Excellent book about a parenting style which allows children to learn by making mistakes (though not in dangerous situations, obviously). Over half of the book is composed of "Love-and-Logic Pearls" on such topics as allowances, bedtime, peer pressure, sibling rivalry, etc.
tani reviewed Parenting With Love and Logic : Teaching Children Responsibility on
Helpful Score: 2
A wonderful book that teaches you how to be loving, yet teach your children to realize they are responsible for their actions. You learn how to let children learn from their own mistakes, due to the way they have to experience the consequences. The title says it all, but you will love the experiences.
EFFECTIVE PARENTING WITHOUT THE POWER STRUGGLES...
As parents you have only a few years to prepare your children for a world that requires responsibility and maturity for survival. That thought alone can send shivers down your parental spine.
So what do you do? Hover over your kids so they never make mistakes? Drill them so they'll remember the important principles whey they're on their own? Tear your hair out, wondering if teaching them responsibility is anything but a battle of wills?
According to Fim Fay, one of America's top educational consultants, and Dr. Foster Cline, a trend setting child and adult psychiatrist, parents who try to ensure their children's success often raise unsuccessful kids. Because responsibility is like anything else--it has to be learned through practice
Take Sylvia's example:
Sylvia has eight kids. Every time I visited her home, I saw her handing out money to them. One day I asked, "What is this with you dishing out money all the time?"
"We give our kids loans in the household because we're learning about the world of finance," Sylvia answered as she handed fifty cents to Joshua. "Our loans are just like those at the First National Bank, with due dates, promissory notes, and collateral. Why, just the other day I repossessed a $29 tape recorder."
"Must have beed sad for Joshua," I said.
"Not really," Sylvia replied. "It's a gift. Because now Joshua, who's only ten years old, knows all about the responsibility of paying back his loans; he knows all about promissory notes and collateral, and even repossession--and it only cost him a $29 tape recorder.
"Timothy, my neighbor's kid," Sylvia continued, "learned the same lesson when the bank came and repossessed his $4900 Camaro. He had to wait until he was twenty-six to learn it because his parents protected him when he was young. My Joshua has a sixteen year head start on Timothy."
Sylvia is a love and logic parent. She knows that kids learn the best lessons whey they're given a task and allowed to make their own choices--and to fail--while the cost of failure is still small. So if you want to raise kids who are self confident, motivated, and ready for the real world, take advantage of this win-win approach to parenting. Your kids will win because they'll learn responsibility and the logic of life by solving their own problems. And you'll win because you'll establish healthy control--without resorting to anger, threats, nagging, or exhausting power struggles. Parenting with love and logic puts the fun back into parenting!
Cara reviewed Parenting With Love and Logic : Teaching Children Responsibility on
Helpful Score: 1
This book, and it's ideas came highly recomended from my kid's school district and their pediatrician. I have to say I was disappointed. There were some interesting ideas in the book. Namely, that when we become angry with our children, we become the consequence to their negative behavior, instead of the natural consequences they might face. But really, other then that idea, I didn't find anything useful. I just couldn't bring myself to become the kind of parent this book advocates. It just goes farther then I am willing to go, though the base principles are pretty standard as far as good parenting is concerned.