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Subject: rude rc???
Date Posted: 9/27/2010 1:15 PM ET
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I am not willing to accept ex-library books or smoky or dusty or yellowed books or books that have ever been in a smoking environment currently or in the past. When in doubt, reject mailing me a book suspect because it'd be useless to me.


Recieved a request today that came along with this RC....I thought it was sort of picky but understandable until I got to the last part....which I found rude.  Oh well...I am going to reject it even though my book would meet the RC, I just worry they would find something not right with it.

Date Posted: 9/27/2010 1:18 PM ET
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I got a similar RC a couple of months ago. I wonder if it was from the same person? By the way, I also declined the request.

Date Posted: 9/27/2010 1:40 PM ET
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I've seen that one a few times. I don't take RCs personally. She's blunt (uses a lot of the previously recommended wording) and makes it clear that if its questionable she'd rather you deny it which I find to be a good way to avoid needless PMing back and forth.

If a books meets an RC I never hesitate to send it. I don't get the "well they might be picky" mentality because it doesn't matter how picky they are if the book meets the RC it meets it, there is nothing their anticipated pickiness can change about that.

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Date Posted: 9/27/2010 2:08 PM ET
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Where she says '"ever been in a smoking enviroment currently or in the past" would cause me to decline it because I cant tell if a book has "ever" been in a smoking enviroment. Also what if she says it smells even if you cant smell smoke on it? A RC flat states you will have to return the credit if the receiver isnt happy with the book. 


Date Posted: 9/27/2010 2:20 PM ET
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Not rude, and it's not directed at you, so don't take it personally. Just reject and move on.

Will she get many trades with the way it's written? Probably not, but if she wants to wait for the right book to come along, that's her right. She can spend her credit any way she wants, and it may be worth it to her to wait. If she gets impatient with being rejected, she can always ask for help on how to word it so it won't be so subjective.

Otherwise, why worry about it? Spend a couple of seconds on it, reject it, and get on with life.

A RC flat states you will have to return the credit if the receiver isnt happy with the book.

Actually, you can still say 'no refund' if you believe you obeyed the RC. Having an RC is not an automatic refund.

If an RC is subjective, but *I* believe my book meets my definition of what they're asking for, I woudln't refund the credit. If they need to be specific, that's on them. When they're subjective, they're asking me to be the judge, so they'll have to go by my decision. So I wouldn't refund in those cases.

Date Posted: 9/27/2010 2:21 PM ET
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I don't smoke

but because I can't guarantee the postman doesn't smoke or that a previous person smoked while reading the book.

I would reject that smoking rc.  I have never recevied a book that  I thought smelt of smoke  (knock on wood)

(all that could mean is that you-all have a more acute sense of smell than I do....)

Date Posted: 9/27/2010 2:22 PM ET
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I try not to read too much into the tone unless the message is blatently rude.

This one is just blunt.

I accept all RCs if I can. (I like to mail my books out).

There are people here who are not native English speakers. I find that this can sometimes be the source of some misunderstanding in PMs or RCs.

Date Posted: 9/27/2010 3:34 PM ET
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I would probably decline for the laundry list of items. It's such a run-on sentence and jumbled that I would rather not have to sort it out. And even if it was a book with no wishers that I wanted to send on, I'd have to decline because of smoky and dusty which are subjective smells that I may miss, especially dusty.

Date Posted: 9/27/2010 3:44 PM ET
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It's such a run-on sentence and jumbled that I would rather not have to sort it out.

That's my thinking as well, Amee. If I have to decode an RC, I just decline it and move on.

Date Posted: 9/27/2010 3:50 PM ET
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It is blunt and forceful but not rude in my opinon.

It is exactly the type of RC I prefer because there is no doubt what she is willing to accept.  AND she knows that she'll be rejected at times and is ok with that.  In fact, she encourges it if you are not sure.

I'd much rather get an RC with "I am not willing to accept" than one that says "I'd prefer not to have".

Please OH Please tell me what you will or will not accept not what you'd prefer!

Date Posted: 9/27/2010 4:39 PM ET
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I agree with the others who read it as blunt, but not necessarily rude.  It's definitely not an ambiguous requestor condition. 

Date Posted: 9/27/2010 4:59 PM ET
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I'd much rather get an RC with "I am not willing to accept" than one that says "I'd prefer not to have".

Please OH Please tell me what you will or will not accept not what you'd prefer!

Yes!  Please, all I ask for is clarity!

Date Posted: 9/27/2010 6:42 PM ET
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I don't find it rude at all.  Just straight forward and to the point.  I don't think she will get a lot of books with that RC though.  Unless you bought a book new and are the only one who has had it, you can have no way of knowing if it has been in a smoking home. 

My favorite RC was a recent one where she wanted "New or like new" books only.  I almost told her where she could find them - on Amazon.com.

Date Posted: 9/27/2010 6:51 PM ET
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Ditto here--I prefer being told exactly what's wanted, even if it is done bluntly, rather than a long paragraph of waffling and subjective 'would likes.' I don't think it's particularly rude...I'm guessing she has been burned a few times and knows just what she wants. I never take RCs personally, just decline those I can't meet and move on. I would decline this one simply because I don't know the history of most of my books and couldn't guarantee "never been in a smoking environment." I'm sure she's used to getting turned down a lot.


Date Posted: 9/27/2010 10:56 PM ET
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It actually made me chuckle.  The choice of words some people use cracks me up. 

"Reject sending me a book suspect because It'd be useless to me......."   All books are innocent until proven guilty!  LOL

"It'd be useless to me....."  Lining the bird cage...... starting your grill.....  wrapping up your used chewing gum.... propping up the short table leg..... replacing the Sears catalog in the bathroom.  There are SO many uses for books other than reading!

Don't flame me!  I'm kidding!

Date Posted: 9/27/2010 11:17 PM ET
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I didn't find it rude at all.  A little muddled at first, maybe, and kind of blunt, but I understood it.  I would turn it down for the smoking thing, though.  Even if I didn't smoke, most of the books on my shelf were previously owned books.  I have no way of knowing if they've ever been exposed to smoke.

Date Posted: 9/28/2010 9:20 AM ET
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Date Posted: 9/28/2010 10:42 AM ET
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Date Posted: 10/1/2010 10:59 PM ET
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I would happily accept it, but a lot of the books I give away here are ones I purchased new and didn't like the book or couldn't get into it.

Date Posted: 10/2/2010 12:48 AM ET
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"I don't send books to people whose RC is a run-on sentence."


I love it!!

Date Posted: 10/2/2010 1:17 AM ET
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 While I can see why some would not see it rude, I don't see it as nice either. I am here, in community with all of you, sharing my books, often hard cover much wanted ones when I do post books. I would just not feel right sending a loved book to someone I see as not nice.... I rather not know anything about them at all. It would not take much effort to make that RC kind.... if they can not be bothered then why should I risk sending near new book to them and having them tell me it smells even though I am know it is not been smoked around at my house.

 Heck, how am I to know if the dear sweet B&N stocking person was smoker and touched it before I got it? Or the 20 other people who might have picked it up at the store before me?

 Just too subjective and not nice enough a RC for me to risk it personally!