk tendencies, our past effects our present relationships and how to develop mature relationships.
To be honest it made me think of my family when I read this book. It was honest and refreshing. By the way, I love my family, but I may not like them all of the time.
This book shows how you can deal with the impossible people in your life. Based on years of personal experience and counseling at the Minirth-Meier Clinic, Dr. Meier helps you understand what is happening when a spouse, boss, pastor, parent or friend tries to take advantage of you and how to make wise choices to deal with the problem.
Got this book because of the atmosphere where I work. Can't say it helped that much,but was an interesting read.
I picked this up for a friend due to her nasty work atmosphere but she stated it was geared more toward relationships within the family not the workplace.