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Subject: Question about PMing a sender?
Date Posted: 4/5/2008 7:26 PM ET
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A wishlisted book was sent to me back in March.  The date for PBS marking it lost is April 12th.  Would you PM the sender to let her/him know that the book hasn't been received yet or would you wait until after the PBS date? So far, no PM's have been sent between me and the sender. The book was sent from Pa and I live in NY. I can't believe it is taking so long to get here. I read all the time about lost books on the forums, but it has never happened to me. What would you do?

Linda



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Date Posted: 4/5/2008 7:40 PM ET
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Date Posted: 4/5/2008 7:51 PM ET
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Thank you. Cindy.   It is hard to be patient since it is a wishlisted book and I have already waited a long time for someone to post it.  I just need to keep telling myself that another week to wait isn't all that long in the whole time frame of the US Postal Sevice. :)

Linda

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Date Posted: 4/5/2008 11:23 PM ET
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I've had a couple of people just forget to mail the book.  I'd go ahead and PM just to ask if she's sure she mailed it, but you might not get an answer. 

Date Posted: 4/5/2008 11:29 PM ET
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A PM isn't necessary to remind a sender who may have forgotten to put it in the mail. The system will alert the sender that the lost date is approaching and will ask you if you received it and forgot to mark it as such. If the sender forgot to mail, this can jog his or her memory. I think that's what happened with a book I had recently, because soon after I got my "did you receive it?" message the book came in the mail postmarked a day or two after the message. Karen
Date Posted: 4/6/2008 12:19 AM ET
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I'd just wait, I'd rather not risk irritating the person especially when it still has a week to get there.  I've had a book come over 2000 miles in a week and one that came 500 in 3.5 weeks, now figure that one.  Kind of like when I want to fly North to Maine from Texas I first have to fly South 350miles, yeah doesn't make sense does it?

Date Posted: 4/6/2008 1:24 AM ET
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I would not p.m. the sender.  I sent a book that was close to being called "lost".  The reciever sent me a message asking , "you did send the book, right?" -or something similar. It had been marked mailed, AND had delivery confirmation.  Yes, I was very offended.   Beside that,  there's nothing the sender can do anyways if the book is lost. 

Date Posted: 4/6/2008 2:43 AM ET
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I have the opposite problem.  I have a book that I sent out before Easter (it was an Easter-themed book) that has been shown as sitting in the same spot right near the receiver's home address for weeks now.  I PM'd them to see if they 'd gotten it, and they never replied.  I guess since I already got my credit, it doesn't matter for me.  But I'm curious as to whether they got it and forgot to mark it received, or if the PO really is sitting on it for that long.  Kinda frustrating, isn't it?

Date Posted: 4/6/2008 11:25 AM ET
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I'm glad I asked the question. I will wait and not PM the sender. I have received 2 "Did you get it yet? e mails so I'm sure the sender received the "Did you send the book e mails?" I'll let PBS do their job when the time comes.

Thanks everyone for your comments!

Linda