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Subject: PMs: am I just a curmudgeon?
Date Posted: 9/1/2010 9:36 PM ET
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Or is anyone else annoyed at receiving "Thank you" PM's after their books are received?

I wish that form wasn't there when you mark a book received.

Date Posted: 9/1/2010 9:37 PM ET
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I don't mind them. I send them though, so that probably accounts for my not minding them.

Date Posted: 9/1/2010 9:38 PM ET
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I'm in the curmudgeon boat...I hate them!!!

(but, this topic comes up all the time....the ugly Thank you Dragon)

Date Posted: 9/1/2010 9:42 PM ET
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At first I never sent them. But after receiving some, I started sending them and now feel bad if I don't get one. I wonder if the person didn't really appreciate the book I sent to them.

It's so easy to send them. Why not be nice?

Date Posted: 9/1/2010 9:45 PM ET
Member Since: 12/10/2009
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 You could try more than just  "Thank You" ; We evidently go on and on when we think something is wrong w/ the free book. Can't we do the same when it all works out nicely.

Date Posted: 9/1/2010 9:46 PM ET
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"Why not be nice?"  Well, if you are one of us that find them a waste of time and an annoyance then you don't send them because you don't want to cause the same to the person that you would be sending it too.

Date Posted: 9/1/2010 9:51 PM ET
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We need a DO NOT LIKE THANK YOU's list!  lol

Or hey - you could put in your RC's - DO NOT SEND A THANK YOU NOTE!!  lol

Sorry - well no I'm not really sorry - I like to say thank you just as I would in a clerk in a store.  I probably won't be sending to any of ya'll but if I do just delete if you dare!  lol

I don't want to be an annoyance but on the other hand, I don't like others opinions to change what I think is polite or the nice thing to do.

I'm thinking I can't win here!  lol



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Date Posted: 9/1/2010 9:53 PM ET
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The thing I really don't get is the "You're welcome" PM. Does the "thanks" PM really require a response?

Date Posted: 9/1/2010 9:54 PM ET
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I was raised Southern and we Southerners always said thank you.

Date Posted: 9/1/2010 9:55 PM ET
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Cozi, I agree.  If you don't want a thank you, put it in an RC.  Otherwise, you are going to get thanked!  My Mom taught me to be polite and there's no way at age 62 that I am changing now.

Date Posted: 9/1/2010 9:56 PM ET
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Sending a Thank you PM vs. not sending a Thank you PM.

Round 58, ding!

Date Posted: 9/1/2010 10:01 PM ET
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Whooo Hooo Cheryl!!

I've read so many of these and have held off with my opinion.  But enough is enough!

I appreciate every thank you I get....whether it's just "thanks" or goes on about what good condition my books are in or what a great wrapping job I did.

Thank you for every one I get.  It makes my day!!!

Date Posted: 9/1/2010 10:09 PM ET
Member Since: 5/25/2009
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I just ignore them. A copy of my personal messages gets sent to my email, so I can see from that what they said. I don't bother reading it via my PBS inbox... I currently have 76 unread messages.

Date Posted: 9/1/2010 10:09 PM ET
Member Since: 7/19/2008
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I've been over on swap a dvd and swap a cd.  I rarely get a thank you on either of those sites.  I like them.

But I can really skip the responses to a thank you.  Stop the you're welcomes, please.

Date Posted: 9/1/2010 10:35 PM ET
Member Since: 4/25/2007
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I don't care if I get one or not.  They're not an annoyance, takes just a few seconds to open and read them.

Sometimes I send a Thanks for a book I've received, sometimes I don't.  Depends on how I feel that day.

Date Posted: 9/1/2010 10:44 PM ET
Member Since: 2/18/2010
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I like getting Thank Yous and feel a bit sad when I don't get one, since practically all the books I send out are like new.

Date Posted: 9/1/2010 10:59 PM ET
Member Since: 8/5/2009
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The problem with putting it in your RC is that the person requesting the book basically says they don't want a thank you PM when they receive the book. I'm trying to figure out how that would work.  smiley

edited to stop shouting, 'cuz I didn't mean to.



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Date Posted: 9/1/2010 11:24 PM ET
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The thing I really don't get is the "You're welcome" PM. Does the "thanks" PM really require a response?

I send those too. I usually add an "Enjoy!" or something specific about the book too. You're welcome is part of being polite too, which makes it necessary. The person has taken the time to say thank you so the least I can do is acknowledge it.

Date Posted: 9/2/2010 12:34 AM ET
Member Since: 6/19/2008
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Sheesh! On the overall scheme of things does it really matter?  If that's your big issue you have it easy.  If you consider all the problems facing us from the dawn of civilization until now . . . OK, I've had too much wine.  But I'm on vacation!



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Date Posted: 9/2/2010 12:46 AM ET
Member Since: 7/28/2010
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I like them a lot! I am still sort of new to PaperBackSwap though, and kind of panic that the message might be something bad until I read it.

Date Posted: 9/2/2010 1:54 AM ET
Member Since: 5/18/2007
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It boggles my mind and says something pretty sad when people in our society have a problem with the word "thank you." I don't get it and haven't gotten it the other 9 million times the subject comes up on this forum.

Sorry folks, you'll be getting one from me. It's the way I was raised. I say it to the store clerks who ring up my puchases (don't you? If not, shame on you!!) and I say it to the people I "purchase" a book from. Same diff in my opinion.

In some weird strange way, I kinda feel sorry for the people who don't like to be told "thanks." I don't know why. Curmudgeonly maybe and those types of people are rarely happy, I guess. That's NOT to say that's what's going on here, it's just what I mentally picture when these posts come up since I don't "know" anyone personally that has a problem with that word. <<shrugs>>

 

Date Posted: 9/2/2010 2:29 AM ET
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I add a thank you if I have something substantive to say, and I try to avoid the token, one-word "thanks". As far as receiving them, I'd rather not get the ones that have nothing real to say, but I'd never set a condition about it. Nothing to lose sleep over.

Like others here I was raised "southern" and taught to say "please" and "thank you".  I, too, would also thank a clerk in a store.  But frankly, I never understand why people make that comparison. Or why it's "polite" to add meaningless message traffic.  The transactions here are automated. Most of the time there's no personal interaction. You order a book, the software decides which "supplier" fills the order. All the communication is automated. To me it's more comparable to ordering something from Amazon. Would I send a "thanks" after receiving it?  Not normally, but if there was something special or if I'd been in contact with a person about the order, then maybe. 

Many people who are passionate about this are also active in the Forums and have a real sense of community here at PBS. But only a fraction of the users post in the Forums.  For many, it's just a transaction site.

It IS a hot topic that comes up frequently with people who feel very strongly about each side. 

Date Posted: 9/2/2010 2:51 AM ET
Member Since: 2/5/2007
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This is one of my favorite revolving topics!  lol   I love to see how people think on both sides of the issue and their reasons for doing so.  We always have new members so these types of topics are going to show up ever so often.

Date Posted: 9/2/2010 3:07 AM ET
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I always say thank you. To be honest, I get a little worried or offended if I don't get a thank you. My first thought is were they not happy with the book? Also the way I see it is, sending the book is a kind gesture that should be acknowledged. If the person had not sent it to me, I would either have had to drive 20 minutes to the closest  used book store, drive 30 minutes to the closest new book store, or buy it online (which after shipping cost more then it does to buy it used). I have a small shelf compared to some (only about 300 books), but I still have  4 boxes of books to either go through or move to get to an ordered book. And like everyone else I have to print, wrap, pay postage to mail the book. That's paper and ink the sender has to pay for plus their time and effort. I think the tediousness of it warrants a thank you. JMO

Date Posted: 9/2/2010 6:40 AM ET
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