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Subject: Please pray
Date Posted: 6/12/2008 3:30 PM ET
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I just got word that one of my sisters died this morning.  Please OH PLEASE pray that I have the strength to stand this.   And pray for her son sons (adults) and our extended family.     I just keep saying over and over again - I AM NOT ALONE    I AM NOT ALONE          GOD IS WITH ME. 

Date Posted: 6/12/2008 4:33 PM ET
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I'm still praying for you Cozi!  You have been in my thoughts for the last hour, and I KNOW God is with you, just like you said.  Sending love your way.

Date Posted: 6/12/2008 4:42 PM ET
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You're in my prayers.

Isaiah 57:18-21 "'I have seen his ways, but I will heal him; I will lead him and restore comfort to him and to his mourners, creating praise of the lips. Peace, peace to him who isfar and to him who is near,' says the Lord, 'and I will heal him."

Matthew 5:4 Blessed are they that mourn: for they shall be comforted.

Matthew 11:28 Come unto Me, all ye that labour and are heavy laden, and I will give you rest. 

Romans 8:28 And we know that to them that love God all things work together for good, even to them that are called according to His purpose.


Date Posted: 6/12/2008 5:01 PM ET
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I can't seem to do anything right now.   Not make the arrangements to go to KY (I'm all packed since I was leaving tomorrow to go to AZ and then to KY later next week).   I don't want to call my son yet - I'd like to wait until he gets home from work so he has his wife to hang on to when he's told.  So here I sit - and I'm going to try to tell you people who care about my sister Bonnie.

There are nine siblings in my family, 6 girls and 3 boys.  Bonnie Rose was the third child and the third girl.  From the time she was little she was the one who loved to "primp" and fix herself up.   Mama used to tell about finding Bonnie sitting up on her dresser and smearing lipstick on her lips.  She couldn't walk yet but she knew about make up and knew how to climb!   She's been putting on make up and climbing up mountains ever since.

She was one of the IN girls in high school.  As her little sister, I am ten years younger, I remember watching her get ready to go on dates (she always had one on Sat. night).  She was a cheerleader and OH MY was she stubborn.  She liked to get her way and usually found a way to make that happen.   This was in the 1940's and life wasn't easy on our farm.  But Bonnie would take a hand me down dress and tear it apart and make something beautiful out of it.  

She graduated and went to work for Eastern Airlines in Evansville  IN.    We thought she was so brave to MOVE so far from home to work!  LOL It was about 200 miles probably.   She broke up with her high school sweetheart cause she was ready to get married and he wasn't.   She soon met and married an army officer.  What a wonderful dashing couple they were.   They had three little boys and she followed that army man of hers around the world, including Okanawa and Germany.    During these times she held the family together while he was on two tours of Vietnam.   The last duty before he retired was to Sacramento CA where he worked with the ROTC at Davis University.   They bought an historical home to remodel and got ready to enjoy retirement.   

Before he could retire, they found out that he had cancer and he died within three months.   One of their boys was in college, two of them older teenagers at home.   OH how we all hurt for her.  She spent HER time comforting us when we knew her heart was breaking.

But look out world - here comes BONNIE!  She reinvented herself and a life for herself.  She remodeled that home and it is today on the historical register in Sac.   She studied and became a real estate agent.  One year she sold more homes than any other real estate agent in Sacramento.    She was still a go getter - still loved beautiful clothes and make up - still stubborn and liked getting her own way. 

She gave marvelous gifts.  Always gave you what you never knew you wanted!  By this time she had several grandchildren.  Every summer she would gather up these kids and fly with all of them to KY to visit with our parents.  She wanted them to know where she came from.   She wanted them to KNOW they had family they could lean on.

Ok - I don't know who will dare read all of this!  LOL But it's helping me to write it.   I'll be back to finish the later chapters of her life in a bit. 

Date Posted: 6/12/2008 5:08 PM ET
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Cozi, that really made me smile to read.  It's good that you have wonderful memories of her, and please share them with us!  It sounds like she lived a full and happy life, and I can see why you'll miss her so. 

Date Posted: 6/12/2008 5:41 PM ET
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When Bonnie turned 60 - at the height of her financial success - she threw herself a birthday party!! And oh my did she know how to throw a party!   She got the CITY to close off her whole block for 6 hours!   She lived in the old part of Sacremento where the streets were divided and they had these wide mediums in the middle with big trees.    She had a catering company to set up tables all along that medium - white tablecloths and all!   A friend of hers in the movie business set up lighting.  She hired a band and we danced in the streets.   All of her sisters were there to help her celebrate as were some cousins, her kids and grandkids.  She had a blast!! The margaritas flowed freely!!!  She kept saying THIS IS THE LAST celebration for me.   One funny tale on her. When the party was over we had to pick up the catering company's glasses and put them in the containers to be picked up the next day.  No biggie as there was plenty of us to do that.   The next day after all the glasses  were gone, Bonnie comes down stairs looking for her TEETH!!!!!!!!!  ROFL   She had taken her plate out the night before and YUP - she put em in a glass!    We called the company and they looked through the hundreds of glasses until they found her Teeth.  We never let her live that one down.

Bonnie got shingles in her mid 60's and her health was never the same after that.  She was in pain for months on end.  She was finally diagonosed with fibermalish.  I am SURE that isn't spelled right.   She sold the second home that she had rehabed and prepared to change her life once again.  She was still working but fewer and fewer hours.   She was downsizing.  She flew back to Kentucky in October of 2000 for her high school's 50th reunion.  She didn't really WANT to go - said she was fat and in pain and so on - but her gal pals talked her into it.       She was of course, her flambount usual self.   Loud and funny - full of stories about her life - the life of the party.   Oh yes - her high school sweetheart was there too.  She spoke to him and that was that.  She came back to CA. 

A week later he called her and asked her why she didn't pay any attention to him.  She laughed and said she didn't know he wanted ATTENTION.    He said well I did and I do and I am sitting at the Sacramento airport cause I think we should talk.   SHOCK lol   Bonnie went to the airport and they talked for hours and hours and then he flew back to KY.

They began a long distance romance.  All of a sudden Bonnie was on the computer for hours.  Emails flew back and forth a dozen of times a day.  NO - they hadn't conquered IM's yet!   She was here for Thanksgiving that year and she kept saying that John wanted her to marry him.  And she'd LAUGH AND LAUGH AND LAUGH.  She said   I am going to meet him in Florida and have a fling - but MARRIAGE???? NO WAY!!

Of course - 5 months later they got married and of course had another BIG CELEBRATION.   Finding your true love at 70 is marvelous to see.   They were like a couple of kids.   Bought a bright red Miada convertible with license plates that said Bon (hearts) Jon!!!    LOL       They would laugh when someone would ask them what they did today and say "Nothing and I'm not done yet!"     They were so blessed to find each other at the right times in their lives.   I am forever thankful that she had those years with someone special to love her and to love.           

She gave so much to so many.   She touched so many lives.   I can see her right now, hugging Mama in heaven and what rejoicing and celebrating they are doing.  Bonnie - sweetie - you've  climbed your last mountain and you are home!

Thank you for providing me a place to write this.  Love and prayers to you all.

Date Posted: 6/12/2008 6:16 PM ET
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Oh Cozi thank you so much for sharing Bonnie's story.  My thoughts and prayers are with you and your family.  What a beautiful story!  :*)

Date Posted: 6/12/2008 6:38 PM ET
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I am so sorry for your loss.  From your writings, I wish she had been my sister. 

Date Posted: 6/12/2008 6:49 PM ET
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Cozi, I'm sending warm thoughts.

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Date Posted: 6/12/2008 7:23 PM ET
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Cozette,  you are in my heart and thoughts.  Thank you for sharing Bonnie's life--we could all do well to emulate her love for life!

Date Posted: 6/12/2008 7:56 PM ET
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Bonnie - sweetie - you've  climbed your last mountain and you are home!

This brought tears to my eyes.  I know things are probably so hard for you right now, but if you just remember this one thing--she is HOME.  Her journey is over, and she has reached the end of her pilgrimage on Earth.  As much as you miss her, I'm sure you're rejoicing for her as well.  Hugs to you!

Date Posted: 6/12/2008 9:35 PM ET
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Oh I am so sorry for your loss.  I will be praying for you & your family! 


Date Posted: 6/12/2008 10:57 PM ET
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I am lifting you and your family up in prayer.  Thank you for sharing such a beautiful story....if only everybody's life could be that full and that happy, what a wonderful world we would have.  :o)

Date Posted: 6/12/2008 11:01 PM ET
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You and your family are in my prayers.  Your stories of your sister are just wonderful.


Date Posted: 6/13/2008 1:20 AM ET
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Oh, Cozette, what a wonderful written memorial to your sister! You NEED to print that out and take it with you for her funeral and her children. You have been thru so much recently- my heart goes out to you. Your description of your sister made me feel sorry that I never got to meet her here on this earth. Maybe we will get to meet in heaven someday, and if we do, I am going to tell her the pure love for her that radiated from your post here. She sounds like she left this world better than what it was before she entered it and that is a true gift from God. She did not "bury her talent" but multiplied it for her Master/Savior.

Date Posted: 6/13/2008 9:10 AM ET
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You have my deepest sympathy and prayers.  Thanks for sharing your sister's life with us.  Makes me wish I'd had the privilege to know her.


Date Posted: 6/13/2008 1:22 PM ET
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I know that God will give you strength to get through the next couple of days.  You are in my prayers.

Date Posted: 6/13/2008 5:01 PM ET
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Thank you for posting those stories about your sister.  Just from that little glimpse into her life, I can tell that she was an amazing person.  I know that you will miss her.

You are right in knowing that you are not alone.  The God who loves us will never forsake us.  He loves us always, and loves us to the point of allowing us eternal reunion with those we love.  You will miss her, but our great hope and assurance as believers is that this is not the final goodbye.  You will be together again!  In the meantime, all of us here will keep sending you our hugs and prayers and happy thoughts. 

I am so sorry for your loss.  I will be thinking about you and praying for you.

Date Posted: 6/13/2008 6:17 PM ET
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I have been praying for you. 

Date Posted: 6/13/2008 7:33 PM ET
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I am so sorry - I can't imagine what you're going through. I give you three verses from Thessalonians. "Rejoice evermore. Pray without ceasing. In everything give thanks for this is the will of God in Christ Jesus concerning you." The Lord gave me those verses to give me strength when I was losing my dad. And the days and weeks and months following his Homegoing I held them close to my heart. Three things - Rejoice - Pray - and Give thanks. And your tribute to your sister shows that you are doing all three. Rejoicing for the time your sister lived. For what she meant to you and all who she loved. Praying that God will be with you through this time - to give you strength and comfort for the time ahead. And giving thanks for such a special sister and friend and treasuring all the time you had together.

I pray you feel His sheltering arms around you. And we'll be praying for you.

Date Posted: 6/13/2008 10:03 PM ET
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Our dear Lord says in Matthew (28:20), "And behold, I am with you always, until the end of the age".  Don't forget the Holy Spirit, "The Comeforter", that he has sent for us.  Ask Him for comefort and consolation, open your heart, and He will be there.  Once when my mom was very upset, she remembers being not quite asleep, very aware of her surroundings.  She remembers seeing a "comeforter", like a big blanket, coming down on her.  She distinctly remembers the absolute peace she felt.  Trust in our Lord.  He is there, even when we can't feel him.  He IS there!

Date Posted: 6/14/2008 10:36 PM ET
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You're still on my prayer list, but now for an additional reason.  I'm praying that the Prince of Peace drench you with the wonderful memories of your sister and with pictures of her laughing hysterically with Jesus in Heaven.


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Date Posted: 6/15/2008 3:35 AM ET
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(((( Cozi ))))

Hugs & prayers for you sweetie. May our God of mercy & love provide you peace at this time. And thank you so much for sharing your stories about your sister, I enjoyed them very much. (I also have a sister named Bonnie).


Date Posted: 6/16/2008 10:43 PM ET
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Praying for you Cozi.....((((((HUGS)))))

I REALLY liked that story of how she lost her teeth in a glass at her party!  That is GREAT!....a true memory to be preserved. 

I pray Peace for you and Healing from the Great Physician, as only He can give...

Date Posted: 6/17/2008 12:43 AM ET
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What a beautiful tribute! Thanks for sharing it. Will be holding you in my prayers.