This is probably the best book about parenting a teenager ever written. Parents, do not enter the teen years without it! Reading this book will help you weather your child's behavior with humor. Pick it up and have more hair on your head than in your hands by the time you wave them off to college.
This is about the worst parenting book I've ever read. It tells you that it is important for your teenager to have rules, but not important for them to be followed. If your child comes home late, this book suggests that you tell them they are late, and nothing else. After all, according to the author, it is up to the child to choose to behave, and if they don't, you can't do anything about it.
This book is so right on the money. At first, I was thinking that he was all wrong but the more I read the more that I realized how brilliant that he is.
Some of it was hard to swallow at first because it proved that even with all of my good intentions, there were some parenting skills that I wasn't doing to well. It was hard to swallow but I am so glad that I got over my ego and read through the whole book.
My teen is 14, I wish that I had this book while she was a preteen. It was still very useful but I would have done some things differently. I suggest this book to EVERYONE with children of all ages.
I learned a lot from this book! I learned that I was a tough but normal teenager. It was my mom that didnt deal with it well. I have all daughters so my step son was a mystery to me. This cleared a lot up and helped explain men in general too! An easy read and very entertaining! (I think my copy is signed too).
It's true! All the guilt feelings, the wondering if you are doing okay as a parent, the worry over your child's behavior (or lack of), the horrible sense that you just may have created a monster - it all goes away with this book. And pleasantly too! Any parent of teenage children will appreciate this book immensely. Sometimes just knowing that you are not alone is enough. Enjoy!
Arlene G. (toymommy2001) reviewed Get Out of My Life, but First Could You Drive Me & Cheryl to the Mall? on
Wow. Don't bother grounding your teenager when they lie, come in late or break any of your household rules because you cannot keep them in the house if they don't want to stay. We just need to accept the fact that this is a much more permissive world than when we were teenagers and by not imposing consequences for their actions we are helping them become kinder gentler people. And one day they will magically become wonderful people. When they break a rule, just tell them they broke a rule, you don't like that they broke a rule, and the rule stands.
I did like the advice of not letting your teen sidetrack an argument so that it ends up down a tangent. It is so easy to let an argument end up some place that you didn't mean for it to go.
It was also nice to hear that the teen's ability to forget the hateful words minutes after hurling them at you is really how their brain works. The title of the book is fitting in that way. While you are still shaking your head wondering how your teen can be so hateful, they have truly moved on.