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Subject: Melissa Etheridge speaks out about Prop 8
Date Posted: 11/8/2008 11:34 AM ET
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You Can Forget My Taxes

by Melissa Etheridge

 

 

Singer Melissa Etheridge rails against the passage of the gay-marriage ban in California—and she won't be paying the state a dime.

 

Okay. So Prop 8 passed. Alright, I get it. 51% of you think that I am a second class citizen. Alright then. So my wife, uh I mean, roommate? Girlfriend? Special lady friend? You are gonna have to help me here because I am not sure what to call her now. Anyways, she and I are not allowed the same right under the state constitution as any other citizen. Okay, so I am taking that to mean I do not have to pay my state taxes because I am not a full citizen. I mean that would just be wrong, to make someone pay taxes and not give them the same rights, sounds sort of like that taxation without representation thing from the history books.

Okay, cool I don't mean to get too personal here but there is a lot I can do with the extra half a million dollars that I will be keeping instead of handing it over to the state of California. Oh, and I am sure Ellen will be a little excited to keep her bazillion bucks that she pays in taxes too. Wow, come to think of it, there are quite a few of us fortunate gay folks that will be having some extra cash this year. What recession? We're gay! I am sure there will be a little box on the tax forms now single, married, divorced, gay, check here if you are gay, yeah, that's not so bad. Of course all of the waiters and hairdressers and UPS workers and gym teachers and such, they won't have to pay their taxes either.

Gay people are born everyday. You will never legislate that away.

Oh and too bad California, I know you were looking forward to the revenue from all of those extra marriages. I guess you will have to find some other way to get out of the budget trouble you are in.

…Really?

When did it become okay to legislate morality? I try to envision someone reading that legislation "eliminates the right" and then clicking yes. What goes through their mind? Was it the frightening commercial where the little girl comes home and says, "Hi mom, we learned about gays in class today" and then the mother gets that awful worried look and the scary music plays? Do they not know anyone who is gay? If they do, can they look them in the face and say "I believe you do not deserve the same rights as me"? Do they think that their children will never encounter a gay person? Do they think they will never have to explain the 20% of us who are gay and living and working side by side with all the citizens of California?

I got news for them, someday your child is going to come home and ask you what a gay person is. Gay people are born everyday. You will never legislate that away.

I know when I grew up gay was a bad word. Homo, lezzie, faggot, dyke. Ignorance and fear ruled the day. There were so many "thems" back then. The blacks, the poor ... you know, "them". Then there was the immigrants. "Them.” Now the them is me.

I tell myself to take a breath, okay take another one, one of the thems made it to the top. Obama has been elected president. This crazy fearful insanity will end soon. This great state and this great country of ours will finally come to the understanding that there is no "them". We are one. We are united. What you do to someone else you do to yourself. That "judge not, lest ye yourself be judged" are truthful words and not Christian rhetoric.

Today the gay citizenry of this state will pick themselves up and dust themselves off and do what we have been doing for years. We will get back into it. We love this state, we love this country and we are not going to leave it. Even though we could be married in Mass. or Conn, Canada, Holland, Spain and a handful of other countries, this is our home. This is where we work and play and raise our families. We will not rest until we have the full rights of any other citizen. It is that simple, no fearful vote will ever stop us, that is not the American way.

Come to think of it, I should get a federal tax break too...

Melissa Etheridge is an Academy Award-winning and Grammy Award-winning singer-songwriter.

Date Posted: 11/8/2008 12:52 PM ET
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would be nice if i could get away with not paying taxes... sure would help out with the other expenses. after all, she is right, we don't get all the bennies, why should we have to pay for others to have them.

i'm glad Ms Etheridge is no longer in the shadows as she was before 1993 or so. Too bad she isn't from Georgia...

Date Posted: 11/9/2008 7:46 AM ET
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Just think if we did move to the other states that do see us as people = in every way! Some states would be hurting.... I know some who are looking into it..... Food for thought.

I am glad Melissa stood up and let her voice be heard. I hope others do the same.

Subject: I don't know
Date Posted: 11/9/2008 7:57 AM ET
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If I had the resources, I'd move. I'd move taking my money with me.  When I'm mistreated by retailers, I don't give them my money. I'd seriously consider doing the same with the state. Of course, I'm Quaker and while I haven't done it, there are those among us who have withheld paying taxes and risking jail for it.

California may have delivered a setback but it could be worse- in Michigan, we haven't stepped backwards, this state is backwards!

 

Date Posted: 11/9/2008 8:39 AM ET
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Ok how about moving to a state where we were wanted??  What a great place we create.. We could take our tax money and buy a bussiness and enjoy all the rights of a first class citizen !!  Vermont , Massaachusetts, New York. New Jersey, Connectecticut...  Sounds goood

Date Posted: 11/9/2008 8:43 AM ET
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mmmm my ex is from michigan....

and if i could take all my friends and family with me to another state or country that is more accepting, i would. but i cannot leave without them. i cannot put my own desires above them... and my girlfriend is the same way. we are very close to both sides of the family, as well as friends.

Date Posted: 11/9/2008 12:11 PM ET
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Kristi,

I don't think you should have to consider moving and I can certainly understanding not wanting to give up ties.

I was thinking about high-tailing it out of here Bush's second term and thought harder if McCain won. Reality is, I'm a working peon and relocating isn't an option. Still it's easy to be pissed enough to contemplate the fantasy.

Date Posted: 11/9/2008 12:20 PM ET
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yeah, i am a workin peon also... plus we bout our first home a year ago... truthfully, everything else in my life is pretty darn good if not decent... cept things like this.  one day...one day.. one day...

L. G. (L)
Date Posted: 11/9/2008 4:40 PM ET
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LaTonya, we seriously considered moving to Toronto a year ago.  The main thing that held us back was the fear that DH would lose his job and then we'd be stuck in Canada with very few job prospects in his field (he is 51 and was in upper mgmt.)  Now that Obama is in, we'll be staying....

I love ME and she has a way of making the frustration direct and understandable.  I just Do. Not. Get. It.  Oregon did the same crapola in 2006, though we have made a little headway since then...

Date Posted: 11/10/2008 6:34 PM ET
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Come to Massachusetts...we have cookies...

(Oh, and the ME article was awesome.  :)