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Subject: Lol....someone needs a dose of patience and manners
Date Posted: 4/17/2012 10:34 AM ET
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I am apparently number one for a wish listed book and have had my request accepted and then declined two days in a row due to the RC. While I have no problem at all with the decline, it must be the same member who accepted both times and felt the need to first write a " you know this is a used book site" the first t day in the reason why she couldn't send box....and then today it was even funnier.... She would like me to remove this book from my wish list or cancel my RC as I am HOLDING UP THE SYSTEM and preventing her from sending her book to someone who isn't as FINKY and CHEAP as I am. Also, my use of exclamation points in my RC are considered yelling and a personal harassment to her mental wellbeing ( yes, ats is exactly what she wrote) and I need to remove them immediately or she will report me to PBS to get kicked off the site. So here I sit, drinking my morning cup of tea and enjoying the chirp of the spring birds trying not to laugh so hard I cry at this person who obviously has way to much time on their hands to analyze an RC so subjectively and is also extremely sensitive mentally. My RC is pretty simple and shortly worded ...I wonder what happens when she runs into a lengthy more subjective RC? I never mind waiting when people pass over me due to my RC (Yes, I know how sensitive the smoke smell can be on an individual basis...and the writing issue...well thats just me ..has nothing to do with wanting a new book.). I love sharing my books here and getting lovely books from other members. I am so happy to have found a place where good books can travel from home to home and be enjoyed by so many people. The bonus of the site is the "human entertainment of personalities" that pops up every now and then. Happy spring to all!!!!!!!!!! Innocent happy exclamation point :)
Date Posted: 4/17/2012 10:45 AM ET
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If she's being rude, you can report her to TPTB. You don't have to remove an RC for a WL book if you don't want to, because if you do and then don't accept the book as is, you'd lose your place in line.

She has no right to be rude.

 

 

 

Date Posted: 4/17/2012 10:52 AM ET
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Yes, I am aware that I don't have to remove my RC. If she accepts and declines again with any sort of an uncalled for message I will report her. Three times the limit on that one! Otherwise, I will just laugh it off and move on. My book request will be accepted at some point and until then I have a great pile of others to carry me over. I have already been waiting over a year for this particular book so a little longer won't matter.
Date Posted: 4/17/2012 11:02 AM ET
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It seems she's cancelling the transaction instead of declining the RC. If she were to do the latter, her book will go to the next person in line.

If she continues the harrassment, I say report her to the Team.

Date Posted: 4/17/2012 12:15 PM ET
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I'm having the same thought as D. G. If she declined your RC she wouldn't have gotten your request again; her offer would have moved to the next person in line. If she is cancelling the transaction and re-offering well then... duh. If it were me, I might be tempted to add something to the RC. Something like: Decline the RC rather than cancelling and you won't have to be traumatized by repeated exposure to my horrific requests, genius.

Though I'm thinking you may have just gotten two sourpusses in a row. 



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Date Posted: 4/17/2012 3:00 PM ET
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Decline the RC rather than cancelling and you won't have to be traumatized by repeated exposure to my horrific requests, genius.

LOL, Lisa! Good one!

I think it's the same person. If the book is not posted often, she could be cancelling the request and reposting right away so of course, her book will still be offered to poor Tammie. :)

J
Date Posted: 4/17/2012 3:29 PM ET
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a personal harassment to her mental wellbeing 

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Date Posted: 4/17/2012 5:58 PM ET
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Not that I'm defending this person but liberal use of the ! can come off as shouting in writing and might be offensive to someone when they get it in an RC depending on how you were using them.

If you are sure it's the same person then they're obviously hitting the Cannot Mail For Other Reasons button.

Date Posted: 4/17/2012 10:07 PM ET
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Yes, it's the same person. And I am comfortable that my use of exclamation points was pretty non aggressive. "Requestor Conditions: Black remainder marks on books are fine...however I am not willing to receive books that are currently in a smoking home or suspected to have been in a smoking environment! Also, no books with writing of any sort anywhere in/on the book...its a pet peeve of mine! Thanks!!!! "
Date Posted: 4/18/2012 1:57 AM ET
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What is your rc?
Date Posted: 4/18/2012 2:00 AM ET
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What is your rc?

It's posted directly above you. smiley

Date Posted: 4/18/2012 2:02 AM ET
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LOL Lisa, I like that one too!   Glad your sense of humor is intact Tammie, it really does sound like she is canceling and reposting instead of declining your RC...then blaming you.  She'll look really silly if she complains to PBS admin.

Date Posted: 4/18/2012 9:50 AM ET
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I would remove the one after environment.  I would probably turn that down too because of the "suspected to be in smoking environment" how do I know where it was before I got it if I didn't get it new?

Are you the only wisher?  Maybe the 2 of you are caught in a loop. I think it's supposed to go on your RL if you are the only wisher and the poster denies your RCs. 

Date Posted: 4/18/2012 10:58 AM ET
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Maybe the 2 of you are caught in a loop

Mary makes a good point.  This sometimes happens if you're the only wisher for a book.  Contacting the Admin Team would be the way to end the loop.

Date Posted: 4/18/2012 11:24 AM ET
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If your RC has worked fine till now (meaning, you are not being declined left and right), I wouldn't edit a thing. Everybody has a different style of writing and somebody who gets upset over exclamation points has other (bigger) problems.



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Date Posted: 4/18/2012 12:24 PM ET
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Yes, it's the same person.

How do know this? Are they PMing instead of the RC turn down notice?

I would agree with the over-use of ! comment myself. Some ! adds emotion, too many ! turns the volume up too much and people feel like they are getting yelled at. You have 4 sentences and 3 of them end in !

You last sentence also contradicts you first sentence, I would move the remainder comment after the writing comment so it is shown as an exception otherwise it looks to be negated.

 

Date Posted: 4/18/2012 5:06 PM ET
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There are 37 people wishing for this particular book...so the "loop" issue doesn't seem to apply here. I know it is the same person because she has since sent me a third message (that I have reported to PBS) stating this is the third time my RC has held up her swapping procedures. I am comfortable with my RC as is. It has not been a huge issue with declines due to the smoke smell notation. Thanks all.
Date Posted: 4/18/2012 6:12 PM ET
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I'm wondering how a reader posting a book on a reading site can't figure how to select Does Not Meet RCS instead of Cannot Mail over and over again. 

Date Posted: 4/18/2012 6:27 PM ET
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 I'm wondering how a reader posting a book on a reading site can't figure how to select Does Not Meet RCS instead of Cannot Mail over and over again.

Her mental wellbeing has been compromised by her contact with all those exclamation points, not to mention the personal harrassment the OP has been putting her thru by having a RC.

Date Posted: 4/18/2012 6:41 PM ET
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The incredible variety and uniqueness of the ways that people find to do things wrong (often willfully) never ceases to shock and amaze me. 

Date Posted: 4/18/2012 7:29 PM ET
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Lol Sara
Date Posted: 4/18/2012 11:40 PM ET
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LOL Sara   +1

Date Posted: 4/21/2012 2:44 PM ET
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For years now I have been constructing an RC designed to physically and mentally incapacitate a member who hasn't yet joined PBS...I'm saving up all my excess punctuation for the occasion. 

Just wow. 

Date Posted: 4/25/2012 7:14 AM ET
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LOL, Donna. Can't think of a better way to spend my time!
Date Posted: 4/25/2012 7:55 PM ET
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