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Subject: RIP dad---mom now in hospital
Date Posted: 6/12/2013 9:00 AM ET
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My dad went home with hospice care yesterday. I flew back to FL from visiting him in the hospital last week.   They put a hospital bed in the living room. 2 of my girls are there now with my baby sis, SIL and 2 youngest grandkids---- everyone is trying to get there to say goodbye.

He went into hospital on 3 June with congestive heart failure and early stage kidney failure........I'm sure other organ systems are shutting down too......he doesn't know names of the grandkids. But the real surprise was the stress test showed he must have had at least 3 heart attacks without anyone knowing (mom has been his caregiver for years due to mild dementia and macular degeneration that ended his ability to drive).

If you are the praying type, please pray he is comfortable as he approaches his end days.  The doctors took him off the heart meds and sent him home with just pain meds.   Thanks, Jeanne

UPDATE:  Dad passed away at home while on hospice 15 June surounded by family. Everyone got home for the funeral and I stayed with mom for a full month afterwards.  I left her 11 days ago and today she was rushed to the hospital. EMTs reported her blood sugar was very high (she had not taken any of her meds today and my sis found her drinking orange juice about to pass out). The only other thing the hospital has discovered so far is an elevated white blood cell count-- no explanation.  This will be very hard on me and my 4 siblings if mom goes downhill so quickly after losing dad so PLEASE pray for us.



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Date Posted: 6/12/2013 2:21 PM ET
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Jeanne,

My thoughts and prayers are with you and your family heart

 

Date Posted: 6/12/2013 4:26 PM ET
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Praying for your Dad's comfort and for you and your family during this difficult time heart.

Date Posted: 6/12/2013 5:54 PM ET
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Sending prayers your way.



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Date Posted: 6/13/2013 6:10 AM ET
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Praying for your family during this difficult time. heart

Date Posted: 6/14/2013 2:58 AM ET
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Date Posted: 6/14/2013 3:05 AM ET
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Praying, Jeanne ♥

Date Posted: 6/14/2013 3:26 PM ET
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Praying for you and your family.

Date Posted: 6/15/2013 2:33 AM ET
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Praying for you father and for the whole family to make his final days peaceful.

Date Posted: 6/16/2013 2:10 PM ET
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Jeanne, I read the other thread and am so sorry to hear your dad has passed. You and your family are in my thoughts. This is a difficult time and as hard as it is, remember there are people who care about you and take comfort in those around you and the memories. Be strong for your mom and take care of yourself.
Date Posted: 6/16/2013 7:53 PM ET
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Jeanne, so sorry to hear of your loss. You will be in my thoughts.

Date Posted: 6/17/2013 10:07 AM ET
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You are in my thoughts.

Date Posted: 6/17/2013 4:41 PM ET
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Praying for you Jeanne - So sorry to hear about your Dad.
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Triple post by mistake

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Subject: Praying
Date Posted: 6/22/2013 5:11 PM ET
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You and your family are in my prayers.

 

Brynne

 

Date Posted: 7/6/2013 10:41 AM ET
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Update-- Dad passed away quietly at home on 15 June with family in attendance.  We buried him in Freeport, Il on the 20th. The outpouring of support has been uplifting. Some are saying we had 200 people come through during the visitiation hours.

Megan and I have been staying with Mom ever since-- they kept the 4 bedroom family home all these years so we all could visit without having to get hotel rooms.  Don't know how mom will manage it now.

  We will be with Mom til at least 16 July helping with the "business" of death-- meeting with lawyer, taking dad's name off accounts, notifying life insurance companies, selecting a tombstone, writing thank you notes, etc.

Meg and I will slowly make our way back to Florida stopping first to see in-laws in southern IL near St Louis. Hoping to visit a couple colleges along the way as Megan will be a Senior in August and she has procrastinated about the college search.--- don't know what I'll do when she leaves in a year and we become "empty-nesters".  She has promised to leave me a "playlist" so I can be reminded of her whenever I listen to all her favorite tunes.

Date Posted: 7/6/2013 7:25 PM ET
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My prayers and thoughts are with you, your dad and your family. {Hugs}heart

Date Posted: 7/6/2013 7:45 PM ET
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Sending warm gentle thoughts for you and your family.......
Date Posted: 7/7/2013 9:44 AM ET
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I don't look at the RAOK forum too often anymore and just today read about the passing of your father. I am so very sorry and wanted to let you know that I'll keep you and your family in my thoughts and prayers.

Date Posted: 7/29/2013 4:22 PM ET
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update on mom in first post

Date Posted: 7/29/2013 9:22 PM ET
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Sending more prayers your way:)

Date Posted: 7/30/2013 1:05 PM ET
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Praying for your mother, you, and your family!

Date Posted: 8/3/2013 8:25 PM ET
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hugs

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