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Subject: People who wish for books they don't want!
Date Posted: 6/10/2011 2:53 PM ET
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Let's say you have a book on your TBR pile, and it isn't wished for, so you figure you'll get to it eventually. But then, viola, somebody wishes for it. So you think, great, I'll move it up on my priority list and read it sooner rather than later, then post it. So you do that after a few days or a week, and what happens -- the wisher either rejects it or it times out after 2 days with no response.

Why do people do this? It has happened to me at least three times. They just wished for it, within the last week or so, but now they don't want it? Why did they put it on their wish list in the first place? Grrr...

Date Posted: 6/10/2011 3:08 PM ET
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Could be a number of reasons....they have no credits, they're out of town and didn't put their account on hold, thinking about getting the book from another source- who knows.  Happens all the time, and if you let it bother you, you'll be insane before your first PBS anniversary, lol.

Personally I don't let anything dictate what I read and when except for what I want to read.  A book being WLed or not does not make me read it sooner or later.  I think if you get to absorbed in the nuts and bolts of swapping books, you lose the real point of it, which is to enjoy the books.  Read what you want to read, post books when you are ready to post them.  It's no fun if you are annoyed all the time. wink  If someone misses out on your WL book, it's their loss.

ETA, I  get that you're just venting.  I just hate to see anyone having a lousy time here when it's supposed to be fun!  You can't change other people, but you can change your own perspective.  (Great, now I'm channeling my dad. blush)



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Date Posted: 6/10/2011 3:23 PM ET
Member Since: 1/29/2011
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*raises hand* Guilty as charged.  I've had  to reject books on my wishlist before, and the main reason is just because I won't have enough credits at the time.  I'm trying to do this less, because I can imagine how irritating it would be.

 

Date Posted: 6/10/2011 3:25 PM ET
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*hugs* Valerie, frustrating.  I read by what I'm in the mood for, not another members wishlist wink

Date Posted: 6/10/2011 4:59 PM ET
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It could happen for so many reasons. Give them the benifit of the doubt and know you where kind enough to try and give them the wish!

Date Posted: 6/10/2011 5:54 PM ET
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Christine-if you are out of credits just put your WL on hold. 

Date Posted: 6/10/2011 6:01 PM ET
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Sometimes people get given books and forget to take them of their WL.  I know I had two books that I was number 2 on and the list was moving fast, then I was given the books and forgot for a few days that I had to removed them from my WL. By the time I was number 1. I think in another day or so I would have been offered the books.   Then others that have been on my WL so long I forget they are on there and might have read it.

Date Posted: 6/10/2011 6:18 PM ET
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As Lesley said, this is why I stopped letting those green and red W's dictate what I read. Back when I was a new member, almost six years ago now, I used to watch those W's like a hawk and read what other people wanted. After enough disappointments of declines, time-outs, rolling over to 3, 4, and more people, I figured to heck with it...now I read what I want to read, post it when I'm done and if it's wished for--great! If not, it's on my shelf and will get chosen eventually.

The nice thing too about reading a mix of wishlisted and non-wishlisted books is that by reading books that already have some copies in the system, you're posting them and getting in that queue...if you waited another 6 months to read it, there could have been another 100 copies posted in that time so your book would be way far back!

Cheryl

Date Posted: 6/10/2011 7:14 PM ET
Member Since: 8/23/2007
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I don't read for the WL anymore unless I'm getting really low on credits.  Then I'll focus on a WL book. But usually I choose a couple wiht long WL and then try to ship in  multiples.

Date Posted: 6/10/2011 7:51 PM ET
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I'm trying to downsize my book collection, so I see a wisher as an opportunity to send out another book. So I guess I get my hopes up, and then I'm disappointed when it doesn't work out. I lose out on the fun of wrapping up a book and popping over to the post office or slipping it into a blue box, marking it sent, and watching the DC tracking to see it traveling on its way to its new owner.

Date Posted: 6/10/2011 9:18 PM ET
Member Since: 8/19/2007
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It's also possible that they put the book on their WL and there were several wishers in front of them and they thought that by the time they came up on the list, they'd have enough credits,, and it happens to be a book that gets posted fairly often, and they got to the top before they thought they would, and so had to decline as they didn't have the credits right then.  Good luck. Pat

Date Posted: 6/10/2011 9:36 PM ET
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I do get frustrated when I have to wait for several days or a week or two for someone to finally request a WLed book I've posted - I'd love to just be able to go to the PO and get the whole thing over with! I assume most of the time it's because people are away from their computers and the request times out and rolls over. Why someone would have just WLed something and then not requested it is a bit of a headscratcher - maybe they didn't have any points at that particular moment? (Why they didn't quickly buy some, I don't know. I would have - WLed books don't come along every day, I've learned!)

These days I don't bother listing anything that isn't WLed or the only copy in the system (excluding the virtual boxes I participate in) - I'm always overflowing with books and the ones that don't get requested right away go to the friends of the library donation bin. With FIFO it's not worth it for me to take up space in my house hoping for points sometime in the far future.

mistie -
Date Posted: 6/11/2011 3:20 AM ET
Member Since: 9/27/2007
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"I think if you get to absorbed in the nuts and bolts of swapping books, you lose the real point of it, which is to enjoy the books."

This really stuck a chord with me, Thanks Lesley, I needed to remember this.

Date Posted: 6/11/2011 8:29 AM ET
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I had the same problem last week. I hurried up and read a book because it had four wishers on it.  It cycled through all four people before the last person on the list wanted it.  Half the people let it time out making it longer the book to get out of my house.  Very frustrating.

Date Posted: 6/11/2011 12:05 PM ET
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Don't forget about the WL multiples thread in the BB, and the WL threads that are in some of the genre forums as well.  You can post in those threads and list the WL book(s) you are ready to post and anyone interested can PM you that they want what you have.  Then you just post directly to their WL.  That way, you know the books are going to be accepted right away.  I usually ask that the books be on auto-request, which then also bypasses the 48 hour waiting period for the request to be accepted.  It's also great if you have several WL books to post at once and you want to save postage money by sending out multiples.  I tend to save the WL books I've read until I have several and then post them all at once this way.  Saves me from making multiple trips to the PO too.