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Subject: Is this RC rude?
Date Posted: 3/9/2008 10:55 PM ET
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I just received the following RC on a WL book I've posted...mine doesn't fit that category as it is not a bookcrossing.com book but, I find the RC rude and just almost declined it because of that...what do you think?

 

Bookcrossing.com books that have only one sticker or stamp are welcome

However, if  you have taken the time to rubber stamp through the book, please keep your book---it's just too distracting to try and read. Also, please do not journal my name and address on your bookcrossing.com website.

Thank you for your consideration.

Date Posted: 3/9/2008 11:02 PM ET
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It is a bit abrasive, but I can totally understand as I once had someone publish my info on their journal.  I don't participate in Bx, but I do check the journal when I receive books now to make sure my info is not listed.

Date Posted: 3/9/2008 11:04 PM ET
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The rubber stamp thing would put me off -- sounds accusatory. Just because the book is stamped doesn't mean *you* did it. 

 

The part about not journaling the name, though -- perhaps it could be worded better, but I just had to have my full name and city of residence removed from a bookcrossing book that was sent to me here.  I was horrified to find it posted there when I went to register the book. 

 

I know people are having fun, but some of us have very valid reasons for keeping information like that off the internet. 

 

Date Posted: 3/9/2008 11:50 PM ET
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Personally, I would call it a bit blunt, but not really rude.  It's so hard to convey emotion in text, and sometimes in trying to be clear, the writer's tone can sound a little harsh.

Date Posted: 3/9/2008 11:53 PM ET
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I didn't find it rude

Date Posted: 3/10/2008 12:09 AM ET
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I don't find it rude.       I'd rather someone be honest about how they want books.   The last thing I want to do is send a book someone doesn't want.    I don't care if the conditons are blunt, as long as they are clear.  Conditions are allowed on here and not all of us are gifted writers.   Just tell me what you do or do not want and I'll send the book if it meets your conditons.    The thing I think we sometimes forget is that conditions are not personal - it's just someone like us who happen to have preferences in their books. 

Date Posted: 3/10/2008 2:51 AM ET
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Date Posted: 3/10/2008 8:32 AM ET
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I thought it was clear, and I wouldn't call it rude.

Date Posted: 3/10/2008 8:38 AM ET
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I think the wording is a little more succinct than necessary, but not necessarily rude.  That first bold text line should have been sufficient really, with maybe a request that their name & address not be added to the journal.

Date Posted: 3/10/2008 8:56 AM ET
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Blunt but not rude.

And probably a reaction to someone posting their address--which I am boggled by.  I've been in BX for years and I cannot understand how anyone would think posting more than the town to which is going makes any sense.

Date Posted: 3/10/2008 8:56 AM ET
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However, if  you have taken the time to rubber stamp through the book, please keep your book

This part borders on rude, IMO. Not all book crossing books are passed along BY the people who did the original stamping. It may have been received that way. That line could be worded differently.

BUT --- I'd much rather see these few lines than a RC that says the same thing in three paragraphs!

Date Posted: 3/10/2008 9:11 AM ET
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It sounds like the person who wrote the RC's has had some bad experience with Bookcrossing.  I sense more frustration than rudeness, in the RC.

Deb

Date Posted: 3/10/2008 9:15 AM ET
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No, I've seen rude RCs - I think this person has concise and to the point RCs, and I actually even applaud her use of please and thank you.  I've seen many RCs which don't include those words.

Date Posted: 3/10/2008 9:16 AM ET
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I've been in BX for years and I cannot understand how anyone would think posting more than the town to which is going makes any sense.

I've never put someone's personal info on a BX book (at least to my knowledge). I think I've put vague descriptions like, "Sent to a PBS member in X, X" or something like that. I can't imagine putting someone's address and name in there.

I think this condition would really rub many members of BX the wrong way. For a BX member, it reads in a very accusatory tone. I think that overall it's best to decide "No BX books" or take your chances, myself. But if I wanted to write this, I'd say something like:

I will only accept BookCrossing books if they are marked with an inside-cover label only. If you mark the book as traveling on the BookCrossing site, please limit the traveling information to the state where you are sending it.

Date Posted: 3/10/2008 9:50 AM ET
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"However, if you have taken the time to rubber stamp through the book, please keep your book---it's just too distracting to try and read." I find this part irritating, abrasive and unnecessary. If just a condition is stated, so be it. Judgments of behavior, and that's what I find this sentence to be, don't belong in conditions.
Date Posted: 3/10/2008 10:49 AM ET
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I'm voting for not rude.  It's concise and to the point.   Does it need a bunch of pleases and begging?  I don't think so.  I wouldn't appreciate a bunch of stamps and such throughout the book or my info being input into some club I don't belong to either.  I don't have conditions for that and I've never received a BX book.  But this person probably has and that prompted the RCs.  I would accept those RCS w/o a problem. It's not like they went on and on.  They just stated that they don't want a BX book w/lots of stamps or their info given out.

Date Posted: 3/10/2008 11:03 AM ET
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Not rude-just clear and concise.  I thought it was actually reasonably polite. 

sara

Date Posted: 3/10/2008 11:04 AM ET
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Not rude. Clear and to the point.

Date Posted: 3/10/2008 2:19 PM ET
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However, if  you have taken the time to rubber stamp through the book, please keep your book---it's just too distracting to try and read.

 

I'm really surprised that so many people find this statement to be "concise" or "accurate" or "clear."  I can see someone thinking (but not seriously), "Well, *I* didn't rubber stamp throughout this book -- so it meets conditions." 

There are much nicer ways to say what she's trying to say.  I understand that not everyone is a gifted writer, but this lady doesn't seem to have any problem expressing herself via the written word. 

 

Date Posted: 3/10/2008 2:41 PM ET
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I do agree that line is rude.

But the RCs as a whole come down more on the blunt/frustrated side than the rude.    It would be nice if she'd rephrase that one line to be less personally aimed, I admit.

Date Posted: 3/10/2008 2:44 PM ET
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More abrasive than rude to me. Having had to contact a recipient asking that my name be removed, I can understand that condition, so the second sentence makes sense to me.

As for the first one, how about: "Bookcrossing ID info inside front cover is okay - please do not send if any other Bookcrossing markings present."?

Date Posted: 3/10/2008 2:54 PM ET
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I think it is a bit harsh, but not as rude as some conditions that I've seen.    That said, as a bookcrosser, I'd deny it.

Date Posted: 3/10/2008 4:22 PM ET
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Jane said:

"I think this condition would really rub many members of BX the wrong way. For a BX member, it reads in a very accusatory tone. I think that overall it's best to decide "No BX books" or take your chances, myself."

I can agree with that.  I think it would come off as accusatory to a BXer, and everyone else would be thinking it was fine.  I read it once and didn't see anything out of the ordinary.  I read it a second time and thought - blunt, but not rude.  This last time I looked at it, I wondered how I'd feel about it if I was a BXer.  Different thing there entirely I think.:P

Date Posted: 3/10/2008 4:49 PM ET
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As a Bookcrosser who only marks inside the cover/outside any text, I'd accept the request.

Date Posted: 3/10/2008 5:53 PM ET
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Glad to see I wasn't the only one that felt that the RC was perhaps blunt or abrasive....I do not belong to Bookcrossing but, was taken back a little by the bluntness.  I would reword it as follows....

Bookcrossing.com books that have only one sticker or stamp in the front cover are welcome, no stamps or stickers anywhere else in the book please.

Also, please do not journal my name and address on your bookcrossing.com website.

Thank you for your consideration.

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