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Subject: reading in public
Date Posted: 9/12/2008 2:55 PM ET
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My husband totally doesn't get why it makes me uncomfortable to read a really steamy book at the gym, and I don't know how to explain it. But I know I'm not the only one.   If it makes you uncomfortable, why does it?

Date Posted: 9/12/2008 3:00 PM ET
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well I know why I'm uncomfortable reading a really steamy book in public...geez..it's a bit uncomfortably physically ya know?! :-) I watched a woman in Borders one day(when they used to have chairs around to sit and read) and I know the book she was reading and it was friggin' HOT! I don't know how she did it..I dont think she ever blinked..not once..just sat staring at the book and frantically turning pages..not sure if they others around knew but if it'd been me I'd been squirming and panting and drooling most likely...

other books it doesnt bother me. now racy covers are ab it embarrassing..

Date Posted: 9/12/2008 3:08 PM ET
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The covers are a big thing to me to. I get embarrassed just buying them sometimes.  I was reading one time on a little commuter plane and the guy sitting across the tiny aisle  kept trying to see what I was reading ( the back cover had an old school bodice ripper/fabio wannabe scene).I finally had to give up and switch to something more tame. I should have given him the stink eye and asked him what he was looking at but confrontations arn't my thing.

Date Posted: 9/12/2008 3:12 PM ET
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My husband can always tell when I'm reading a steamy scene. Let's just say that I'm a blusher and leave it at that :P

 ETA: maybe it has something to do with my religious upbringing. Girls and boys at my school wern't even allowed to play on the same side of the playground, eat at the same lunch tables, or sit next to eachother on the busses or chapel services. Pretty harsh, huh?



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Date Posted: 9/12/2008 3:14 PM ET
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My loving man, who indulges me even when he doesn't understand me, bought me a book cover on ebay. ;-) I used to have to save my least offensive looking books for the gym. I'm going to hint to Santa that I could really use a second one.

I have been so tempted to buy a "Guess What I'm Reading" t-shirt to go with the book cover, but it just seems mean. ;-)



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Date Posted: 9/12/2008 3:42 PM ET
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Well don't look at me.  I'm the one who sat there at the Firestone place reading The Lady's Tutor by Robin Schone while I was getting my tire fixed.  And this old guy who was in there waiting too kept trying to talk to me every few minutes... and I kept a straight face too:P  I had my bookcover on, thankfully.  So I didn't have to brazen it out too much.  For all he knew, it could have been anything.  There is sort of that niggly feeling like the people around you know you're sitting there reading smut:P  But I've learned to cultivate a bored, stuffy espression when I'm reading that doesn't exactly scream "she's reading smut!":P

Date Posted: 9/12/2008 3:46 PM ET
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I don't like to read a book with a bodice ripper or suggestive cover in public.  It just makes me self-concious.  I will read a romance that has a tame cover though.  I love mysteries too so that's usually what I grab if I'm going to be reading in a restaurant or auto place or somewhere public.

Date Posted: 9/12/2008 4:26 PM ET
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I will read just about anything in public...lol.  If it is really, really erotic cover, I do try to hide it somewhat.   As my kids are getting older, I do find I can't read a lot of my books around them and will have to wait until they go to bed.  I don't want to try to explain to my 6 year old what some of the covers suggest.  Good idea about the book covers...I need those for around the house.

Date Posted: 9/12/2008 4:36 PM ET
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My four year old saw one of my books and said "ew they are kissing, that makes me sick!" lol 

Date Posted: 9/12/2008 5:48 PM ET
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The covers can be embarrassing but, even more, its people's reactions.  "You read romance?" (said as if I was Typhoid Mary and had just shaken their hand)  "I wouldn't have thought that.  I mean, you seem so intelligent." 

I don't want to have to defend my reading matter to others.  I just want to find a good book and read it. 

I don't use book covers because they're a pain to take on and off.  In fact, I've got a really nice one "somewhere".  I should find it and pass it on.

Date Posted: 9/12/2008 6:29 PM ET
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The only time my son ever asked me about what I was reading, I was so grateful it was Mary Balogh!

One of these days, he will ask me what "virgin" or "mistress" means, and then I am really up the creek.

Date Posted: 9/12/2008 7:05 PM ET
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I was in Walmart w/the 5yr old I used to babysit.  We're in the book isle and she goes "ewww they're naked on the cover!".  Thew werent but the man was shirtless.  I love the covers but I wish theyd put the picture on the inside flap and put a less embarassing one on the front.  Frequently the couple on the cover is tearing eachother clothes off and then there's no sex in the book anyway. 

Date Posted: 9/12/2008 8:26 PM ET
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Jessie, I'd have asked him if he wanted me to read him the good parts.  Or shove it in front of him and point out a juicy part to him and say when I get home I'm gonna do that/beg for that from my husband.

I'll read them anywhere/everywhere.  Work is the only place where I have to watch if the cover is showing or not because I'd end up in the HR office for sexual harrassment for offending someone.

Date Posted: 9/14/2008 4:12 PM ET
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That's why those bookcovers come in so handy.  The only thing that bothers me is that I don't have one for the larger sized (I think trade paperbacks) books.  Now that I'm unemployed I won't be ordering one either.  About the only good thing about unemployment is lots more time to read ;-)

Date Posted: 9/14/2008 8:14 PM ET
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I'm trying to figure out what books to take with me on an 11 day vacation with my 2 sisters to Egypt... what can I read in public and on the plane... definitely loading up the ipod for audio books where only I see a cover! I'm sure the vacation will be wonderful but how long can I go without a book fix?

Date Posted: 9/14/2008 8:19 PM ET
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I don't care for book covers either but I do have a couple and I use them when I go on vacation or am taking a book with me to work or an appointment.  I don't like people being nosy and trying to see what I'm reading.

Date Posted: 9/14/2008 9:39 PM ET
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It really doesn't bother me at all.

 

Date Posted: 9/16/2008 10:13 AM ET
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I don't mind reading romance in public but I make all sorts of faces (snicker, laugh outright, roll my eyes, etc.) so I'm sure people could tell if I'm reading something particularly steamy. Because I know this, I try to fake this serious/concentrated look when I'm reading love scenes, LOL!

I'm terribly embarrased by the covers but thanks to Kim (who did a great cover for me, thanks Kim!), I've been able to read this trade paperback erotica book in the subway. Although this morning I was reading this D/s scene in the subway platform and when the train arrived, the only seat available was besides an older gentleman with a turban. I was like 'Oh no!'  I sat there because my commute is around an hour long but kept the book thisclose to my face to make sure the poor guy didn't read even a word by mistake - as you can imagine, the language was pretty graffic, LOL!



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Date Posted: 9/16/2008 10:24 AM ET
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Yep, I really hate the more suggestive covers and will save those for at-home reading. I do work with a ton of fellow bookworms so I will take just about anything to work although I have been embarassed when my boss wants to know what I am reading ;) Good idea about book covers. Maybe I can ask Santa for one this year.
Date Posted: 9/16/2008 10:38 AM ET
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Well, I want Jessie's DH to show me how to give the "stink eye":P  I keep a few of the bookcovers I made for myself, but I mostly use them here because of my boys.  They're teenagers and I don't worry about their delicate sensibilities, but they have to comment on pretty much everything.  You should hear them on Fabio:P  This is sort of about more than just covers though, right?  Like the content can make you uncomfortable too?  People will stare at the cheesy romance covers and smirk, but don't you sort of find that they're nosy in general about what someone around them is reading?  I've had people eyeballing all sorts of books I was reading in public and not just the romances.  I still need to make one of those "Butt Pirate" joke covers, and use it in public I think:P 

As far as what's in the book, no, I don't really feel uncomfortable reading a steamy sex scene in public.  It's not like it's showing up in neon print above my head - although every once in a while a book is so steamy, I double-check to make sure my hair isn't on fire.  Maybe I get a little self-conscious sometimes.  Some books are so visual, I get so absorbed & forget I'm reading, and when I finally do look up, I have to look around and make sure nobody else saw that:P

Date Posted: 9/16/2008 3:19 PM ET
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lol The stink eye is when when you glare/squint- out of one eye  and  lift the eyebrow  up of the other eye and tighten you lips while your at it and try to look menacing... At least that is what my husband calls that look. That is the look I give him when he is innterupting my reading (always at the good parts too)I don't care what is on the history channel can't you see I am in the middle of  cunnilingus with a ripped navy SEAL. geez

Date Posted: 9/16/2008 6:13 PM ET
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I don't think I could do all that at once.  I'd probably just look constipated:P

Date Posted: 9/17/2008 10:32 AM ET
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lmao I probably do..

Date Posted: 9/17/2008 1:03 PM ET
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That's why those bookcovers come in so handy.  The only thing that bothers me is that I don't have one for the larger sized (I think trade paperbacks) books. 

I love bookcovers. They protect the book, make it easier to handle (for me, anyway), and eliminate the embarassment factor over some of those steamy covers.  I like them so much, that I ended up making a pattern for the regular and larger size books, and giving the finished products to friends.  I wouldn't read a book without one! As for those steamy covers... LOL I wish they'd tone that down a bit.  I love a good steamy book but some of those covers make me laugh more than anything.  The positions and clothing arrangement can be just too beyond hilarious.  I think the suggestion to have the steamy bits on the inside flap is a great idea! 

-Lynn

Date Posted: 9/18/2008 3:00 PM ET
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It doesn't bother me at all.  I read anything and anywhere.  Dirty cover or not.  I keep my book with me at all times.

There is only one time that I was embarrassed, and that is when my Jewish boss came in one day on my lunch and asked me what I was reading.  Without thinking I told him Sleeping with the Boss.  My co-worker burst out laughing and to say the least he never asked again....lol.

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