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Subject: Reading Interrupted
Date Posted: 3/1/2009 5:27 PM ET
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Am I the only one with a family that can't seem to let me read any decent length of time without inturruption? You'd think my 2 year-old would be the worst, but it's my husband that drives me insane about this! God forbid I even try talking to him when he is in the middle of a computer game, but he can't seem to let me read uninterrupted for more than 5 minutes at a time!

He'll be chatting at me while I'm reading then get all pissy when I haven't heard a word he's said. He calls it rude! Like he's not being rude himself (he could at least ask if I have a minute to talk)! Sometimes you're reading through some action or a love scene and you just don't want to stop in the middle to talk with your husband about his annoying boss or what's for dinner. Sheesh!

Date Posted: 3/1/2009 5:40 PM ET
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I can't get any reading done unless I'm alone in the house. Sometimes I can read while DH is watching sports. But he tends to chatter at me during the commercials.

Date Posted: 3/1/2009 5:50 PM ET
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DH works from home so I am never alone in the house :P

Date Posted: 3/1/2009 6:12 PM ET
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This sounds just like my DH.  He plays Worlds of Warcraft, and I have long since become accustomed to monosyllabic answers and talking to the back of his head, but I'm supposed to snap right out of whatever I'm reading and be a model of attentiveness whenever he has something important to say.  Ya right:P

Date Posted: 3/1/2009 6:56 PM ET
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I think my DH has built in radar.  It sense's when I'm about 25 pages from the end of the book and at that point he know's to start chatting at me.  IT NEVER FAILS!!  I'm almost to the end and he'll want to talk.  I try to be nice.  I really do.  But it grates on my nerves when he does that.  Sometimes, I'll just slam the book shut and glare at thim.  Grrrrr!!!

 

Date Posted: 3/1/2009 7:15 PM ET
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It's the same at my house (3 yr old and 7 months old), I'm not getting much reading done lately.  I'm also trying to learn a language on Rosetta Stone, so that is cutting into my time as well.  Husbands always seem to know the wrong time to strike up a conversation.  :-)  I did have an interesting conversation with my husband last night about how men in romance novels are always able to have sex multiple times in a night, ha ha.  That was funny.

Date Posted: 3/1/2009 7:22 PM ET
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Kimberly,

Was his reply to that "That's why they call it FICTION!!"? LOL

Date Posted: 3/1/2009 7:37 PM ET
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Oh the good old Slam 'n Glare! My husband is very familiar with that move :P

Date Posted: 3/1/2009 8:58 PM ET
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I know I finally get 5 minutes to sit down and my 2 year old daughter decides to sit in my lap,my 4 year old son is yelling about something and my H gets mad because I am not spending "quality time" in front of the tv with him while he watches discovery science channel. I do not care how they built some bridge in china. Do not care! I just want to find out if the rake will really reform for the bluestocking!

Date Posted: 3/1/2009 9:08 PM ET
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well I'm single but my doggies wont' leave me alone..esp the lab. I swear I was all settled into bed with Second Chance Pass by Robyn Carr(a book I was really wanting to read and one of those where when there's drama going on you don't wanna put it down..) well guess who started the play attentiongetting growl and hopping around and poking me with her nose? the lab...she starts off with teh stare..then puts her cute head on the edge of the bed..then slides it towards me an inch or so at a time..then bumps my arm..then starts wagging her tail furiously...then the growling and hopping around..geez..

Date Posted: 3/2/2009 12:44 AM ET
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Yes!  I get more reading done at work than at home!  Hubby thinks I have to give him undivided attention if he wants to talk to me WHILE he's surfing Craigs List or You Tube.

Date Posted: 3/2/2009 2:09 AM ET
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It used to be the same at my house until I bought the kindle about a month ago.

Now my DH who has read less then 10 books in our 24 years of marriage is reading everyday, on my kindle.

So I guess as long as I am downloading Star Trek books for him I can actually get some reading done when he is home.

And he was making fun of me for wanting the kindle in the first place because i have so many books already.

He was never happy with actual books but he just loves them on screen. If I'd known I would have bought a e-reader a long time ago.

My daughter came over with a book in her purse tonight. She finished all the Twilight books and has finally discovered readiing for pleasure.

Miracles do happen.

Date Posted: 3/2/2009 3:40 AM ET
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but I'm supposed to snap right out of whatever I'm reading and be a model of attentiveness whenever he has something important to say.

LOL!  i'm at my mom's, and i was laughing at this when she walked into the room, so i had to share.  hmm, that reminds us both of our husbands.  :)

DH doesn't interrupt me constantly, but i read when he watches TV.  you would think after being together this long, he would know by now that if i'm reading he has to get my attention first, and *then* talk to me.  otherwise he starts talking, and eventually i notice and go 'hmm?'

Date Posted: 3/2/2009 8:49 AM ET
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Kim described it perfectly, didn't she?

So I thought I had a good idea. I tried to get my husband interested in reading, but all that did was get him to destroy a bunch of paperbacks and one hardcover (he's really hard on books, I learned), and he rarely finished anything I gave him to read anyway. So I gave up on that, for the sake of my poor fragile books, and my sanity. I'm really protective of my books, so when he was reading with the pages and binding folded backwards I about freaked out lol. I was like, "The binding, the binding, nooooo!" My husband was looking at me like I was crazy :P

Date Posted: 3/2/2009 9:12 AM ET
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I bought one of those "Shhh, I'm reading" bookmarks - it's just a plain white plastic bookmark with that in large black type printed on it - once, and I used to hold it up at him & the kids whenever they'd interrupt me.  I think it mysteriously vanished about a week later:P

Date Posted: 3/2/2009 11:26 PM ET
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Wow, that all sounds like my hubby, except when I am reading and my 3 year old is in her room playing and the hubby is on the other couch watching tv or on the computer and says "is that book more important that talking or paying attention to me?" So I usually look up from the book prepared to have a nice little chat and say "ok, what do you want to talk about?" and he really has nothing to say! He just wants to make me stop reading...GRRRRR So I usually give him a minute to say something and if he doesn't then I just keep reading and the next time he says something I ignore him  :) lol  And if he really persists, I do the Slam 'n Glare!!! lol and then I talk about nothing so he can't enjoy his show or the computer either, until he is like, fine read your book... :)

Date Posted: 3/2/2009 11:29 PM ET
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Honestly - I think romances make them feel inferior:P  They know there's some gorgeous, ripped to the nines hunk running around in there, and it makes them feel like the lemon on a used car lot:P



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Date Posted: 3/3/2009 9:04 AM ET
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I have the same problems. My hubby even said to me once, "you are cheating on me in your mind" I told him I wasn't, that I fanisize that every guy in those books is him. I asked him "Why do you think I want to see you in a kilt?, It would give me a visual to make the fantasys better"

Date Posted: 3/3/2009 9:13 AM ET
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Maybe instead of feeling inferior our men should start reading them and take notes ;)

 

...or at least stop interrupting us!

Date Posted: 3/3/2009 10:25 AM ET
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It's funny, all of your houses sound just like mine.  I need to get one of those SHHH, I'm reading bookmarks :-) 

Date Posted: 3/3/2009 9:57 PM ET
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I love the SHHH I'm reading bookmark idea!

Not that it can do much for the kids, and I know since I too have a 2-y-o and 10-y-o that inevitably fight just when I want some peace, but I read a great quote one time from Linda Larsen, wonderful motivational speaker: "Honey, I want to give you my undivided attention, and I'm focused on this right now.  Could we talk in about 5 minutes?" Of course, that doesn't solve the problem that they interrupted you in the first place! And of course it always has to be in the middle of the steamiest scene in the book. Hmmm. Although, if he just has to interrupt me then, maybe he should suffer some consequences... >:) hehe

Date Posted: 3/3/2009 10:04 PM ET
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If anyone can figure out how to get a non-Scottish husband into a kilt, please let me know!  He says my Scottish heritage isn't enough. 

Date Posted: 3/4/2009 8:46 AM ET
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My DH's legs aren't long enough for a kilt.  Maybe one of those plaid schoolgirl mini-skirts, but then I'd be stuck with some bizarre Britney Spears mental picture and that's not how I roll:P