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Subject: Loaning Books
Date Posted: 2/17/2008 8:30 PM ET
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Do you ever loan your keeper books, the good stuff that you looked and looked for almost forever or have had for years and it is long out of print?  I wish I had another place for them, but my favorite books  are on three walls of bookshelves in the computer room and we have assorted acquaintances and relatives that follow us in there for one thing or another and end up browsing while they wait and then want to borrow books.  I have had some really bad experiences with the shape borrowed books come home in, (some of the stuff that people do, well. . .) and that's if they come home at all. 

My sister says I'm being obsessive about it, after all it's only a book, but I finally decided to just not loan them out.  I was tired of the aggravation.  I figure if I collected stamps no one would ask to borrow them (I don't think,-- hey, sorry I licked that stamp and mailed it out by mistake, but it was a 20 cent stamp right?, hands you a quarter and wants change, LOL)  Or if I collected coins, (Hey, I put that in the meter by mistake, but it was a dime right, here's 2 nickles).

Are you laid back about your favorite books?

 

Date Posted: 2/17/2008 8:44 PM ET
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I'm so frazzled about my keeper books, that I actually own 2 copies of each.  And I don't lend out either copy!  I just have a second copy in the event that one gets read too much, I have the second copy to fall back on.  Weird, I ask you?



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Date Posted: 2/17/2008 8:46 PM ET
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I haven't loaned out my favorites yet, but if it was out of print and precious to me, I'd have to really really trust the person to treat the book well and most importantly RETURN IT TO ME or I'd have to hunt them down and kill them!

Date Posted: 2/17/2008 9:55 PM ET
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Oh, Monica, I do the same thing.  I have several boxes stored away of second copies of my favorites.  That way I can relax and take them in my purse and handle them all I want and know I've got a replacement if anything happens.  My husband said "Have you personally ever lost or damaged one of your favorites in 35 years?"  "Well. . . no. . . but it COULD  happen.  This is insurance and the point of insurance is peace of mind!"

 

edited to say, Claudia, a jury of your peers would find you Not Guilty.



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Date Posted: 2/17/2008 9:55 PM ET
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I don't loan them out.  Really, I don't know anyone offline that likes the same books I do and would want to borrow one.  If I did, I would have to REALLY trust them because I'm not a big loaner of anything.  I don't trust someone else'd take care of my stuff the way I do.

Date Posted: 2/17/2008 9:57 PM ET
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I don't do the whole second copy thing because my books rarely leave the house with me.  I've got games on my cell phone and my PDA if I'm going to an appointment and will be waiting to entertain me.

Date Posted: 2/17/2008 10:04 PM ET
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I HID all my romances when my MIL was visiting. She has no respect for paperbacks, they're all "bathtub books" to her. I'm terrified she will visit again - my collection is twice the size it was then and my TBR pile would probably have to go in the garage!

Date Posted: 2/17/2008 10:44 PM ET
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Date Posted: 2/17/2008 11:14 PM ET
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i don't have anyone to loan any too. my mom only reads inspirational books now and my friends that read are too far away to borrow and i don't know anyone locally that reads. do i have it good or what?

Date Posted: 2/17/2008 11:34 PM ET
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I don't loan, I usually give books to friends.  I have and will loan some keepers to friends here.  It's worked out just fine so far.  I don't know, I know all too well about wanting really badly to read a rare out of print book and being unable to get it, and when I see someone say they really want to read something I have just sitting on a shelf, it makes me feel like a Scrooge.

Date Posted: 2/17/2008 11:41 PM ET
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I have no problem sharing books with my mom or sister (which is not often because our tastes tend to be different) but I have a friend that I don't offer to loan books to anymore. She's rough on them or I don't get them back. I'm not overly picky about my keeper books. I definitely don't have multiple copies(I don't have the space). I've only been collecting them for a few years and I don't believe I have any that cannot be replaced.

Date Posted: 2/18/2008 4:52 AM ET
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I have had to rebuy Diana Gabaldon's Outlander THREE times due to flakey people not returning it.  You think by not I would have learned, but no - my copy has been with my friend for about 6 months now.  Guess I'll see if she returns it, otherwise guess I'll order one on here!

Date Posted: 2/18/2008 6:08 AM ET
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My sister and I loan books back and forth. Little does she know I have a bookshelf tucked away in my closet with the books I cannot bear to part with. Some of them I really don't think I'd be able to find again, or would be able to afford if I did.

Date Posted: 2/18/2008 8:27 AM ET
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No - I do not share! LOL   I have a relatively small (less than 30 books) keeper shelf so what I did was get a small 3 shelf bookshelf from Walmart and I keep those books in my bedroom.  No one goes in there but us so I know they are "safe" and both my husband and kids know not to touch them.  Everything else is fair game and is in our den on our big bookshelf.

Sherri

Date Posted: 2/18/2008 9:45 AM ET
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I have a friend I share books with and will occasionally share with a co-worker of hers.  I loaned a few books to another PBS member because she really wanted to finish up a series.  Other than that I do not loan. I learned when I was a lot younger that most people don't care if they take care of a book that is loaned to them.  I've had them come back to me stained, torn, water damaged and ,in some cases, I never even get it back.  So now I will rarely do it.

Date Posted: 2/18/2008 10:07 AM ET
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Everyone around here has learned not to lay a finger on one of my books.  My kids use my computer, and if whatever I'm reading is on my desk when they get on my computer, they yell for me to come & get my book.  They get crumbs in my keyboard, because the little rats sneak snacks in here, but they know not to even breathe hard around one of my books:P  And I'm like a hundred times more anal about something borrowed.  I practically read them with tweezers.

Date Posted: 2/18/2008 10:40 AM ET
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Kim, LOL

I hope that you didn't use tweezers on mine.  I am anal but, not that anal.  I didn't use tweezers on yours.  Sorry, LOL

Date Posted: 2/18/2008 10:56 AM ET
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I don't loan out my keepers.  In fact, I don't loan out ANYTHING that would jeopardize a friendship if they lost, broke, or just plain forgot to give back.   I do often buy a second copy and that I would loan out.  Most of my keepers are Out of Print and were difficult to get in the first place. 

Date Posted: 2/18/2008 12:47 PM ET
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I've actually been doing a Read and Return with another member here for keeper books that we each have that the other wants to read.  I like it because I get to read books instead of buying them or waiting in the WL lines from hell and if I really like it, I'll put in on the Buy It list for later.   We both send the books media mail with DC and so far it's worked out well.   

 

Date Posted: 2/18/2008 2:00 PM ET
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My keeper books so far are all still in print, and in fact I could get them on here if I needed to replace them. That being said, my dear grandmother, gave one of my keeper books to a lady she sews with! It was my fault, we have all ways given our books freely to one another and they get passed around through various family members all the time. I never thought to tell her it was a keeper! So anyhow, I got another copy through here. My DG must have sensed something was up when I asked about the book, (I didn't tell her it was a keeper I didn't want to make her feel bad) because a week or so later she called me from her cell phone and was asking me what the name of he book was, and had I read any of the other ones in the series. She was going to buy them for me! I love my grandma=)

Date Posted: 2/18/2008 2:29 PM ET
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good point Lita! I've loaned several exercise dvs/videos to a friend and never saw them again and she can't find them...sigh.I never loan money though expecting it back..

Date Posted: 2/18/2008 4:06 PM ET
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Sherron - on the tweezers - LOL!  You're forgiven.  This time.  But seriously, no, I didin't expect you to do that.  Now latex gloves, maybe...  And for general FYI to whoever, I've done loaner swaps with Sherron and Claudia both, and it's been fine.  They've both taken great care with my keepers, and like I said before, especially with the things I really like, and I know are a pain in the rump to get copies of, I'm willing to loan them out here & there.  I would put a couple out there for everyone to read, if I knew they'd continue to be passed along without any problems, just because it bugs me to see books like (and just a for instance) Winter Garden or The Wind and the Sea going on Amazon etc, for astronomical prices.  You'd think these were the dead sea scrolls or something for how difficult it is to get them for a reasonable price.

Date Posted: 2/24/2008 11:38 AM ET
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I always share w/my cousin and I would have no problem lending them to a fellow PBS friend IF I know them.  I wouldn't lend to just anyone though.  If I see a friend who has posted that she is looking for a book I have on my keeper shelf I have no problem PMing her if she is willing to send it back my way.

Date Posted: 2/24/2008 2:32 PM ET
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Nope . . . they can get their own books.  I learned the hard way not to loan out books that are on my keeper list.

Date Posted: 2/24/2008 3:53 PM ET
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Kim, Speaking of Winter Garden.  I found a copy at my UBS yesterday.  It looks like it has never been opened.  I almost peed my pants.  I grabbed it so fast.  WOO HOO.  I did a happy dance right in the store.  LOL

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