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Subject: Can I prevent a member from NEVER ordering from me again.
Date Posted: 11/30/2016 12:27 PM ET
Member Since: 3/26/2009
Posts: 180
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Just wondering and if yes how do I do that?

Date Posted: 11/30/2016 12:58 PM ET
Member Since: 1/17/2009
Posts: 9,722
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No, sorry there is no way.

Date Posted: 11/30/2016 1:35 PM ET
Member Since: 3/26/2009
Posts: 180
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Thanks Sara.  Think I just got treated badly by another member for a book I sent.  I'd rather not deal with her again.  I will just have to remember her name from now on.  I have considered leaving PBS over this matter. 

Date Posted: 11/30/2016 1:56 PM ET
Member Since: 2/13/2007
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Depending on how badly you were treated...you might consider contacting PBS about her. They won't intervene in a problem swap but if the member descended to name calling, or was downright nasty, they might contact her about her conduct. Yes, unfortunately you are not be the only one with a list of people you will not trade again with, mine is very short but I too briefly considered leaving PBS over a member's treatment of me...a day or two later I was able to put it into perspective and you'll be able to too. Most of us are great people but like any group there's always a few bad apples.

Date Posted: 11/30/2016 2:15 PM ET
Member Since: 3/26/2009
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Thanks Sally, your comments help.  I have been here since 2009, guess I better stay. 💝

Date Posted: 11/30/2016 6:42 PM ET
Member Since: 9/9/2012
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Sorry that happened to you.  Unfortunately sometimes people are just plain not nice.  Bit think of all the trades you have made somce 2009, surely the good out weigh the bad. yes

Date Posted: 11/30/2016 7:13 PM ET
Member Since: 3/26/2009
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You are absolutely right Rachel, thank you.

Date Posted: 11/30/2016 7:44 PM ET
Member Since: 4/25/2007
Posts: 11,463
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If you happen to get a request from this person again, just click the "cannot mail" button and it'll roll over to the next person.  It would remove the book from your bookshelf so wait a bit before reposting it, especially if there are only a few copies in the system.  Wouldn't want it to roll back over to you.

Date Posted: 12/1/2016 1:00 AM ET
Member Since: 11/18/2010
Posts: 6,431
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You guys are much nicer than I am. It would, of course, depend on the seriousness of the exception I took to other member's behavior, but it sounds fairly serious considering that the OP considered leaving over it. I would keep her name and tell her no. I'd probably also contact TPTB and request that my book not lose it's spot in the FIFO line in that particular instance. It may not be possible, but I would ask. I don't think it's unreasonable to refuse to trade with somebody who has proved themselves to be an unpleasant trader.

Date Posted: 12/1/2016 8:48 AM ET
Member Since: 1/3/2010
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The flip side: Some time back I requested a book but it timed out. After a time I requested this book again but it went to the same sender and timed out again, the process repeated itself a third time although in the third instance the book arrived without being marked mailed. I sent a PM to the sender, got no response, so I took the situation to PBS who assured me this member was a 'good sender'. I was so fed up I couldn't bring myself to read the book, was sure the process would color any possible enjoyment.The upshot was that a fortnight later the sender sent me a PM asking if I still wanted the book! I replied in the negative.

Not to dash anyone's hopes but TPTB can be very unhelpful on occasion.

When this occurred I was still fairly new here and decided not to let this interfere with future book trades. Of course, at the time membership was free and media mail was at $1.59 for the first pound.

Date Posted: 12/1/2016 10:35 AM ET
Member Since: 4/28/2009
Posts: 9,567
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I keep a list of 'bad traders' I have had over the years.  Haven't had any more requests from any of them over the years.......too random with so many members and so many books.  Only way I could see that repeats will happen is if it's a book in a series where you will post later editions as you read them, then they might want another one.

Date Posted: 12/1/2016 10:38 AM ET
Member Since: 6/2/2014
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I second what Mrs. Grim said!

Date Posted: 12/1/2016 8:24 PM ET
Member Since: 6/19/2008
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I'm so sorry this has happened to you Bonnie.  Most people on here are great.. But I know how mean someone can be.

Date Posted: 12/2/2016 10:45 AM ET
Member Since: 3/26/2009
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Thanks everyone for your support.  It means so much.

Date Posted: 12/2/2016 12:20 PM ET
Member Since: 2/12/2006
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I understand not wanting to 'report' someone for bad behavior. But please consider that while you don't know that person's history here, PBS might. If they have never had a complaint, it isn't going to matter much (depending on the behavior), but maybe you will be the 4th or 5th complaint and 'the final straw'.

It only takes a moment to let them know that you find a particular behavior as inappropriate for the site.



Last Edited on: 12/2/16 12:23 PM ET - Total times edited: 1
Date Posted: 12/8/2016 10:52 AM ET
Member Since: 11/18/2010
Posts: 6,431
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I understand not wanting to 'report' someone for bad behavior. But please consider that while you don't know that person's history here, PBS might. If they have never had a complaint, it isn't going to matter much (depending on the behavior), but maybe you will be the 4th or 5th complaint and 'the final straw'.

It only takes a moment to let them know that you find a particular behavior as inappropriate for the site.

Yup. Yup. This exactly.

The rules were instituted for the purpose of having fair dealings. We are all responsible to adhere, as well as hold each other, to the rules for trading in order to maintain the standard to which we've become accustomed around here, otherwise, the whole thing fails.

Trust me. I grew up among some seriously shady characters and, in all their conniving, every one of them made the most of good people who didn't want to cause anybody any trouble. RWAP is not finking. It's calling a spade a spade. There's no need to apologize for seeing the truth, speaking of it, nor to feel a bit of guilt afterwards.

Don't look at it as pointing a finger at a fellow club member.

Instead, you're standing between your fellow members and a shitty trader. Dig? 



Last Edited on: 12/8/16 2:38 PM ET - Total times edited: 3
Date Posted: 1/19/2017 11:51 PM ET
Member Since: 8/6/2005
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I had the reverse happen to me and I was looking how to block.  

I ordered a book in mid December and it was accepted and marked mailed. I never received the book before the 26 days that PBS gives it,  so it was marked as lost in the nail and my credit returned a few days ago. Today I received eceived the book and it was postmarked 1/12. So obviously it hadn't been mailed. I asked the sender what happened. She was very flip "life happened" with no apology. She did say her father was ill,  she works full-time and the holidays happened. I replied that I was sorry about her father but a book shouldn't be marked mailed if it hasn't been. She replied that if I was unhappy I could return the book. 

I just don't understand people sometimes.