EXTREMELY helpful book for anyone who has dealt with infidelity in their relationship or marriage. There are so many ways that we lie to ourselves and lie to others out of pure selfishness, as well as out of curiosity, seduction, or just plain romance...and this book helped me recognize them. Very readable, monumentally helpful.
Self-help, but very entertaining read. Dr. Pittman identifies four basic patterns of infedelity. He discusses (using actual case studies) how to limit the damage that affairs do and offers practical suggestions on how to make a marriage work.
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Written by an old-school male therapist who has never been cheated on and has no idea other than listening to other people what it's actually like to go through this. "Apparently, it is not difficult to be married to someone who has had an affair." p 132. REALLY??? I politely DISAGREE. "If you are the one who is being betrayed, it is horribly unfair, but your marriage is in your hands. Don't mess it up by carrying on...". p288 I'm sorry mr never-been-cheated-on-"expert". I should take the months-long unfolding of the news of my husband having an affair in the business I helped him build, in front of ALL of our friends and colleagues with a little bit of decorum. Save your money. Go get a book by someone who has a clue what they are talking about.